Close friends turn out to be feminists….

[BenziesSpectator 1]

Recently encountered a problem with a couple of my close friends commenting on a mgtow post of my fb wall and just belittling it with, quite frankly, generic jargon. I found out that one of their girlfriends is a big time feminist so he’s kind of swayed. The other just takes for granted women’s entitlement. I would still like to maintain a friendship with them as this aside we get along and the last thing I want to do is preach, glad to respond to anything they ask of my beliefs with logic but can’t help but feel the relationships are different now. Any tips, personal experience or advice on how to rise above this

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

In my experience if you just drop it and don’t mention these things anymore they will love it and drop right back to being friends. People don’t like their reality tested but are happy to self delude themselves again as long as their not being prodded with a stick.

Sometimes going you own way means you shouldn’t give a s~~~ what anybody thinks so keep your thoughts to yourself like in many other areas of life.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Anonymous 14]

I’m going to tell you what I did but it ultimately up to you how you choose to deal with such people in your life. The one part of Going Your OWN Way.

I don’t know I you heard of the high profile rape incident that happened in New Delhi back in 2012. It was a shocking incident but the public reaction was even more shocking. The was a vile wave of man hatred everywhere. Womens groups and celebs calling out for castration for anyone accused of rape, no trail necessary. On Facebook I had friends who posted pics of a gory public execution of a rapist in Lebanon with hash tags #THISISWHATSHOULDHAPPENTOARAPIST. I protested about this saying how can you judge someone for a brutal act when you yourself are condoning another. I got all the flak. Some called me a rape apologist, some male chauvinist pig, others patriarchal misogynist etc.

Now these guys were all very close friends whom I’ve known for years. It just took a slight influence of feminist to turn them into my worst enemies. Then I though, these guys are lost. There is absolutely nothing I can do to change them. There is no real cure for a tumor except a surgery. So I decided to remove all those tumors from my life. Unfriended nearly 250+ people that night. Now I’m down to just 15 guys some of whom even if are blue pilled can’t help concurring to some of the MGTOW posts I make there. I just basically use Fb as a news media for updates so it doesn’t bother me.

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

I think that the longer you go your own way the harder it will be to maintain those friendships. How much fun is it to hang out with a bunch of people where you have to watch what you say? Now I’m not saying drop them like they’re hot, but this will come up again…. and again, and again. Real friends let you be YOU, not what they want you to be.

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[MadmaliParticipant 36]

I’am with smitty and triks though I try hard to foster and maintain friendships with people who don’t see the world the way I do attempts at mobbing behavior (Google it that’s what happened to you) are out of bounds and will get your ass voted out of the mad ali circle.

[BenziesSpectator 1]

Thanks guys, I really appreciate the feedback 🙂 still undecided so I won’t do anything drastic but I’ll give it time, go my own way and let them show their true colours…. either way I’ve realised what true friends they are/were and not devalued myself.

 

Thanks again people 🙂 🙂

[Anonymous 5]

I deleted facebook, twitter etc. Social media is horrible. I came to the conclusion that I only talked to maybe 3 people out of 300+ I had on my list. What is the point? If friends/family want to talk to me, I am a phone call away. I feel 100 times better not having facebook or any of those bulls~~~ sites. It is a waste of time. Plus I couldn’t stand the constant annoying updates from most of the women on there. It was constant pictures of babies and slogans about living life to the fullest blah blah. Not to mention the constant pro feminism posts which made me cringe.

[RoyDalParticipant]

I take the passive resistance approach. I stick to my position. I don’t rub it in, but I don’t back down either. They’ll decide if they want to be around me or not.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[OliParticipant 33]

As MrPops mentionned, get rid of your Facebook account. I was only 20 when I got rid of mine in 2012 despite all the pressure from my peers. I realised that not only was I wasting a tremendous amount of time reading/looking at things I didn’t care about, but that there was not benefits in boosting other people’s egos, mostly women, in being forced to like their pictures and what not,

When I made this account last night, I was scratching my head as to why anyone would want to link their forums account to a facebook/twitter/google profile. Online social platforms are the last place you want to share information that might be seen as ‘radical’… especially if it doesn’t fit the female agenda. It kinda sucks to be honest, because social medias are a great way to quickly spread an idea. There’s always someone out there on your friendlist who’s bored to death and just waiting for something interesting to pop on his screen. And considering that this movement is using an acronym instead of something <span style=”line-height: 1.5;”>horribly generic</span><span style=”line-height: 1.5;”> like Men Rights Activism, you can bet that it’ll pique the curiosity of younger generations like me. </span>

If you want to talk about it with your male friends, you might aswell do it in private. Otherwise, expect to receive some backslash from the female keyboard warriors and their army of whiteknights. One day we’ll get to shout from rooftops but I don’t think that time has come yet, sadly.

