Decree Absolute + Financial Split

[TonyParticipant 149]

Freedom at last – ( she wouldn’t agree to seperate after 2 years, so had to wait for 5 years of seperation )

11 months after that date, I have the “Decree Absolute” and the “Financial Split” which you need as well now to stop her coming back at you decades later for more money.

Thanks for all the information on here which helped acheive this.

1. Wound down my firm ( one man band ) stopped working all together – “so no more income anymore”.

2. Last three years – Became a carer to my mum ( she’s 84 ) – I get £3000.00 a year which I give to my wife to look after our daughter.

3. Took early retirement ( 56 ) withdrew 25% cash tax free, and transfered the rest to an annuity company who pay it back ever quarter for the next 20 years ( Couldn’t be seized – can only be seen as income )

4. We have both kept what we brought to the marriage – “Financial Split” I have agreed to keep sending the £3000.00 I get for looking after my mum to her till our daughter is 16 or 21 if she goes onto university. So while my mum is alive it’s not costing me anything.

Made my money from property before I got married, and kept it after I’m divorced – but never again this could have been so much worse !!!

History
I married a Russian women who came to live in the UK. Her mother came to stay for 6 months ( 3 months before our daughter was born ) two days before my mother-in-law had to leave the UK ( Visa ended ) my wife served papers on me stopping me returning to my own house for a year.
I have not seen my daughter since she was 3 months old – too dangerous to be involved.
She may contact me when she is an adult and not under the control of her mother – but what type of a daughter she will be, being broght up by a single mother I don’t know.

[JakeParticipant 908]

your poor daughter living with such an ashole of a mother yet another kid without a father how can that be in the kids best interest.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Tony wrote:

but never again this could have been so much worse !!!

and that is a good caution for me too. I do not need that sh!t to happen to me. Thank you for telling us.

Glad you finally got free of the anchor.

[MonkParticipant 16988]

Tony wrote:

I married a Russian women who came to live in the UK. Her mother came to stay for 6 months ( 3 months before our daughter was born ) two days before my mother-in-law had to leave the UK ( Visa ended ) my wife served papers on me stopping me returning to my own house for a year.

All pre-planned.

I have not seen my daughter since she was 3 months old – too dangerous to be involved. She may contact me when she is an adult and not under the control of her mother – but what type of a daughter she will be, being brought up by a single mother I don’t know.

You don’t know – and shouldn’t care, either

There will be no fairytale ending. Treat her as dead.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Tony wrote:

the “Financial Split” which you need as well now to stop her coming back at you decades later for more money.

Until they change the law in a few years so she can come back at you for more money. Because vagina.

It is so much better to never get married in the first place.

Tony wrote:

I married a Russian women

“B-b-but foreign women are so much better than western women. Because muh whyte babbies!”
– – Said every idiot PUA on /pol/

Meanwhile, in the Real World, it’s AWALT.

There seem to be a lot of articles lately about “lonely” Russian / Latvian / Ukranian etc. women. Well all I have to say is there has to be a reason why their own men don’t want them. It’s not worth finding out what that reason might be.

Her mother came to stay for 6 months ( 3 months before our daughter was born ) two days before my mother-in-law had to leave the UK ( Visa ended ) my wife served papers on me stopping me returning to my own house for a year.

She had the whole thing planned out to the minute long before she ever even met you.

I have not seen my daughter since she was 3 months old

I think seeing a DNA test is more important.

Jake wrote:

yet another kid without a father

But there will be a constant stream of Chads moving into and out of the home, so there’s that. /sarcasm

[TonyParticipant 149]

I was asked to attend an appointment by social services ( child care ), which just happened to be at the old police station !

My wife and mother-in-law made allegations about my handling of the baby on one occasion, bet I only held her half a dozen times in the three months.

First they said I had picked her up and not supported her head, then they said I shook the baby ( didn’t wait for the last accusation ) – at that point I said to the authorites I don’t want anythng more to do with this. Lucky for me they had given three different things I had done to the baby ( differing event of what happened ).

[MonkParticipant 16988]

As you said – she is far too dangerous to be anywhere near her.

NO CONTACT.

[Branched offParticipant 10929]

Looks like you have come out of a very dangerous encounter as best as could be hoped. Congratulations sir!

Try to get a DNA test if you can.

Its easy to say it but women who export themselves to new countries and look for men there are not doing this for the first time. You do not go from being an innocent good girl to advertising yourself to western men on line or going to a new land and seeking a man. That is the work of someone with some practise in maximising her chances with men and who can say goodbye to a life easily and will look for money before character in a man. If you went to work there and met a local good girl who had no ambition to leave the country till she met you, you would probably have the same or I hope better chances than a man who met a local nice girl here -still a good chance of a problem but nothing like the risk of taking on a practised operator.

I feel for you. You have survived something nasty intact.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[Buller100Participant 2189]

You were targeted from day 1 , thats good you are finally clear of her , have good retirement.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

You could have done what I did and fought for custody and achieved 60/40. It would take decades of constant fighting. Then, when my son turned 14, his mom moved out of state with Chad and because I fought moving my son your child will miss her mother and dump you and have no contact with you.

You would be in exactly the same shoes your in now but having spent decades in court with a $300,000.00 attorney bill. I had to sell my house.

Now my son is 22 and we talk once a week and see each other once to twice a year. We have a pretty good relationship.

Having a son that I feel close with dulls the loneliness that going your own way can sometimes cause.

That is all I have to show for giving up my 30’s and 40’s and financial future to trying to have a child in my life. A phone call once a week and the hope of occasionally seeing each other.

I also care for my elderly mother, 88. Interestingly, that does not alleviate feelings of loneliness. It does make me feel like I’m doing the right thing.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[TonyParticipant 149]

I just didn’t want to “Dance to my wife’s tune”, not going to control me for the rest of my life with access to my kid.
Had no choice but to move back to my parents when I had “papers served” on me when my child was 3 months old. But it’s worked out for the best, my mum is still going out three times a week. I drop her off and then go onto the gym or golf if the weather is nice ( Don’t need to work any more ).

She owns the house so no rent, we share all the other bills, plus by me living with her if she had to go into a old peoples home at a later day ( Long Term ).
Stops them from taking half the house in carer fees, Left everything in her will for me and my brother.
My brother got divorced 5 years ago ( split assets 50/50 ), but his wife has come back for more ( Had no financial split ) getting one now.

I still drop “Red Pills” every other day to show her how modern women are, just to keep her on the straight and narrow.

[VirgilParticipant 970]

I still can’t quite wrap my head around women coming back into a guya life ten, twenty or even thirty years after the fact and feeling like they are entitled to more.

Guess when you have been told that you are entitled to everything while you are raised it could cause that. First step would be getting those blue pill f~~~s to stop calling heir daughters “princess”.

Glad you have the financial split set. Hope it holds up better than stuff like a prenup. Never know what may happen when her feelz disagree with what is written.

Hope that someday I may lead others the path I have learned. As Virgil led Dante through Hell.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

The concept of men being responsible for women for the rest of their lives after divorce is becoming a thing of the past. Most judges in the us today assume a woman can work. She might require a couple of years retraining. In most marriages alimony is awarded half a year for every year of marriage. After 10 years lifetime alimony becomes an issue but, like I said, this is changing.

If you absolutely must marry, make sure she has a job and stays in it during your marriage. It will count against you in alimony if you let her stay home.

Thanks feminism.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

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