Close, but no cigar.

[AWOL NRGParticipant 13]

I joined this site years ago and am only now introducing myself. In January 2017 I embarked on what was supposed to be a year long motorcycle trip all over the US after selling almost everything I owned and quitting my job in Phoenix. Ten months into my journey the woman that I had been dating on and off for four years told me that she was pregnant with my child. I did the honorable thing and quit my trip early and got a job working for a company that I told myself that I would never work for in a state I hate (so I could give my son a good life). The pay and benefits at my new job are great, but I dread going to work everyday. The work is easy but management is terrible. Three months after my son was born I found out through a paternity test that he was NOT my kid. I cut all ties from my ex and finally decided to get a vasectomy. At 30 years old I was so close to never being tied to a woman or having kids. The day of my vasectomy consultation my new girlfriend called me to tell me that she was pregnant, but this kid was actually mine. When it rains it pours. I still got fixed and now I’m a proud father of a very healthy baby boy. I hate the situation I’m in, but I don’t regret son. I’m in the best relationship I’ve ever had but there’s no way I’m getting married. I’ve been burned too many times to ever trust a woman. Now the motorcycle is gone and the dream of traveling is crushed. That’s the short version of my story and I hope it can be a lesson to all MGTOW men. Don’t have kids and don’t get married; stay FREE!

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Welcome
Yeah those 3 rules (don’t marry, cohabitate or have unplanned kids) seem trivial until they stop your whole world and change your life.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[AutoliteParticipant]

AWOL NRG wrote:

Don’t have kids and don’t get married; stay FREE!

I never had kids. I’ve never been married. Some here on this forum call that being ‘selfish’…

[StealthParticipant 5330]

Welcome, AWOL. Damn—what timing.
My dreams were also cut by marriage—and they were right in front of me. Will I ever stop kicking myself? It is best to go forward. I like the Chinese proverb, “The best time to get a vasectomy was twenty years ago, but the second best time is now.”

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[AWOL NRGParticipant 13]

Unfortunately we do live together, I want to see my son as much as I can. She stays at home and takes care of my son but never seems to have the time to clean or cook. I end up doing most of the chores after my full-time job.

[AWOL NRGParticipant 13]

That’s not being selfish, that’s understanding that your happiness is your responsibility. Take care of your self first before helping others, that’s why you put on your oxygen mask first on an airplane.

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

AWOL NRG wrote:

Unfortunately She stays at home and takes care of my son but never seems to have the time to clean or cook. I end up doing most of the chores after my full-time job.

I was in this EXACT situation over 20 years ago. It ended disastrously. Your’s will probably not end well.

Already you must be incredibly resentful for having to do ALL the work. Resentment will become anger, anger will become rage and rage will become conflict.

Looking after a kid without cooking or cleaning is f~~~ing EASY. She is on social media and new c~~~ is INEVITABLE. Again, I was in the exact same situation. I tried to make it work but she cheated and we broke up.

We raised our son through shared custody. I got to see him a lot, I was lucky. He is 22 now and we are best mates.

If you can GTFO early while still seeing your child, I would strongly advise it. I have been a happy single MGTOW since 1999. No relationship since her, never looked back.

Good luck, brother.

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

Man. This is good to hear. Enjoy as much time with your son as you can. And GET HIM POWERWHEELS!! They even make a Harley Davidson model!

So who is taking care of the first kid? How is that working out? That must be a Bummer for the other kid as he grows up. Man. This is the stuff no one ever talks about from a man’s perspective or a kids.

I’m just glad things are going smooth. Never give up your Lead in life. And NEVER take second fiddle to anything. You save your money, and you get ready for when you need to launch and EJECT if you get any bad vibes.

And never let yourself be vulnerable. The second she feels she can control you is the second the s~~~ starts hitting the fan.

Be well. AND Kick ass in life!

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Max Power wrote:

If you can GTFO early while still seeing your child, I would strongly advise it.

Staying in a bad relationship too long is wasted years when the only thing you are putting off is the inevitable.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[MonkParticipant 16984]

AWOL NRG wrote:

The day of my vasectomy consultation my new girlfriend called me to tell me that she was pregnant, but this kid was actually mine.

No accident – she knew that a vasectomy was in the offing.

She stays at home and takes care of my son but never seems to have the time to clean or cook. I end up doing most of the chores after my full-time job.

The writing is on the wall. Start hiding assets and preparing your exit.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Monk wrote:

No accident – she knew that a vasectomy was in the offing.

Not to be mean. The day you mentioned vasectomy was the day contraception stopped. We here have seen it too many times.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

Stealth wrote:

“The best time to get a vasectomy was twenty years ago, but the second best time is now.”

Coulda sworn that was about planting a tree, but I like yours better.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

You may not want to hear this, but you gotta know that things aren’t going to “work themselves out” with your baby mama.
Are you absolutely positive it’s yours?
Either way, you are not likely to see much of your son once she decides she doesn’t want you around.
It would be best for you to escape now, while you are able to without her getting the courts, police etc., involved in your life.
It might seem unlikely now, but go ahead and wait to see what happens…….

[Author]

Posts