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Dear Friends;
I never thought I’d end up paying for access but I feel like I need some support and long-term it’s going to be worth it! I see / read a lot of help and advice on here and I’d like to tell my story:
I’m going to be 27 next month. 2 Months ago (the week after her birthday) my GF of 8 years said she wanted to talk. We met in first year of university and it took her 12months to convince me to commit. I was VERY unsure and was happy dating multiple women.
I’d never been 100% about the relationship but she always showed me ‘love’ that I’d never really received before. It was never about money or gifts (We’d split everything). She just loved spending time with me no matter what – We lived together in final year then both went back home as I refused to get a flat together after we’d both finished education. (Too much commitment)
We previously lived about an hour and a half drive from each other. I would always drive to her but she would always split petrol. Just under 2 years ago, I got a job half an hour away from her and I relocated to my own flat. I didn’t just move for her, but was actively looking for better jobs in that area.
Back to the breakup 2 months ago:
Her: There was a time when I wanted us to have everything and I would have given anything to move in with you. I feel like we’ve been together so long and nothing has happened. I feel like I’m holding you back. Maybe the spark has gone…What do you think?
I think I’ve always known we weren’t perfect together and I’ve constantly asked myself over the years what I was getting from the relationship asides from sex. I was her support system. Yes we enjoyed each others company but what else did she offer? PLUS, I was getting sick of her OBSESSION with social media and the constant ‘NEED’ to text her work / girlfriends back INSTANTLY. This would happen even when we would be chatting on the phone or out for dinner… it was horrible and in hindsight VERY rude. I pulled her up on it many times..
ANYWAY. I played it cool. I agreed with her and said it was in our best interest to split up. I wasn’t going to grovel.
She texts me every few days. Are you okay? How you doing? Have a great Xmas. I really miss you this time of year. Who you out with? New year reminds me of what we used to do. etc ETC ETC. I ignore it all except some polite ‘Happy Xmas’, ‘Happy New Year’ replies.
I’ll be honest. I REALLY struggled. It wasn’t so much the romantic relationship I missed but the companionship. I’ve always been a very private person and it takes a long time for me to let people in. There’s a part of me that feels guilty for ‘letting her down’ because I genuinely care about her. There’s also a part of me that is pleased we’ve split up because DEEP DOWN I know it was the right decision. It’s just getting used to it…
Fast forward to Friday afternoon. I basically told her to stop texting me, friends isn’t going to work and to have a great life. I need to move on.
I’ve been strong throughout all of this but I still think about her a lot. I never called or txt her because I don’t want her back but i do miss her a lot. I cut off communication because I know that’s the best thing to do. I’m keeping myself busy. I’m very active and even in 2 months my career is on the up. I know it was right…but it’s hard.
Reading through some of these posts makes me think of all the lies and BS she fed me. “I’m holding you back”, “The spark has gone” etc etc. I’m guessing she just found a ‘better’ prospect and decided to move on. The fact she still lives at home and spends 90% of her income on clothes and alcohol isn’t my problem. (She has 75k from her grandad for a house deposit when she’s ready) At least I’ve confirmed I won’t be her plan B.
Thanks for listening brothers. I needed to talk to someone.
One chance, per woman, per lifetime. That’s what I’ve learnt from you guys. I will never go back to her. But I do miss her.
Appreciate your comments.
Arcturis
Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUTMaybe the spark has gone…What do you think?
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Maybe i have been copping dick from else where for sometime now . You were just one of many . How do you think and feal about that .
Welcome bro hope you enjoy the forums .
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Welcome, Brother. I’m proud that of you. I married wife after eight years of dating. Mainly, I felt like I “owed” her. That is clearly the wrong reason. You Didn’t do that and have done both of yourselves a favor.
Based on what you wrote, I don’t know if there is a Chad. Or was. Whatever. You’ll find companions in your journey here (on this site).
Again, great move.
Anonymous3Great post & thank you.
I feel you made the right move.
Welcome!!I feel like we’ve been together so long and nothing has happened. I feel like I’m holding you back.
S~~~ test.
You were supposed to have felt guilty, reassured her and committed on the spot.
I was getting sick of her OBSESSION with social media and the constant ‘NEED’ to text her work / girlfriends back INSTANTLY. This would happen even when we would be chatting on the phone or out for dinner …
Red Flag.
She texts me every few days. Are you okay? How you doing? Have a great Xmas. I really miss you this time of year. Who you out with?
She has realised that she mishandled the situation and is checking to see if she can get back in.
