Conversation with wife about marriage

[MDawgDizMizzleParticipant 73]

Bit of an interesting discussion I had with the wife last night. She had planned to drop the kids off at my mother’s so that we could go out for an evening of sushi for my birthday. I had quite a few drinks and don’t remember how it came about, but kids and marriage came up. We b9th agreed that if we were to do it again, we wouldn’t get married. We both wanted kids, but we also agreed that at such a young age, it was a bad move. Then some f~~~ing women sitting next to us decides to chime in and say, “I couldn’t help but eavesdrop, I have kids myself and it does get better.” Completely ruining the heart to heart we were having AND missing our point. We both grew up in christian households and were raised to believe marriage was a must to be happy. As time went on we both realized that this was not the case. I have to say, I feel a bit relieved having that conversation. Anyways, just a story I thought I’d share.

[UntamedParticipant]

Thanks for sharing, Diz.

And you noticed how the harpie couldn’t help but “eavesdrop” and not hold back her opinion? As if you’d asked for it and it was perfectly okay to eavesdrop. It’s rude and inconsiderate, they say, but they have no problem doing it.
That’s another thing I can’t stand about weemins, they don’t seem to be able to stay the f~~~ out of other people’s business.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Puffin StuffParticipant 25019]

I didn’t grow up in a devout family but in the 1970’s when men were being shamed hard core for working too hard and not bonding with their children.  Trying to be a good person, I took this to heart, got a job that gave me freedom to come home every day at 5pm unlike my father who ran his own business and worked till 10 at night.  Back then it would lead to nightly fights with my mother that he was not parenting enough as a father when in reality he was working hard to see we lived in a good neighborhood and had the best chances to succeed in life.

What I found in reality was that my ex-wife immediately became jealous of my close relationship with my son and spent the next 18 years trying to destroy this.  My son did not turn out well yet she continues to pit me against her even when it comes to his well being.

I’m trying to set him on the straight and narrow and she undermines me at every turn.

I was raised to think that marriage and children were the most important things and that a man should be there for his kids.  Women were trained to control everything.  Especially her body/herself and the kids are an extension of that.

There is no winning.  Just go your own way and realize the wet dream of having a kid, you can’t win either way and it leads to a lot of heart ache and expense.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

You didn’t mention it, Diz, but I bet that woman was mid-30s, unmarried and has a couple “fornication trophies” to her name.  She sounds alone and bitter, and wanted to project that bitterness onto you and yours.

 

[MDawgDizMizzleParticipant 73]

BiG_Weasel wrote:

You didn’t mention it, Diz, but I bet that woman was mid-30s, unmarried and has a couple “fornication trophies” to her name. She sounds alone and bitter, and wanted to project that bitterness onto you and yours.

 

I think she was there with he4 husband or new boy toy. Frankly, I didn’t care. I listened, brushed most of it aside and that was that. It’s funny, this all happened when buddy left to go pay. My wife does that because I usually eat too much and can’t be bothered to stand at the register.

[MDawgDizMizzleParticipant 73]

Untamed wrote:

Thanks for sharing, Diz. And you noticed how the harpie couldn’t help but “eavesdrop” and not hold back her opinion? As if you’d asked for it and it was perfectly okay to eavesdrop. It’s rude and inconsiderate, they say, but they have no problem doing it. That’s another thing I can’t stand about weemins, they don’t seem to be able to stay the f~~~ out of other people’s business.

 

It’s kinda funny. The look on my wife’s face when the women cut in was unsettling. She was uncomfortable. The conversation didn’t go long. We were fairly uncomfortable and didn’t care to share our lives with other people. In some cases such as this, I feel like I struck gold. Being on the same wave feels nice. We both agreed that if it doesn’t work out or goes to s~~~, that’s it for marriage. It’s amazing how something with such tradition has been tarnished so badly over decades to the point where people run away from the thought of it.

[MDawgDizMizzleParticipant 73]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

I didn’t grow up in a devout family but in the 1970’s when men were being shamed hard core for working too hard and not bonding with their children. Trying to be a good person, I took this to heart, got a job that gave me freedom to come home every day at 5pm unlike my father who ran his own business and worked till 10 at night. Back then it would lead to nightly fights with my mother that he was not parenting enough as a father when in reality he was working hard to see we lived in a good neighborhood and had the best chances to succeed in life. What I found in reality was that my ex-wife immediately became jealous of my close relationship with my son and spent the next 18 years trying to destroy this. My son did not turn out well yet she continues to pit me against her even when it comes to his well being. I’m trying to set him on the straight and narrow and she undermines me at every turn. I was raised to think that marriage and children were the most important things and that a man should be there for his kids. Women were trained to control everything. Especially her body/herself and the kids are an extension of that. There is no winning. Just go your own way and realize the wet dream of having a kid, you can’t win either way and it leads to a lot of heart ache and expense.

That’s f~~~ing terrible. My wife’s mother did that with the kids when they were young to the point now where they lost a f~~~ ton of respect for her. A fellow co worker went through a divorce. He did everything right that society wanted. Counciling, payment, bigger rented space to house the kids as he slept on the couch. Ate PB sandwhiches ao he could take his kids to Mc Donalds. They show up after a few years of visiting and his daughter says, ” We don’t have to see you anymore.” The ex poisoned the kids. He hasn’t seen them in a decade. F~~~ing pathetic.

[felixParticipant 406]

MDawgDizMizzle wrote:

Anyways, just a story I thought I’d share.

I really sympathize with some of my married friends.  A few days ago I was over at a friends house helping them with some computer problem.  The entire time I was there, his wife would periodically launch into some cheap shot at her husband.  He was constantly having to defend himself with ‘you don’t believe that really happened..”, “No I did not say that…”  Eventually I tired of hearing her crap and responded with a “Hey, Enough”.  She gives me the ol’ Evil Eye and walks out of the room.  I am sure that is another house where I am not welcome.

more throttle ..... less brakes.....

[Anonymous 5]

Shortly after the wedding high ends, it finally hits most females how much bulls~~~ marriage really is. Most females wont admit it since they live in fantasy world and love to lie, so instead they lash out at the man. They blame him for everything because reality is not exactly like her fantasy.

The real world is devasting for females when they finally see it. Add in hormones and their lack of logic and they turn into c~~~ times ten. Men on the other hand understand life sucks a lot earlier.

[MGTOWmonkey aka No More Fucks To GiveParticipant 6635]

Another women invading a space not reserved for her,im use to it now….

Never lose sight of what brought you here.

[XSDBSParticipant 3604]

MDawgDizMizzle wrote:

The look on my wife’s face when the women cut in was unsettling. She was uncomfortable. The conversation didn’t go long.

Next time, politely say “My wife and I are having a personal conversation.  You rudely violated our privacy by eavesdropping and interrupting us with your unsolicited opinion.  We would greatly appreciate you minding your own business.”

Saying it loud enough so other people can hear it will increase it’s effectiveness.

 

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