Dear C-Pig: It's been a while

[TaxGuyParticipant]

https://www.freep.com/story/life/advice/2018/04/05/retirement-advice-amy-dickinson/469450002/

Dear Amy: My wife of almost 40 years and I are in our early 70s. We are retired and live comfortably on two pensions and two Social Security checks. From day one, I was the one responsible for major expenses (e.g., mortgages, insurances, investments, etc.) and she had shown no interest in our finances. It’s important to note that we have no children and are debt free.

I have always been a saver and she has always been a spender. By careful saving and investing, I was able to build a nice nest egg. Last year I was able to convince her to attend a meeting with our financial adviser so she knew where our investments are in case I become disabled. This was a bad decision. She was in awe of the amount of money we have in that nest egg.

She now thinks that we are “rich.” We were both raised in working-middle-class households and I am proud of the amount we have saved for our senior years, but we are far from rich. My wife’s spending has become borderline out of control. When I question some of the frivolous expenses, her standard response is “we can afford it” or “you can’t take it with you.”

We both had a parent in long-term care so we know how expensive it can be. I’d hate to see the nest egg dwindle before we need it for SERIOUS expenses. Any suggestions on how I can handle this, short of taking legal action (that, of course, is not really an option).

HERE IS PART OF THE REPLY:

You might have erred in keeping your nest egg secret from your spouse for all these years. If you and she had worked together on your finances earlier in your lives, she might have benefited from some basic financial education and been able to curb her spending now.
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OK, seriously? This guy does all of the saving for their entire adult life while she saves nothing. Then when she finds out HOW MUCH he saved, she wants to spend that too. But somehow he is at fault for her toddler behavior at not wanted to learn about basic finances. Oh yeah and “If you and she had worked together….” Riiiiggghhhhht. You can’t force someone to work together with you. I’m guessing if he tried to get her to “work together” she would have been p~~~ed.

One more example of a guy pulling the plow all day and then a woman being ungrateful and selfish. Nothing to see here, move along.

TaxGuy’s advice: Divorce her. Let her have half. But then at least you have your half. The alternative is to be left with nothing. Remember, divorce for a man is the part where you get half your s~~~ back.

Order the good wine

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Yeah, is always our foult.

DTB. BUMP THAT BITCH.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

Remember, divorce for a man is the part where you get half your s~~~ back.

Brilliant.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

TaxGuy wrote:

TaxGuy’s advice: Divorce her. Let her have half. But then at least you have your half. The alternative is to be left with nothing. Remember, divorce for a man is the part where you get half your s~~~ back.

I have to admit, that is a novel perspective, but it does have merit.

Consider that it usually will be the case that for the husband, his money is “our money” and her money is “her money”.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Anonymous 11]

He should have moved the money into crypto currency, flown to the Philippines, faked his death, and lived happily ever after.

The little nest egg will be no mas.

Nice one, TaxGuy.

[Anonymous 42]

I’m glad I don’t have a two leg black hole!

I like being independent!

Less hassles!

I don’t have to hide anything from anyone at anytime!

Liberty to do whatever the f~~~ I want!

No thoughts of scurrying to another country to escape a f~~~ing vampire!

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

TaxGuy wrote:

Remember, divorce for a man is the part where you get half your s~~~ back.

Brilliant.

Thanks. The sad part though is that more often than not it isn’t true. I’m sure in this case she would argue that she needs more than half because statistically speaking she will outlive him. At their age, if she would outlive him by 8 years, that could be a 2:1 ratio. So she should get 2/3rds of the money.

The irony to that though is that she would end up selling the annuity and spending it all in 2-3 years and be broke while he learned to live comfortably on what was left.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 13]

“You might have erred in keeping your nest egg secret from your spouse for all these years. If you and she had worked together on your finances earlier in your lives, she might have benefited from some basic financial education and been able to curb her spending now.“
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Oh man, are you f~~~ing KIDDING ME!

There is NO WAY to curb a dumb c~~~ spending.

If she had known of the building nest egg years earlier it would never have built up. She’d have spent it into OBLIVION.

And now,

She’s gonna make up for all those years she didn’t spend it.

He’s got to get rid of this dumb bitch RIGHT NOW.