The fact she still lives at home and spends 90% of her income on clothes and alcohol …
An even bigger Red Flag.
There’s also a part of me that is pleased we’ve split up because DEEP DOWN I know it was the right decision.
Definately.
Anonymous18Your missing her is your brain doing withdrawal from her attention. Soon you will ‘fall in love’ with her because the nerves of your c~~~ would need to re-condition themselves but not without appealing to your inner simp first (we all got it, no shame).
She is already getting f~~~ed by another man.
Just like a simp in all men, there is a whore in all women. She likes the new dick but attention from you especially if you show inner emotions (longing for her) would validate her sexual agency.
Cut the cord like a cold blooded psychopathic mother f~~~er. Let the emotions roll in. Don’t act on them nor spend energy keeping those emotions out.
Time is your friend.
She is your enemy.
The men on here are going to give you advice. Listen to it.
The best advice they can give is their back story.
Read it.In today’s world, I believe you did the right thing. I don’t know if she was cheating or had cheated or wanted to cheat. It’s know of my business.
A man that needs a woman isn’t a man though. You don’t need a woman. Society needs women to survive. It’ll do just fine crashing and burning without our help.Good to have you.
Why vote for a lesser evil? #ICETHEMOUT
She actually did you a favor dude. She got out when she felt the spark left. I dont know if she had already cheated or her heart was leading her somewhere else, but at least you can be grateful you didnt suffer the kind of pain many have had. Cheating, stealing, divorce.. all the s~~~ that women put men through, and especially the state getting involved in your life.
Dont think too badly of her. She actually acted very mature if you ask me. Remember, it couldve been a lot worse.
Welcome brother!
#ICETHEMOUT
#MANOUT!#ICETHEMOUT!!! #MANOUT!!! #HIDEYOURWEALTH #VAGINAISWORTHLESS
You said you’re going to be 27, and I imagine she’s probably close to you in age. Most likely, her biological click started ticking, and she realized she needs a beta wallet soon. You’re certainly not a Chad, or she would have kept you around for casual f~~~s, but you’re not a beta either, or she would’ve tried to get you to marry her (or at least impregnate her so she could sue you for child support). All in all, being neither a Chad nor a beta sounds pretty good to me. Don’t pay any attention to women over 25, because around then they start hounding you for your wallet.
As for your feels, read up on the dreaded “oneitis.” Knowledge of the nature of the disease is the first step towards recovery.
Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.
Welcome Arcturis,
If your gut knew DEEP DOWN the relationship wasnt quite right and that breaking up was the right decision then thats the case. And as others have said you are better off breaking up now than down the track.
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Her: There was a time when I wanted us to have everything
Appreciate your comments.
It was already over at that point. She just wanted you to breakup with her, so she could hide her own guilt of monkey-branching/sleeping around.
Then when her adventures on the cawk carousel failed to produce a viable replacement, she kept texting you as a backup. You are better off without that crap in your life.
Oh and welcome btw. I understand your pain at this point, but it WILL get better. I have been there. Everyone here wants to help you, you are not alone.
you never lose when a bitch walks away from you.
love is an illusion,
NOT meant to last.
.
you lucked out.
no babies ,
no child support,
no lawyer fees.
YOU my friend WON….!!!
THANK GOD she is GONE.
now you can have FREEDOM.Cut the cord like a cold blooded psychopathic mother f~~~er.
THAT ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^!
just DO IT.you never lose when a bitch walks away from you.
love is an illusion,
NOT meant to last.
.
you lucked out.
no babies ,
no child support,
no lawyer fees.
YOU my friend WON….!!!
THANK GOD she is GONE.
now you can have FREEDOM.Cut the cord like a cold blooded psychopathic mother f~~~er.
THAT ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^!
just DO IT.Yes yes yes. This!
My friend: it may hurt for a while, but YOU GOT OFF EASY!!!!
Rejoice in your freedom moving forward. Time heals all wounds.
welcome bro.
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Welcome Bro…I though I was reading a summary of my first relations~~~…LOL…
You did the right choice by cutting communication. It is going to be hell but you will be fine. In the future you will find out that she was “seeing a friend” during that rough patch. They will justify that “no spark” instead of working on the relationship…
Dont try to understand her. That is the last thing you should do. Understand that she is an adult, knows how to think and should therefore be responsible for her own decisions. Hold her up to her decisions as her responsibility. Within a year she will send feelers for you…That is the time when the decision making is hardest so prepare yourself…Goodluck brother and welcome…
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Wow, I knew I came to the right place!
