Dealing with depression

[NothingFaceParticipant 38]

Hello everyone. In my introduction I stated the fact that I was diagnosed with depression and I’m on my way to recovery. If you’re in my same situation or been there, I’d like to share some tips and tricks, some were suggested by my psychiatrist. Feel free to add more.

1:Loneliness and laziness are your worst enemies
2: wake up in the morning and ask yourself what could you do to make your day an happy day.
3:make a list of daily, weekly, monthly etc… goals
4:physical exercise is an excellent medicine
5:prescription drugs can help but they are not the solution, they can easily become addictive, talk to your doctor.
6:smile. Whether you like it or not pretending to be happy can lead you to make you happy.
7:stay away from alcohol and drugs. Setting your problems asleep won’t kill them
8:have a good and regular sleep. You can’t even imagine how important is for your mood to have a well balanced biological clock
9:and probably the most important: ALWAYS keep your mind and body busy: work, study, lift and find a good productive hobby. Doing nothing won’t solve anything.

[Anonymous 25]

The best way I’ve found is to put the focus on other people and helping them. I’m involved with a couple of charities that help men. When you’re helping other people it takes the focus off your own problems.

Also, focus on achieving goals. start small to begin with and then build up. It will give you a sense of achievement and mastery over your life. Watching comedy is good too.

And last but not least, posting fun stuff here like comments or pictures that makes fun of feminists, women and manginas. It gives us all a good laugh

[NothingFaceParticipant 38]

with loneliness I mean lack of human communication. We are social animals, communication is part of our survival. Being MGHOW must not make you a misanthrope at all, on the contrary it should make you a better man, the importance of having good friends and inspire people is a crucial concept. Leave hate and envy for salty neckbeards. We seek peace not anger.

[JasonParticipant 282]

I can personally vouch for numbers 4, 8 and 9.
During my first clinical depression (I’ve had three) I seriously considered suicide. I sat down and thought it over, whether anyone would miss me, if anyone would feel sad at my passing, etc, and I came to one conclusion: whether people would miss me or not, suicide meant giving up, it meant letting the world “win”. I decided then and there that no matter what happened, I would never let the world win, and that I would never commit suicide no matter what.
I could generously describe most of my life as “crappy”, but I have survived everything, and I will continue to do so.
The decision to never give up – that got me through everything. I would add to your list: The decision to live, no matter what.

There lies serenity in Chaos. Seek ye the eye of the hurricane.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

I found that the biggest problem with depressed people is high expectations. So number 2 and 3 are very dangeros double edged swords. You make all the plans in your head and put it all on paper, then you’re unable to complete those tasks. What next? You crash, and all the dark thoughts come rushing in. ‘You’re incompetent, useless, unable to do simple things, what’s the point’… etc.
Don’t expect anything and you’ll survive. Not only that, you might even get to thrive and be a happy and fulfilled person. On the other hand, expect too much from the world or from yourself and you will always be disappointed and end up contemplating suicide.
I say this, from the first time you think about suicide and don’t do it, every day you have on earth is a BONUS DAY. Consider yourself dead, and re-born. Even if you do nothing, even if you accomplish nothing, you get to breath, which is a lot more than a dead guy gets to do. You might start to find it funny that a ‘dead guy’ gets to walk around, talk to people, sip a coffee, watch a movie, play sports, go to the gym, go fishing or driving or climbing mountains or flying planes or what have you. This brings a smile to my face every single day.
Expect nothing and you will always be glad when you achieve something. Expect everything and you will end up sour and depressed. No wonder women depression rates are so high.

(I’m not talking without some knowledge, let’s just leave it at that…)

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

An old professor told me that one way to break the thought loops of mild depression is to temporarily change your surroundings. It sounds so simple; and it is – but it works. It will give relief.

Get away from all the usual triggers and immerse your mind in new stimulus. Also, when you take your short trip; try and make it a walking trip at several destination points. Walk a mile or two ..or more, preferably much more. If you happen to be in the city, the entire event can be a walking trip. If all you can work out with your busy life is a trip to the mall to walk; be sure to make it one that you’ve never been to before. The wonderful natural endorphins that are produced from exercise are arguably more powerful than many drugs.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

hmskl’d wrote:

to break the thought loops of mild depression is to temporarily change your surroundings. It sounds so simple; and it is – but it works. It will give relief.

And for the severe kind, change your surroundings permanently. It works most often than not.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[NothingFaceParticipant 38]

John Woods 13 wrote:

make all the plans in your head and put it all on paper, then you’re unable to complete those tasks.

Makes sense but I wouldn’t really call that a failure of your tasks, I personally believe that a real failure is not even trying.
If my today’s plan is making 10 but I managed to do only 5 it’s WAY better than 0 right?.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

NothingFace wrote:

If my today’s plan is making 10 but I managed to do only 5 it’s WAY better than 0 right?.

True, but the context was different:

NothingFace wrote:

2: wake up in the morning and ask yourself what could you do to make your day an happy day.

Not happy at the end of the day = you failed again.

Anyway, at least my experience was that making all sorts of plans only leads to disappointment. And I also think TV has a lot to do with it indirectly by showing ideal situations which people come to expect yet never get to experience leading to all sorts of feelings of being cheated by life and/or being incapable of achievement.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[DudeParticipant 13]

I never really went to a therapist, except to couple’s counseling.

But not long ago I figured that I had been depressed for a LONG time. And a long habit of heavy drinking always did its part on the equation.

1.- Yes, definitely. The universe abhors idleness. But as loneliness … re-frame as oneness, or solitude.

