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Ok, first off I just need to get this s~~~ off my chest. I have been doing so well for so long and this just kind of crept on me today. KeyMaster, if you want to move this or delete it altogether that’s cool. I know we should be towing the hardline MGTOW line here but sometimes a guy just has to vent.
I work a s~~~ ton of hours on the graveyard shift. Basically I work 6pm-6am, 3 and 4 nights a week. Sounds great but when your second job is to be a full time father to a 4 year old when you are not at work…well, you can see where this starts to become quite the grind. I’ve been doing this 24×7 “schedule of responsibility” for two years now. I know…cry me a river of tears then get over it. The big problem is A.) I work 12 hour shifts overnight and B.) 4 year olds are not on my night shift schedule. Now I love my son more than my own life. However, flip-flopping your sleep schedule from nights to days once every week is just a tad trying on your physical condition and your psyche. He is roaring to go as soon as he wakes up at the crack of dawn when I have him. I, on the other hand, am ready to chew on the business end of a 12 gauge since I am accustom to going to bed at the time he is getting up. Don’t worry, I’m not really gonna chew on a 12 gauge….yet.
Anyway, there is a point here to sharing this s~~~. I have been doing this merry-go-round of responsibility for 2 years now as previously stated. I’m in a career field that wasn’t necessarily my first choice but a s~~~ economy more or less put me here. To top that off, I work with and for mostly lazy incompetent f~~~s who couldn’t give 2 s~~~s about the jobs they do (it’s the public sector). So big strike number one for me. I hate my f~~~in’ job but the money is good. Then I get off my last day of work for the week, sleep about 6 hours, guzzle a pot of coffee, then proceed to get the kid handoff from the ex. Thus begins my “second job”. Don’t get me wrong guys…I absolutely LOVE my child. However, I’m f~~~in’ burned out as a mother f~~~er after 2 years of this hectic pace. SO…my child is being a complete s~~~ today demanding that I buy him s~~~ and arguing with me all day. So, I’ve had a lovely couple of days off this week! I’m ready to pack a bag and buy a plane ticket to anywhere that isn’t here! Holy f~~~ Batman! ANYWHO…to top it off the ex was wayyyy late picking him up today because she “had a meeting”. Uh huh…is that what they call it these days? F~~~ing c~~~ whore…yeah, she shows up late to my house all dolled up for God knows who. SO, I’m f~~~ing p~~~ed. I’m f~~~ing p~~~ed because it’s all good times for her every time I turn around. I get to spend 7 goddamn days a week working and/or taking care of a child. I get no time to breathe. No time to pursue my hobbies. I sure as f~~~ don’t have any time to go out and hustle a piece of ass! I see how my child acts knowing full well a lot of that has to do with not having two parents in one house. I’m still f~~~ing p~~~ed at her because she made the unilateral decision to kill the marriage because she’s an immature little c~~~ who is only focused on what she wants. To hell with the fact that she lied through her f~~~ing teeth to me and broke every promise she ever made to me. Forget the fact that she put her own selfish desires ahead of our child’s happiness. I get so sick of people saying, “Well, if you’re not getting along it’s better to go your own way for the sake of the children!” Bulls~~~! I can see infidelity and/or abuse as a legitimate need to escape. However, virtually all other circumstances are “fixable” in the interest of the “team”. Anyway, I’m just rambling….
The bottom line is my last marriage went to s~~~ because I insisted that my ex-wife be an equally responsible partner in the marriage. I insisted that she hold a job and quit getting fired for having an attitude problem. I was only asking her to do what every responsible adult with a family does. Stupid me…I had no right to expect those kind of things out of an immature narcissistic little t~~~! According to her I was “abusive” for expecting her to be an equal and responsible partner in the marriage. Now, I’m stuck being the one who has to shoulder the burden for being responsible for the both of us. I have to be that person for my child. It’s the honorable thing to do for him. That doesn’t change the fact that I’m so angry at her for creating this situation. That doesn’t change the fact that I am so angry at her utter betrayal. I WAS one of those “good guys” that would have stormed the gates of Hell for my mate. Not anymore…women don’t understand the meaning of “honor” or “integrity”. I’m f~~~ing p~~~ed…I’m f~~~ing p~~~ed at her for putting me in a position to be so p~~~ed. This has just been one of those days where all you can manage is “goddamn mother f~~~er son of a bitch f~~~ f~~~ f~~~….”. When will this nagging feeling of anger get the f~~~ out of my life for good?