[zyo81Participant 84]

I agree that maintaining friendships with feminists and such is harder with time.  I still maintain a facebook as most of my family is hundreds of miles away and some of my best friends moved out of state.  But my friends list keeps getting shorter.  I generally try  to not discuss politics with people that I know have differing opinions that Im friends with or I work with as it will just cause contention.  However eventually they will be the ones that bring up their feminist and/or liberal views to provoke me into an argument.  I use facts, they hurl insults, I walk away out of disgust, they claim they won, rinse repeat.  After a while I just get disgusted and tired of people.  I don’t hate them, it just gets to the point that I realize that I’m dreading seeing them in real life.  It becomes a chore.  Once that happens there’s no point in keeping them on social media, I generally don’t have anyone on my facebook that I don’t see in real life.

[sharkieUKParticipant 1]

Isn’t there something distasteful about maintaining friendships with people who would be the first to throw you into the ovens if it came down to the crunch? You know the type who smile and laugh but align to political or social power instantly with no regard to principles of equity or justice. Psychopaths who have no inner moral compass except expediency. The problem is this describes at <span style=”line-height: 1.5;”>last ninety percent of people, including many self described MGTOW I imagine. Going your own way means just that for me. Maybe in business I compromise and am not proud of that but at least in private affairs I try to maintain some standards. </span>

[GoneGaltParticipant 361]

I’m in total agreement with the posters who mentioned this above: drop your social media accounts. They are one of the biggest time wasters you will ever know, and worse they’re not even real, in the sense of human contact. I’d also never give out your cell phone number, or at least refuse to respond to text messages, as that’s another huge waste of time, a lot of it spent trying to determine the subtext of the text message itself, examining the emoticons to parse the meaning from the words. If someone wants to talk to me, call me. If a relative wants to tell me about some great event, call me. All this digital s~~~ does is further isolate people and allow them to withdraw from human contact. You can withdraw just by turning off your phone’s ringer, not taking messages and putting a sign on your door that says ‘DON’T YOU F~~~ING DARE KNOCK! GO AWAY!”. Problem solved. The phone doesn’t exist for their convenience, it exists for yours.

If someone were to give me a hard time about MGTOW, my solution is simple: depending on who they are, I would simply stop talking to them or at minimum drop the subject. If they bring it up again, tell them you’re not interested in discussing it. If they persist because they’re assholes, get up politely and leave. In life you’ll always run up against this problem when the issue of religion and politics are raised – you learn when it’s cool to get down to the nitty gritty and when you should just shut the f~~~ up (like at work). Same with MGTOW because it is definitely a polarizing issue.

 

[TheBardParticipant 974]

I would say the more feminist a friend is then the harder it is going to be to be friends with them as a MGTOW. I say see how they react to anything anti feminist or pro MGTOW you say. If they can deal with it then you can probably still be friends or easily around them.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I just deactivated my Facebook about 8 hours ago, and I feel fantastic.  No more reading news articles making fun of men getting their privates bit off by women, no more “don’t judge her because she killed her children, where was the dad in all this?” nonsense, no more hearing from my mother about how “anti-woman” I am for calling women out on comment boards for what they are, no more worrying about anyone else’s lives but mine!

[FangParticipant 102]

Got rid of Facebook in 2012 and haven’t regretted it a day. If you have a business it can be a big plus but only if you restrict your friends to people who make you money. As for using it to sway political opinions good luck.

As for your “friends” I wouldn’t breach the subject again if you’re determined to keep them. But bear in mind that it’s only a  matter of time before one of them resurrects the topic, or worse yet one of their girlfriends will raise the topic in your presence. Better have a contingency plan.

As for me if I had to guard my words or withhold my heartfelt convictions and opinions for fear of offending or alienating a so-called “friend”…well, time to meet some new people.

[John DoeParticipant 743]

How “close” of friends are they if you “just found out” they are feminists?

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Women can go a long time without spewing their political nonsense before it finally surfaces.  I’ve had a few women I was close to only “come out” as feminists way later down the road.  By that point, they were unbearable.

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