If not then he and her can enjoy a BROKE old age.

Another TRUTH lurkers is they ALL spend you into bankruptcy at ANY age.

They NEVER mature.

F~~~ that noise.

Never f~~~ing again.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

There is NO WAY to curb a dumb c~~~ spending.

TaxGuy wrote:

My wife’s spending has become borderline out of control. When I question some of the frivolous expenses, her standard response is “we can afford it” or “you can’t take it with you.”

Right Matrix. He complains about her spending AFTERWARDS. He still isn’t doing anything to stop the spending.

Order the good wine

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

TaxGuy wrote:

TaxGuy’s advice: Divorce her. Let her have half. But then at least you have your half. The alternative is to be left with nothing. Remember, divorce for a man is the part where you get half your s~~~ back.

That is as sad as it is correct.
Escaping a marriage is like a dingo chewing off it’s leg to escape a jaw trap.

That brilliant realization from TaxGuy should tell you all you need to know about marriage.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

He showed his hand and will now lose the game. Poor SOB.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

He’s got to get rid of this dumb bitch RIGHT NOW.

I love when he gets all riled up like this, I get all MGTOW gung ho and start hitting star button.

Blue Pill Hell indeed, so glad I don’t have some c~~~ in my life

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Anonymous wrote:

I’m glad I don’t have a two leg black hole!

I like being independent!

Less hassles!

I don’t have to hide anything from anyone at anytime!

Liberty to do whatever the f~~~ I want!

No thoughts of scurrying to another country to escape a f~~~ing vampire!

Seconded.

But these stories just make me sad and trigger all kinds of negative memories.

Like my father – that guy spent his life “never doing anything right”. He was always damned if he did and damned if he didn’t…

So he chose to spend his life on the couch after coming home from work each day, smoking one cigarette after another and watching TV till the sign-off test pattern late at night.
It was as if he just wasn’t there. Kind of ghosting in plain sight.

C~~~s paralyze the man.

And he was always “under electrical current” like the hate for his situation coming out of his breath and displayed in all of his reactions.

A man who gets married virtually throws his life away.

I will die over warning brothers about this torture.

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[GargamelSpectator 29101]

Anonymous wrote:

Another TRUTH lurkers is they ALL spend you into bankruptcy at ANY age.

They NEVER mature.

F~~~ that noise.

Never f~~~ing again.

They buy 80 Euro teddy bears and fur coats while giving uneatable and unhealthy foods to their offspring.

I “stole” daddy’s dumped change money at age 4 and went out to secretly buy me “good” things I could eat on the spot.
Things that my body was craving… (Not candy!!!)

Well, dairy products contain calcium and that’s why my bones are intact in spite of this neglect.

My sisters were not that “smart”. They were only bitching instead of changing anything.

Maybe my dad “knew” and dumped his coins for me to “steal”…

I go “planned” shopping since age 11 and my peers always wondered why my bag was never full of sweets nor candy.

Only my mother’s shopping cart is still (at her 92 years of age) full of chocolate, coffee and cat food… And costs twice as much.

No, I don’t need a woman for ANYTHING in life!

In July of 2018, this honey pot forum was sold out to an unidentified NPC sock puppet and troll organization. Most independent thinkers and writers migrated to other MGTOW forums as a result of the never-ending infighting and deliberate trouble starting caused by members who were given "carte blanche" by the admin to do whatever they want. Before my departure, I only left a few thousand cat pics here to comfort and ridicule the feminist owners who now run this place. Their background agenda is to make MGTOW look like a club of losers the public eye. And during the course of 2019, they actually managed to destroy almost all other MGTOW venues as well. Here is the truth about "theindependentman.org" aka "TIM" which was created as an extended workbench to further divide the community. When you register, they install a spyware Zombie cookie on your browser that does all kinds of things the user does not know of: http://www.filedropper.com/essay-on-the-removal-of-malware-cookies-used-by-tim

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

We both had a parent in long-term care so we know how expensive it can be. I’d hate to see the nest egg dwindle before we need it for SERIOUS expenses.

If the LTC facility didn’t burn up all the savings, wifey surely will burn up the rest.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

He could always use some of his savings to buy a nice fishing boat.

And forget to buy life jackets.

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