Can anyone relate or am I just a wingnut?
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...I do identify. I had a serious case of burnout once — and my circumstances were a lot less stressful than yours. A lot less.
Let me recommend you check yourself for burnout symptoms. Here is a link to start with:
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/preventing-burnout.htmSociety asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?
WoW! Thanks for the link to the article RoyDal! I do a lot of interwebz reading but I have never read anything on the subject of burnout. I read through that article and I would say I am treading the borderline with one foot in “stress” and the other in “burnout”. I guess if there is and upside for me I have avoided the booze and drugs as a coping mechanism (yay! first time in my life!). I do eat sensibly and adhere to a healthy diet free of junk food and fast food. I have lost almost 40lbs. this year eating healthy. My new gym just opened it’s doors after months of construction. I am admittedly cutting in to my already limited sleep time to carve out time to exercise. I don’t know what else to do for now. I am trying to find a different job. Interestingly enough I am a “type A” and a perfectionist so a non-challenging job like I have is just like a death sentence for my intellect. If the money wasn’t so good I would opt for being a bohemian artiste! LOL!
Anyway, thanks again for the article. I guess I have a new subject to read up on! Cheers!
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...ready to chew on the business end of a 12 gauge
That expression is now stolen. I will use it at work when a client from hell pushes me to the brink.
My fuse has been made as short as yours.But delete or move it? Are you kidding. It’s getting sticky and pushed to the top.
women don’t understand the meaning of “honor” or “integrity”
Can anyone relate? I can’t count how many times I thought that (or said it ) in 2014 alone. You’re no wingnut. You’re perfectly sane.
You’re gonna think this is not related, but work with me here…..
I lost my s~~~ the other day when my Mom had a birthday. I placed an online order (over the phone) to send 12 white roses to her in another country. The next day, she thanks me with a photo of a dozen RED roses. That made me see RED I was so f~~~ing mad. In my opinion (and in the flower business) that is the f~~~ing TACKIEST mistake they could possibly make. The stupid bitch took my name, credit card numbers, phone, address, moms contact info, expiry date, emails, f~~~ing every detail about THE MONEY down with no error whatsoever, and then f~~~ed up the order in the worst possible way. Unacceptable. That’s like ordering a pizza and they bring you chinese. That’s like driving through starbucks and paying $3 for a coffee and when you’re miles away, you pop the lid and it’s f~~~ing hot chocolate.
You should see the email exchange. I swear to Christ I am gonna turn it into an article or MGTOW youtube video.
This kind of irresponsible “women in the workforce” s~~~ty service is an everyday goddam occurrence. And when I express my displeasure, I’m “abusive”. F~~~ you. No I’m not abusive. You’re a DUMB C~~~ and I’m calling you out. I get an email back within 60 seconds, and they offer me a store credit or a refund. Are you kidding me? I cursed her back. I don’t want a refund, apology or credit. You’re missing the point!!!! And now you “apologize” and offer me a consolation like you’re doing me a FAVOR? Jesus Christ. I don’t want a FAVOR from you. I paid you to do your f~~~ing JOB.
I ended the email with that.
So….. I talk to my Mom and tell her how p~~~ed and embarrassed I am. Any idea how f~~~ing LAME it is to send your mother 12 red roses? What kind of message that sends? She’s telling me to CALM DOWN and not overreact. The flowers are beautiful! It is what it is she says. This sends me over the edge. “It is what it is”. I f~~~ing hate that expression. Like we are supposed to accept something unacceptable because It is what it is. No. You will not tell me I am overreacting and I don’t care if it your Birthday. I’m not listening to you. Click. She’s my mother, but she’s also a woman. And If there is one thing about female recommendations, every single one of them is BAD for you.
I’ve been the guy who didn’t send a steak back when it was over cooked.
I’ve been the guy who drank the cold coffee anyway.
I’ve been the guy who ate tomatoes on a burger when I said hold the tomatoes.
I’ve been the guy who said “it is what it is”. Those says are now OVER.The next day, I get a call from her. The manager of the flower shop PERSONALLY drove to bring her 18 WHITE roses the size of your fist and practically got down on her knees begging for forgiveness. My Mom got 30 roses for free. And I got a full refund. A nice unforgettable loss for the company they won’t soon forget. MGTOW pays, brothers. You stay true to yourself and it rewards you. You do not accept the unacceptable. The passive acceptance of wrong-doing is not a virtue. There will be no limit to what is required to make necessary changes in your life.
