Colleague’s stag was a colossal waste of money. Rant post.

[Anonymous 0]

My co-worker, a dude in his early 30s is getting married this weekend. Last month, he threw a stag party (only guys allowed) and to support him, my co-worker and I bought tickets. The tickets costed $90 each which is an insanely high amount to begin with. Most of the previous stags I was invited to costed anywhere from $20 to $50. But this is an Italian weddings so of course everything has to be over-the-top.

My colleague and I arrive at the stag only to be asked to pay another $40 at the door, which would allow us the “privilege” of participating in the raffle. Note that the initial $90 ticket and now this $40 at the door still did not include any actual raffle tickets. The raffle tickets costed yet another $40, which was the least amount we could buy. So basically, I was out $170 for this stag that I initially thought would cost $90. Then during the stag, we kept getting solicited for money to participate in games, etc.

The food was supposed to be buffet style but it was nothing to write home about. The food per head would have been no more than $15 at any buffet joint. Moreover, it was taken away very quickly. Most people were still hungry but wouldn’t dare say anything The drinks at the open bar were watered down so I ended up ordering Godfathers, which is a mix of whiskey and amaretto. That way, it couldn’t be watered down. I think I had about eight drinks and two or three shots.

All in all, it was a very underwhelming experience. It felt like a complete cash grab.

Fast forward to today, I ask one of my colleague what she was buying as wedding present. Apparently the groom had told her that he would prefer cash. He also told her the per plate cost is $120. It is expected for guests to cover the cost of the dinner plus throw in a few bucks. So now I have to shell out another $150.

In total, I will be out at least $320 (stag costs plus wedding costs) for this colleague’s wedding.

I only agreed to buy the ticket and attend the stag because I thought it would be nice to support my colleague and his choice, even though I’m dead-set against marriage myself. I don’t even hang out with this guy. We’re not that close. In the past, I’ve only hung out with him outside of work three times during the our annual work camping trips.

What’s bothering me about this is just how stupid I am and how I allowed myself to get sucked into this. I have no one else but myself to blame.

I make good money. I’m very careful with my money and spend it wisely. I don’t blow my money on useless things like women, expensive dates, etc. So this rather large expenditure is making me sick to my stomach. I basically just flushed the money down the toilet. For that money, I could have taken a vacation – gone to Chicago, Florida or Montreal and would have enjoyed it more than this grossfest of a wedding.

Just wanted to post this to warn everyone. If anyone of your colleagues are got engaged, start thinking of excuses not to attend their stag and wedding.

I’m not trying to compare my situation to some folks here that pay thousands of dollars each month in child support and alimony, the thought of which makes me hyperventilate.

Just having a bad day and felt like getting it off my chest.

Thanks for reading.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22595]

Anonymous wrote:

In total, I will be out at least $320 (stag costs plus wedding costs) for this colleague’s wedding.

Personally, I refuse to go to any event where I am forced to pay so I can be blamed if something goes wrote.

There was a time when it was expected for the bride, with her family and friends whom were expected to pay for the wedding. Not the groom with his family and friends.

[HermitParticipant 1121]

For her its a wedding. For him its a funeral. In sympathy to him, it’ll be the last time he sees cash flowing into his pocket instead of his wife’s.

But yes, they went over the top with their demands on the wedding guests. I would have passed.

I don't hate women. I just feel better when they're not around.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Anonymous wrote:

What’s bothering me about this is just how stupid I am and how I allowed myself to get sucked into this. I have no one else but myself to blame.

Live and learn. At least you’re not the one getting married. You can earn the money back. He has to try and get his whole life back.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[joetechParticipant]

I wouldn’t go. I’ve never paid to attend someone’s wedding. I’ll bet she’s behind the planning of not only paying to attend the wedding, but the stag party, too. What a pathetic con.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[narwhalParticipant]

Wow, never heard of a wedding wear guests have to pay to attend. Stag party, that’s understandable since it’s the best man who’s putting it on. Not unexpected to pay your way.

It’s been years for me, but bride’s family is still expected to pay, but groom’s family does more and more. Groom’s family pays for reheresal dinner. Wedding party pays for their own suits and dresses. Gifts are expected of guests.

Ok. Then do it.

[StealthParticipant 5414]

Anonymous wrote:

What’s bothering me about this is just how stupid I am and how I allowed myself to get sucked into this.

Lesson learned. Don’t do it again.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[Anonymous 13]

What a total cart load of bollocks.

And all just so he can be future divorce raped.

Like lambs to the slaughter, every time.

Lemmings going over the cliff.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

my experiences of stag dos have always been great tbh

Dublin, Amsterdam and even the ones in London have been good. Being forced to pay is annoying but I always find when you get a big group together and have a load of booze then you can always have a good time

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