You got to f~~~ing become your own best friend. Happiness has to be drawn from within. Relying on external, meaning that people or things only attaches you. Limits your freedom. I’m not saying that you should never talk to anybody, anymore; just don’t depend on anybody else but yourself. Be Self Reliant.

2.- Wake up and be GRATEFUL for being alive.

3.- Definitely YES

4.-Again yes

5.-Definitely NO. Prescription drugs will only keep you numb. For years. Add booze to that combo and you’re f~~~ed.

Beware of the white coats. There’s a lot of blue pills in these world. My relationship with Western medicine ceased about three years ago.

6.-Yup

7.- Definitely.

Weed is no drug. Another blue pill.

8.-Sleeping charges batteries. Brings in energy from the universe.

9.-Indeed. Searching One’s true purpose and follow it no matter what.

End of depression 🙂

[MyselfParticipant 353]

John Woods 13 wrote:

Expect nothing and you will always be glad when you achieve something. Expect everything and you will end up sour and depressed.

Those are great words John Woods – thank you!

[MyselfParticipant 353]

During my last bout of depression there wasn’t a list of things that really brought me out of it, or allowed me to cope with it.

I was crashing hard, and I think a survival instinct kicked in. It was more like pulling the plug to drain the pool, instead of swimming to keep my head above water.

And when it hit me what I had to do, it was just kinda obvious, so I did it. Today I don’t feel like the same guy I was then, so something fundamental changed. I don’t know if I can even get depressed anymore – time will tell.

I have no idea if my experience translates to others, and I’m not sure how to communicate it. All I can say is that if something inside you tells you that you need to let something go, or that you need a change, try following that instinct. Be willing to reinvent yourself, with abandon.

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

I stumbled along the high wire & tight rope of contemplating suicide more than I care to admit…but it was a scary road I was on, while I was caught up in that. I used to live in CO., and for anyone who has driven Monarchs Pass in the winter after an ice storm there, knows it can be one hellish nerve racking drive when you are going down the step grade back towards Denver.

I had white knuckles, from gripping the steering wheel soooo tightly, pumping the breaks ever so lightly, hoping I would not lose control and slide off the ice down the side of the mountain to my death. Of course, after suicide became part of my thought process, I remember thinking about that drive, and how easy it would be to just go back there and make it be my demise.

Dude wrote:

You got to f~~~ing become your own best friend. Happiness has to be drawn from within. Relying on external, meaning that people or things only attaches you. Limits your freedom. I’m not saying that you should never talk to anybody, anymore; just don’t depend on anybody else but yourself. Be Self Reliant.

In a nutshell, this.

John Woods 13 wrote:

I say this, from the first time you think about suicide and don’t do it, every day you have on earth is a BONUS DAY. Consider yourself dead, and re-born. Even if you do nothing, even if you accomplish nothing, you get to breath, which is a lot more than a dead guy gets to do. You might start to find it funny that a ‘dead guy’ gets to walk around, talk to people, sip a coffee, watch a movie, play sports, go to the gym, go fishing or driving or climbing mountains or flying planes or what have you. This brings a smile to my face every single day.
Expect nothing and you will always be glad when you achieve something. Expect everything and you will end up sour and depressed. No wonder

not gonna try and reinvent the wheel there…just spot on.

Undertaker here…Dead man walking

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8283]

I dealt with depression from age 17 until I was 30. It was really bad between the ages of 17 and 21. I couldn’t concentrate on my school work and I kept thinking about how the world was full of injustices. I focused my mind on everything that was wrong with the world and wrote about it. I talked to a therapist for a year, and that helped a little bit. I can only tell you what worked for me ’cause everyone has a different life. My life experiences made me a stronger person. I think your psychiatrist has given you good advice: keep busy, keep healthy, and get some rest.

I have found that setting goals for myself can make my life more interesting. I often imagine having a better life than the one I have now. I write down a list of what I want daily, and I think about the steps I have to take to achieve my goals. I tell myself that each day I get closer to having the kind of life I want. If I make a mistake, or do something I regret, I evaluate the situation, learn from it, and forgive myself. Then I make a vow that I will try to do better the next day. Life is really difficult and stressful for most people. I think it’s a good idea to spend time with friends once in a while or go to a place that looks beautiful (personally, I like driving up to the mountains for some hiking), and forget about your life for one day out of the week. This helps me and I hope it helps others.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[NothingFaceParticipant 38]

Dude wrote:

5.-Definitely NO. Prescription drugs will only keep you numb. For years. Add booze to that combo and you’re f~~~ed.

My psychiatrist told me this: he is not against the use of prescription drugs yet he admits that nowadays LOTS of his colleagues rely exclusively on using them and often their method are what he calls “the barman technique”, making c~~~tails of various medications wait and see what happens… in his experience working in mental care hospitals he felt like patients were more treated like prison inmates rather than sick people, drugs were only a tool to keep them quiet. 90% of his work was about psychotherapy and telling the patient what to do.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

NothingFace wrote:

Dude wrote:

5.-Definitely NO. Prescription drugs will only keep you numb. For years. Add booze to that combo and you’re f~~~ed.

My psychiatrist told me this: he is not against the use of prescription drugs yet he admits that nowadays LOTS of his colleagues rely exclusively on using them and often their method are what he calls “the barman technique”, making c~~~tails of various medications wait and see what happens… in his experience working in mental care hospitals he felt like patients were more treated like prison inmates rather than sick people, drugs were only a tool to keep them quiet. 90% of his work was about psychotherapy and telling the patient what to do.

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