It is what it is? No it f~~~ing isn’t. It’s what I SAY it is. Unacceptable.
I told her: The money is not the point. The flowers are not the point. The apology is meaningless and worthless. Don’t ever let it come to that bulls~~~ ever again. Do your goddam job or you are OUT OF BUSINESS and I will make sure of it. Thank you for the gesture and for caring enough to DO something about it… because when we stop caring, humanity is F~~~ED. It will be up to MEN to fix this s~~~ one at a time. – Sincerely Keymaster
MGTOW are changing the f~~~ing planet. Our way. One c~~~ing situation at a time.
We are not putting up with this s~~~ anymore.•••••••
OK I’m back. Can I relate? You betcha. Will it put me in an early grave? Probably. Will I suck on the business end of a 12 gauge? No goddam way. And neither will you. They will never get the satisfaction. We have a planet to save. One man at a time. Let’s get f~~~ing busy living. Not busy dying. It’s nothing compared to your grief. I don’t know what I would be capable of in your situation. But I’m guessing if the above story is any indication, Cupcake would prepare for a s~~~storm tonight. You are NOT REQUIRED to accept wrong doing peacefully or passively. It’s’ not a virtue.
Honor and integrity are values that you will insist on, at any price.
Every single time I have placed an absolute limit on something and laid down the law – regardless of consequences – I saw change. I got a whopping raise once. My salary was tripled within a 5 minute conversation… and I owned that s~~~ like Kevin Spacey in American Beauty. No amount of my labour, care, honor, loyalty was rewarded, but when I became a MGTOW scumbag asshole, I got f~~~ing PAID every time. There are huge rewards it.
Are you prepared to be relentless with these people?
You don’t have to answer that right now…If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.KeyMaster, you actually brought up a good point…I have gotten pretty aggressive in the past 2 years. I now call the bulls~~~ in any situation on the spot and put an end to it right then and there. Not to sound like a pussy but I was so f~~~ing p~~~ed tonight that I knew my best option was to not say a word, kiss and hug my son goodbye, and just walk off. I drove like a f~~~ing maniac (think I actually blew by the ex while doing 70 in a 40) to the gym and spent an hour burning off my aggression. The last thing I really want to do is substantiate any of her claims of “abusive” by actually getting the 5-0 called on me for losing my s~~~. It’s so f~~~ing hard to maintain sometimes….some people just need to be cured of their air addiction ya know?
Reminds me of an incident that happened a couple of months ago…I was approached out in public by a rather aggressive pandhandler that wasn’t happy with hearing “no!”. Told the mother f~~~er to take a hike. Dumb bastard bows up on me and gets right in my face. I reach in my car window and Mr. Ruger goes right in his face along with a few choice words of my own relating to how I will vacate his skull of all the s~~~ between his ears. Sumbitch’s eyes get big as saucers and all I hear is “I’s sorry suh!” Ugh…sometime I feel like I just have a big “f~~~ with me” sign on my back. I have always warned people to never ever mistake meekness with weakness. They are two totally different things.
Anyway, feel free to use any and all colloquialisms I may spew…consider it my meager contribution to the cause.
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...sometime I feel like I just have a big “f~~~ with me” sign on my back.
Yep.
But one day, (i don’t remember exactly when ) I went to the hardware store and bought a big billboard and some red paint with a piece of rope to hang around my neck and wear it on THE FRONT.
“PLEASE f~~~ with me. Pretty please. I f~~~ing dare you.”
… and it’s all been gravy since. I understand you tonight a lot better than you think.
Have a pleasant evening. And here’s to much better days ahead. Thanks.
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.OP i can relate, Im in almost the EXACT same situation. 3rd shift, 4 yo, f~~~ing c~~~ whore and all.
I agree, any opportunity for days and im on it! I have a decent job where I can actually afford my upcoming child support and then there’s the employment provided health insurance I have to keep on my 4yo…Im scared to death how much a job change could screw s~~~ up.
Yeah I’m actively hunting a job with normal hours. My employer is absolute s~~~ so I will likely leave them since they have a vested interest in keeping me on graveyard (they like to keep dependeable people on this shift since there is no supervision). “Graveyard” IS the keyword here…it WILL put you in a grave sooner because the human body was not intended to function nocturnally. I am far beyond the point of burnout at this juncture.
