Deception and my first online date

[MeshakParticipant 280]

It was February of 2013. Just divorced after 35 years in a marriage from hell. Go on dating sight, say hello to an attractive blonde woman who claims to be a psychologist. She lives about 60 miles from me.

Now I was new at this and should have recognized the red flag of a head and shoulders only picture. On this particular site, she listed her body size as average. A few emails exchanged and she wants to talk via phone. We talk and she sounds normal to me. She would like to go out to dinner, so on a dark Sunday evening, I drive to a quaint little restaurant to meet her.

I enter the restaurant and I look lost as I’m trying to spot her. It’s a small place with no corners to hide in. I see one blonde woman begin to scoot out of the both. Her thick top half oozed out, followed by an ass that was at least three axe handles wide. I knew I was f~~~ed, but thought I would make the best of it. We had a nice dinner and she cleaned her plate.

The topic of conversation? Bitching about her ex the whole time. At the end of the evening, she told me how much she enjoyed out time together. I shook her hand and told her it was nice to meet her.

Driving back home with the music cranked up, I’m thinking WTF was that??? She began to call and send texts. After a day or two of giving her one word replies, I ghosted her. I learned to absolutely not tolerate the following: Deception, talking about your Ex, Fat Chicks. MGTOW now and I don’t have to worry about it, but warning to those who play on dating sites. Beware.

Meshak

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Meshak wrote:

We had a nice dinner and she cleaned her plate.

That made me laugh out loud. Nice description.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 7]

Females are deceptive by nature.

In all manner, they are fake. Time is what is against the mask being removed.

The one you had dinner with most likely figured once you met her that her personality would win you over.

The online dating pool in my area has a lot of physically attrative females that are just plain ugly in all other characteristic traits.

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

Meshak wrote:

Her thick top half oozed out, followed by an ass that was at least three axe handles wide. I knew I was f~~~ed, but thought I would make the best of it. We had a nice dinner and she cleaned her plate.

I may have dated the same land whale.

Does this video remind you of her?

[joetechParticipant]

If she described her body type as average and she was that big, then I guess you know what her friends look like.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Anonymous 13]

Meshak wrote:

I learned to absolutely not tolerate the following: Deception, talking about your Ex, Fat Chicks.

I learned to absolutely not tolerate women.

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

Funny s~~~

[xenonParticipant 2007]

beware the overhead selfies. they all think that wonderful personality is going to make up for the extra hundred pounds or so. not.

[Anonymous 1]

Smoke bomb. Poof. Gone like a ninja.

[wizerSpectator 19]

Most people who online date are deceptive in their profiles.

Most women I met lied about their ages or their weight and/or posted old pictures.

And just about every woman I met told me guys do exactly the same thing.

I happen to be one of the few honest ones although was I to get back out there again I just might use a somewhat more um.. flattering picture than one I took recently but I wouldn’t fabricate the date of birth.

If you’re looking for someone to spend the next chunk of your life with, why start with a lie?

[WanderingMGTOWParticipant 288]

I had similar experiences with OLD right after my divorce. I quickly learned all about women and creating camera angles.

I learned to “next” any woman who does not have a CLEAR and recent photo showing their whole body.

As of last night I started to call them out on it if they contact me.

[wizerSpectator 19]

Won’t do any good to limit yourself to the profiles with more promising pictures, they can be from any time, a year ago or 10 years ago.

There’s really only 3 strategies that work to counteract online dating site deception.

1- Don’t waste a lot of valuable time with back and forth messages and phone calls. A couple of messages, then a phone call, then set up a first meetup.
2- Make that first meetup exactly that- a quick meetup at a coffee shop or bar for a drink. No extended dinner dates which will be costly, time consuming and probably not go anywhere. You can always extend the meetup if things click.
3- I never did much with this but nowadays its easy. Videoconferencing. If they say they can’t or they won’t then at the very least don’t expect much.

Expect deception. Be pleasantly surprised when it doesn’t happen.

[AttonParticipant]

Joey Cusack wrote:

Funny s~~~

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The boondocks is almost always dead on.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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