Dealing with a set-up

[ExdeathParticipant 26]

So I have this good friend with whom I used to hang out fairly often. Thing is, he’s (in my estimation) somewhere between the blue pill and red pill and he got himself a girlfriend a few months ago. Naturally, we started hanging out less. That’s not the issue, though, it’s his bulls~~~ to go through and I’m not interested in “fixing” it.

He’s going on vacation with his GF and I got invited too. I said yes, because I always wanted to visit the place. Fast forward a few weeks, I find out that one of his GF’s woman friends is coming too. Perhaps I’m assuming too much, but this stinks of a set-up.

I know nothing about this woman and I’m not the least bit interested, nothing is gonna happen. However, they probably think they’re doing me a favor and there’s gonna be an expectation that I interact with this woman to a certain degree.

Bailing is out of the question because I already said yes and I want to go. So here I am, asking for advice. How do I go about not making things awkward?

[jimbob15217Participant 491]

There’s no problem here, is there. You want to go and you’re going. In their mind, it may be a set-up; in your mind it’s not. Simple.

Enjoy the trip and have fun with these people. With two women along, you and your pal can peel off together and golf, drink beer, go to a ballgame or do whatever is on offer there without stranding the GF on her own.

If the extra girl comes on to you (which is improbable if you’re not putting out welcoming vibes) all you need to do is tell her you’re not interested.

BTW: in my opinion all of us are somewhere between blue pill and red pill.

[JVBParticipant]

If the bitch is hot then f~~~ her if you please. If she’s not do your own thing and separate yourself from the group. If you have always wanted to visit this place , then do it !!!! You don’t have to tag along with them.

Peace is > piece.

[Anonymous 0]

Exdeath wrote:

He’s going on vacation with his GF and I got invited too. I said yes, because I always wanted to visit the place. Fast forward a few weeks, I find out that one of his GF’s woman friends is coming too. Perhaps I’m assuming too much, but this stinks of a set-up.

Yeah, it stinks of a set-up. In my opinion, you would have reason to be a little p~~~ed at your friend for not warning you that this might be coming.

But putting that aside:

Once upon a time (before the weaponization of feminism) setting up a foursome like this was actually a good way for a single guy to get out and socialize with a married couple. It saved you from being a third wheel, and if the chemistry was right it could result long-term in a pleasant little social circle like in the TV show Friends or other shows of that type.

Anyway, if you don’t mind having girl-pals, then it’s not necessarily a bad thing. It can be a fun weekend socializing with a small group of people. Just keep it light, discourage any drama, and be good company but at the same time set boundaries. For example, refuse to do any deep one-on-one conversations with the other gal about personal stuff.

If you want to lay some groundwork ahead of time, you could talk to your friend, tell him you’re not against having someone else along to round out the numbers, but make it clear that you’re currently not in a place or mindset to get into a new relationship. Let him know in so many words that if it’s any kind of a set-up, nothing is going to come of it. And then hopefully your friend will pass along the word, if it needs passing along to the others. You can also use that same conversation to do what jimbob suggested: Suggest some stuff that you and your friend do together while the girls go their separate ways.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Exdeath wrote:

Bailing is out of the question because I already said yes and I want to go.

Yes. Be a man of your word. It’s not your fault they misrepresented their intentions. Make it clear to your friend that you have no desire or intent to hook up with or pay for their 4th wheel, and you will do your own thing [i.e. go your own way] while on vacation.

Enjoy the trip.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Exdeath wrote:

He’s going on vacation with his GF and I got invited too. I said yes, because I always wanted to visit the place. Fast forward a few weeks, I find out that one of his GF’s woman friends is coming too. Perhaps I’m assuming too much, but this stinks of a set-up.

Keep this in mind…
Since your friend invited you along, his girlfriend now gets to invite her girl-friend (she is keeping score).
Set-up or not, this girl-friend will probably be expecting you to pay for her vacation expenses.
If (and you should) refuse to do so, both women will then turn the vacation into a guilt trip.
Be prepared to walk away from both of these women, the vacation, and unfortunately, your friend.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Do you know a girl or guy friend that you could bring?

Diversionary tactic for peace and serenity.

Otherwise, peel away by planning you own stuff. Setup time stuff to do that requires a reservation for 1.

Good luck with the princess that needs a resource.

Peace brothers

[Anonymous 18]

Exdeath wrote:

nothing is gonna happen.

Alfred Hitchc~~~ rolls in his grave.