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...Soul Man: I have not seen what I will suggest mentioned, so here goes – since you are suffering severely here on this weekly regimen of yours, why not scale back until such time as you can find day work? By that I mean arrange to see your boy every 2nd or even 3rd week rather than every week? That would give time for you to have your own life and recuperate before seeing your child, which would also allow you to see him in your best state, rather than frazzled. It’s apparent you love him more than yourself but it’s also apparent you’re beginning to develop signs of severe mental and physical anguish – you need to dial back immediately before you cross a line. Even jokingly referring to gnawing on a 12 gauge is a warning sign you cannot afford to ignore, not with your son in your life. Scale back is my advice and take time for yourself or you’re going to become a martyr and that has no good ending to it.
Soul Man: I have not seen what I will suggest mentioned, so here goes – since you are suffering severely here on this weekly regimen of yours, why not scale back until such time as you can find day work? By that I mean arrange to see your boy every 2nd or even 3rd week rather than every week? That would give time for you to have your own life and recuperate before seeing your child, which would also allow you to see him in your best state, rather than frazzled. It’s apparent you love him more than yourself but it’s also apparent you’re beginning to develop signs of severe mental and physical anguish – you need to dial back immediately before you cross a line. Even jokingly referring to gnawing on a 12 gauge is a warning sign you cannot afford to ignore, not with your son in your life. Scale back is my advice and take time for yourself or you’re going to become a martyr and that has no good ending to it.
It’s all good brother. I sincerely appreciate your concern and I understand where you are coming from. That’s why we all come here. I wish more than anything that the world at large could get a glimpse in to the hearts, minds, and lives of men who have had their lives destroyed by women and the legal system. We are more than men. We are human beings. We are souls. We matter. Perhaps by the Grace of God our fellow MGTOW and aspiring filmmaker here (RayBandaku ?) will find a way to bring our issues and pain to the light of day for all to see. Maybe then the world will see we too are human beings that feel pain deeply. One can hope I suppose. But I digress…
Personally, I have started taking one day a week for myself. Sometimes I go to the movies. Sometimes I have dinner with a friend. Sometimes I just sit at home, play guitar, and chill. I have also gotten back in to the gym on a regular basis. I am also actively seeking a more agreeable work situation. As a matter of fact I am off to another state later this month to look in to another job with way more $! Yay for me!
I do get burned out. I do get p~~~ed. My own emotions catch me off guard on occasion. I do tend to have a dark sense of humor. However, I have 2 boys actually (1 is now grown) and they are going to need me around to educate them in the ways of wimmen. Now that my 18 year old is free of his crazy ass mother, I am beating it in to his head that he better watch his ass, stay single, and don’t get caught with his pecker in the wrong hoe! LOL! I wish my dad had been around to tell me this s~~~ when I was young. As for my 4 year old, he needs me as I am far more affectionate and attentive than his mother. It shows too. He gets upset when he has to go back to his mother’s house. It sucks. He needs me though and that’s a feeling that takes precedence over all else. No matter how rough things get for me personally, a smile and a hug from my little guy makes the world go away.
May God be with us all my brother…
HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...You too, Soul Man. I got a wee bit worried about that shotgun comment because I knew a guy in NJ who made similar comments to me about his failing marriage while sailing and at that time I thought he was just blowing off steam and had no ill intent. I was wrong. He attempted suicide a few months later by closing the garage door and running his car – someone rescued him in time. What he did had nothing whatsoever to what counsel I gave to him or what counsel I didn’t give to him – I have no feelings of ‘lost opportunity’ there because I gave him the best advice I knew how, and in the end whatever someone is going to do, they’re going to do. I just thought maybe in your serious pain you hadn’t thought of stepping back even further and rescuing yourself first before even being able to rescue your son.
Peace!
Hope this info helps you: Studies have proven that the worst shift work is the type that keeps changing your body’s clock. Better to work the worst constant set of hours, than to change it repeatedly. The quickest way to age the human body is to keep shifting your schedule.
Putting your kid first will never be regretted.
Some things that might help you are: full spectrum B complex, that you can get at Costco. Looking at the back label, it has high doses of ALL the B vitamins. Most other brands nowadays are completely weak in one of them. Eight – eight ounce glasses of water used to be the minimum daily, because any less than that and your liver has to pick up where your kidneys can’t do the job due to not enough water, then your energy drops.