She actually did you a favor dude. She got out when she felt the spark left. I dont know if she had already cheated or her heart was leading her somewhere else, but at least you can be grateful you didnt suffer the kind of pain many have had. Cheating, stealing, divorce.. all the s~~~ that women put men through, and especially the state getting involved in your life.
Dont think too badly of her. She actually acted very mature if you ask me. Remember, it couldve been a lot worse.
Welcome brother!
Totally agree and thank you. She also mentioned a few people had asked her why we hadn’t moved in / I hadn’t proposed yet. She cares too much what other people think and it got in her head. I wasn’t interested in either but don’t think I’d want to be with someone who’s influenced so easily. 🙂
You said you’re going to be 27, and I imagine she’s probably close to you in age. Most likely, her biological click started ticking, and she realized she needs a beta wallet soon. You’re certainly not a Chad, or she would have kept you around for casual f~~~s, but you’re not a beta either, or she would’ve tried to get you to marry her (or at least impregnate her so she could sue you for child support). All in all, being neither a Chad nor a beta sounds pretty good to me. Don’t pay any attention to women over 25, because around then they start hounding you for your wallet.
As for your feels, read up on the dreaded “oneitis.” Knowledge of the nature of the disease is the first step towards recovery.
Yes mate, she’d just turned 27 and her sister (22) has two kids. She doesn’t work and lives with the dad who works his ass off and earns great money to support them all. Looking back, I guess that was a big influence.
you never lose when a bitch walks away from you.
love is an illusion,
NOT meant to last.
.
you lucked out.
no babies ,
no child support,
no lawyer fees.
YOU my friend WON….!!!
THANK GOD she is GONE.
now you can have FREEDOM.This is like liberation. <3
Welcome Bro…I though I was reading a summary of my first relations~~~…LOL…
You did the right choice by cutting communication. It is going to be hell but you will be fine. In the future you will find out that she was “seeing a friend” during that rough patch. They will justify that “no spark” instead of working on the relationship…
Dont try to understand her. That is the last thing you should do. Understand that she is an adult, knows how to think and should therefore be responsible for her own decisions. Hold her up to her decisions as her responsibility. Within a year she will send feelers for you…That is the time when the decision making is hardest so prepare yourself…Goodluck brother and welcome…
Thanks NerdTunneler, I appreciate your comments. Within a year I’ll be ready. There’s things I miss, but there’s a LOT more I love about her walking away.
Time is my own again. I’m not spending on ‘date nights’. I don’t have to go to stupid events with her friends. I’m not obliged to ‘txt back’ and I can just do w/e the f~~~ I want. <3 PEACE
You’re all legends, I feel better already!
Protect Your Sovereignty. Women WILL TRY To Manipulate You. #NOCONTACT #ICETHEMOUT
Anonymous6Friend, let me tell you that you’ve done the right thing. Please stay strong and just walk away. You’ve spent a lot of time with her, and this single thing is a new deal for you. So keep trucking.
Hello A,
“MGTOW have demoted the female to a secondary consideration at best.
She’s an AFTERTHOUGHT and not a primary motivator for anything.”
Here is a link to help newcomers. You should read the books suggested on page two:
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Here is a link to help you improve YOUR Introduction:
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As others have said you did the right thing here don’t fall into the trap of hooking up for her again even for one night all it takes is one time and bam she is pregnant. She knows she screwed up she thought you would come crawling back and ask her to marry you and it back fired.
The good thing you did was to block her from phone next step is to get rid of your social media accounts if you have them delete them. She knows where you live and work she will one day show up to one of those places and beg you to take her back. She will be very convincing tell you she will let you do anything you want to her and it will be very tempting. I know because I fell into this trap don’t be stupid like me learn from my mistake it was a very bad decision.
If you shared friends she will use them too to keep tabs on you and try to get them to co-ordinate events where the two of you will end up meeting by design without your knowledge. Any friends that do this you must cut out of your life and never talk to them again. You want to know who your true friend are don’t tell them this just see who is on her side and trying to get you two back together and you know that is the friend you need to get rid of.
Finally as others of said she is already riding the c~~~ carousel and is trying to keep you in her orbit for future resource extraction because she is a parasite. You know this because your gut and mind is already telling you this and you knew you were not right for each other from the start but you put her on a pedestal. We all make that mistake glad to see you learned without getting burnt and now you are free to do as you please. Thanks for sharing your story.
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His introduction was fine are you cutting and pasting that without even reading what he wrote?
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