Exdeath wrote:

How do I go about not making things awkward?

You can start to rationalize and go simp-mode if you are shy of making things awkward.

Or just red pilled enough to tell her ‘Not interested’ directly or indirectly – either way if she has vaginal-hopes of trapping you, s~~~ will get awkward. Because women are bad at taking no for an answer.

[HermitParticipant]

If she shows interest in you, string her along for the duration of the trip to keep her happy so things won’t get awkward. Then when the trip is over, leave her in the dust.

That’s what a woman would do.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 42]

You got sucked into a double dumpling his and hers!

The last one one of those I went on a date with tried to kiss me on the lips under the mistletoe! I turned at the last second and gave her my cheek to intentionally INSULT HER after her time flirting with perfect strangers in an attempt to boost her worthless SMV!

May I suggest you do the same. ZERO TOLERANCE, ZERO BULLS~~~!

Come to think of it, that c~~~ was so full of herself that’s all she talked about without paying any attention to anyone else. I’m glad I walked away from all three of them and danced with a perfect stranger and stayed at their table instead! I wasn’t having her narcissistic princess s~~~ f~~~ing up my time I donated to the kitty, I made a withdrawal.

That cold f~~~ing turn-down turn-away still feels GOOD to this day!

I’m a cold ruthless motherf~~~er when it comes to narcissistic c~~~s!

[StealthParticipant 5330]

If you did not agree to it, you are not obliged.

You could always ask your friend directly about it.

Just relax and have fun while you’re there.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[MonkParticipant 16985]

jimbob15217 wrote:

In my opinion all of us are somewhere between blue pill and red pill.

No we are f~~~ing not.

[MonkParticipant 16985]

Exdeath wrote:

Bailing is out of the question because I already said yes and I want to go. So here I am, asking for advice. How do I go about not making things awkward?

Of course you can bail. They’ve tried to set you up. That means you owe them nothing.

It’s a set up twice over.

(1) To set up her slut friend with a wallet.
(2) To keep you occupied and to ensure that you do NOT go off with your friend and do man-stuff.

If you screw the whore … well, you’ve read the stories on here.

If you turn her down, you are looking at serious trouble from at least two, or possibly even all three of them if decides to be a White Knight.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Another approach is to hook up with your buddies gf.

I was just thinking, what would stealthy say?

Probably, f~~~ them both and their sisters!

Peace brothers

[ScarberianMPTGLParticipant 3286]

If you want to go, then go. You’ll figure it out pretty soon for sure whether or not it was a set-up. Adjust your plans(if you haven’t already) accordingly.

I, Lelouch Vi Britannia, command you, all of you, to Go Your Own Way!!

[ExdeathParticipant 26]

Thank you all very much for the valuable input.

I think it’s safe to say that we’re visiting Scotland, which is part of the top of my list of countries I want to visit and one of the main reasons I’m not willing to bail. I already have some plans with my bud to visit some of the distilleries and enjoy some fine Scotch. He’s a very smart dude and I’ve had some kind of red pill discussions with him, I just can’t seem to convince him that freedom beats everything (including women) every day.

We come from eastern Europe, which is one of the most blue pilled regions, but also safest when it comes to
women having power over men. It’s only by the grace of this community that I do not worship pussy anymore. The only thing I’m really concerned about is making this an awkward experience.

I understand that I need to have a plan in place if s~~~ turns sour. I don’t expect that it will, but it’s a very sensible thing to do. I’ll keep your advice in mind.

I’ll post an update once the entire thing reaches its conclusion for those interested.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

Sounds like a swinger type, swapping, DP set up.

Like all four of you in a hotel room.

C~~~s out n’ stuff.

[ExdeathParticipant 26]

I promised an update, so here it is: the trip was great fun and I’m really glad I didn’t bail.

As for the girl, it was surprisingly easy to be fairly distant and make it clear I’m not looking for a relationship without being explicit.

She was fairly hot in my opinion (I won’t attempt to rate, I’m bad at it) and I definitely would have banged if this were 2 years ago. But with what I know now about female nature and with how badly heavy makeup puts me off, I find it hard to be interested (even for P&D). Besides, I value my free time too much right now.

Thanks again for the input.

[MonkParticipant 16985]

Thanks. Appreciate the trouble taken to post an update.

[Anonymous 12]

You did what you set out to do, and without distraction too.

See, that’s what its all about… 🙂
Thumbs up!

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