The most effective way to utilize melatonin is once, about thirty minutes prior to the new time you want to go to sleep. It should only be used each time your bodyclock needs to be shifted. IMO go with 500MCG micrograms, because you’ll be doing it at least once a week, so thus the minimum dose. You don’t want to develop a dependancy, and high doses can cause unbelievably vivid nightmares. Maybe even half a 500mcg, because for some people, it causes them to snap awake in four hours. Valerian root may help.
IMO stay away from ambien/lunesta, but if you have to, then only at the min or half min dose, and NEVER with ANY alcohol or you’ll end up sleep walking/ sleep driving/ etc.
Stress causes the release of aldosterone, which causes adrenal fatigue, fluid edema, and calcium leeching from your bones via the joints, so take extra calcium. Calcium citrate is better absorbed than other forms of calcium.
I’m no authority, but persevere with your kid, especially when he acts up. Single mom families are not families-period. Your son needs you to be strong and enforce the boundaries that you have set with him. As a friend told me, “it’s your job to set limits, and your boy’s job to test them.” Don’t give in, he’ll thank you for it later.
"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."
greetings brother, i have my ex using a babysitter and/or a daycare center which i pay half to watch the kid so i can sleep like a human being..less money in my pocket but worth it so im in one piece while with my daughter… also at your kids age it is really ok to park em in front of a computer and get u tube going for em to click on kids stuff..lets you grab a 20 minute nap..they love it and you get a break ! im new here and dont have much free time..i kept friday nights free for myself..found a good eastern european woman 9 yrs younger than me with a girl exactly my daughters age..they consider each other sisters..and its been working out nice..if i could hit the lottery it would help tho ..good luck and breathe deep.good living is the best revenge !!!
Mr Zone said, “..found a good eastern european woman 9 yrs younger than me.” A fellow told me he’d been divorced three times. He tried to warn a young friend who claimed that he was going to bypass all the headaches by marrying a “Russian Bride”. She moved to America, got in with the Russian mafia, and six months later had half his crap. . Telling that story to a coworker of mine, he informed me that it can be done much faster. He had personnal knowledge of a guy, in the same setup with a girl from Bulgaria, except at six weeks, she falsely accused him of abuse, and now she has the same amount locked in…in just six weeks. (It locks everything while the clock ticks and there are no timeouts.) It’s a loophole that he knows as an attorney. In fairness, I know another fellow who went through a bitter divorce and then met an eastern europe girl fifteen years ago. They married and as of recently, he’s still happy.
The only guarantee is … if you don’t remarry, you won’t redivorce. It preanswers, “But you don’t want to die alone?” Yes, true, however I don’t care to repeat the process til I die alone…….and destitute. Also ref insanity quote “repeating something and expecting different results.” And, most guys at this stage go up, while females sink, know it, and try to make guys answer for their bologna.
"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."
I used to take it to heart so badly. Any rejection at all used to really boil my potatoes. Lately, though I have learned to care less. Right now, my wife keeps trying to reconcile with me. “No way.” is my response. She gave up on our marriage and told me to stop trying to connect with her (which is something I did for a long long long long time.) That was our break-up. I just did what she told me she wanted. I gave up. I fell out of love with her. Rejection and a complete lack of loyalty is what we see in her mother, and I did not marry her mother. Now she is trying to act like she never ended it and that I just misunderstood. “Sorry,” I keep telling her, “I am not bound by this marriage that you ended.” (We have no kids to worry about.)
I think that it kills her that I can stay calm about it now. Before I would get so angry, causing her to believe that my heart was still in it. Now she sees the calm, real, true me.
I guess my point is, SoulMan, keep your cool, bro. Your happiness is the most important thing here. Take care of those who mean the most to you…and that includes you. Get your mind off the heavy s~~~ just for a little while and on to something really funny. Hopefully time will take care of the rest.
BVC
Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.
Okay I relate somehow, I worked night shifts for 3 years in the past, and let me tell you something: there is a reason it is called a graveyard shift. It sucks the life out of you man! my advise: try to switch to day shifts, or look for another job. Trust me … no money is worth you sanity or health. You will be burned out all the time tired all the time angry all the time, because the lack of sleep makes you moody and difficult to control your feelings.
One of my jobs, which is 30 hours a week, is an overnight shift. I haul freight at a Home Depot from 8PM to about 6 or 6:30AM, depending on the contents of the truck that I unload and how much time I have to off-load it into my assigned department. I was assigned to Hardware/Tools because I work 16-18 hours a week in construction at my other job and I’m a hell of a lot more familiar with tools and such at that job than anything else, and my boss noticed how eager and fast I was in taking down all Hardware/Tools shipments to their respected shelves for the customers to buy them. I’m home from work at about 7AM and sleep until 1:30PM. 6 hours a day on average, Wednesdays through Fridays.
I always have the weekend off, but to me, it’s more like 36 hours off because I get home at 7AM on Saturday, and by the time I wake up and begin to get my shopping done, house cleaned, laundry, etc., half of the Saturday is already over from the start.
I’ve been at Home Depot for almost 4 months, and yet, I already feel like I’m severely burned out. “There is a reason it is called a graveyard shift. It sucks the life out of you, man!”
I couldn’t agree more. I feel like the life is being sucked out of me, but at the moment, I cannot quit this job. Not only does it ALREADY pay my rent and bills, but it pays more than any open position on day shift, and on top of all that, I got a 50-cent-an-hour pay increase after only 6 WEEKS working on the job! People do not normally get a pay raise, and ESPECIALLY NOT 50 cents an hour more just SIX F~~~ING WEEKS into a Retail job. So now I’m making even MORE money than when I was first hired. The above post I quoted says that NO money is worth my sanity and health. Yes, but being able to have my rent check cover the balance in my bank account is a great relief, and I cannot deal with the stress of going into the negative on my bank account for not being able to pay it all, and then having to spend 10 days snacking off canned goods 1 week from the expiration date because I have no money to buy anything else. The job market is tough here in my area. I’ve recently found out how lucky I am to be getting my average of 48 hours a week from TWO jobs when many people in my area simply cannot find ONE job.
But right now, I just feel so tired…even when I get a full 8 hours of sleep. I’m feeling unappreciated, I feel like I have no one to confide in anymore these days, and I feel that if I express this to my boss while trying to put a slight decrease in my workload, she’ll just think I’m being a whiny little s~~~ who doesn’t appreciate the paycheck. And it would be the WORST time for me to try to ask for a decrease in my workload just so I can get some room and time to breathe. 3 of our employees just quit because they got new jobs or transfers to another store in another position. Our freight team is now down by 50 percent.
Some of the time, I think, What am I whining about? This freight job is PART-TIME. 30 lousy hours a week at best, and only 25 on average. I work at this store 3 lousy days a week and get a full weekend off to myself, so why am I feeling burned out, overworked, and pushed to the edge? Still, I got the link to that website, and I could still use some advice.
If at all possible with multiple jobs, get to bed the exact same time, seven days a week, no exceptions. If you can achieve 8hrs sleep, SAME time, EVERY night, you’ll notice a world of difference. Set one of those sleep cycle lights to turn on a couple of minutes BEFORE your alarm clock goes off, so when you awaken from the alarm, the sleep cycle light is ALREADY shining in your face. (got this literally from an expert).
This article may help too:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/01/electric-light-sleep-circadian-rhythm-cycle_n_3332920.html
Is it possible for you to “grow” one job, while shrinking the others? Of course today it might pay to keep two lifeboats. But there is security in being the best at what you do. “Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will work for kings, not unimportant people.” King Solomon
In today’s market, you may have to move laterally to another company, let’s say, “Lowes” in order to move up to a better deal for you.
This moving laterally {SO LONG AS YOU DEPART ON GOOD TERMS WITH A LETTER OF RECOMMENDATION}, is in a way, like MGTOW………your strength is in their knowing you could walk (eg from Lowes, because you walked from home Depot). Diplomacy and self control are key, in that any idiot can say “take this job and shove it,” and there’d be accolades on his tombstone for it, ‘cept he’ll end up buried on pauper’s hill.
"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."
I am very sorry to hear this OP.
You fell for the myth of love and marriage and now you have to take full responsibility for your actions.
The ultimate level of life is when you stop needing things from other people and that includes needing a woman you had a child with to do exactly what you want from her. I know this goes against everything you have ever been told, but almost everything you have ever been told about life is a lie, starting with the myth of love between men and women.
Accept this now, or just go deeper and deeper into rage, anger and depression.
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