Celibacy. Struggling.

[MrBurnsParticipant 83]

A few months ago I decided to go fully celibate. I have many many reasons for it, some are based on MGTOW, others on buddhism, others are plain old pragmatism.

It’s tough though. Sex has been a huge part of my life for the last few years, whether you call it a habit or an addiction. For a long time, random sex is where I got my happiness from. Oh sure, I know happiness comes from within, and if I apply myself to thinking about it, I can make myself happy.

But the urge is always there, like a noise buzzing in the background. Sometimes it gets so loud I can’t think about anything else. Especially in the springtime. I’ve fallen a lot, but I keep trying.

This week I found a skinny little 18 year old online and she agreed to come over for casual sex yesterday.

The whole day leading up to it I had this sense of dread. I wanted her c~~~ so bad, but I’m so f~~~ing tired of the consequences. It felt like I was relapsing into some drug addiction.

I ended up planning out a bunch of stuff I need to do for my business and was like “I can either spend the whole day f~~~ing, and accomplish nothing… or spend 30 minutes f~~~ing my fleshlight, and accomplish all this other stuff too.”

I cancelled 3 hours before she came over.

What’s interesting is that I felt absolutely no internal tension after I cancelled. It was all leading up to it, making the choice. Afterward it was nothing but relief.

Got a lot of s~~~ done, too!

[UntamedParticipant]

A wise choice, Aaron. A day of f~~~ing isn’t worth all the stuff you can get done. There’s no better sentiment but when you look up and conclude your work is done. 30mins is just about the right amount of time a t~~~ deserves for a day. More than that and you’re working against yourself.
Cheers!

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[OgreParticipant 5863]

It’s chemical compulsion. Do you feel bad about taking a s~~~ or a p~~~? I’ll bet you answered no.

Now your Buddhism is in conflict with this need for attachment. There’s a reason that it takes a lifetime to reach perfect. That fat happy Buddha that is always associated with the practice is actually the decadent Prince BEFORE he discovered the way to peace. A hell of a lot of people don’t get that. He fed every type of gluttony prior to his learning the Way and that’s the fat, happy, ignorant Buddha that everybody thinks of.

Overall, you aren’t going to die or even screw up your path by being a faulty human every once in a while, but when you rationalize it against all that you accomplished yesterday by placing your mind’s priorities higher than your body’s you were a huge winner.

Let go of the negative feelings that you have toward sex, it’s designed into us to continue the species. You being a man in possession of mental faculties, goals, and morals will subjugate those physical needs when you decide that those things are more important than temporary physical pleasure.

Even the Fleshlight doesn’t fit into standard or Tibetan Buddhism, but do what you need to make it to your goals with the minimum deviation. MGTOW, Buddhism, even celibacy isn’t required to live the life you want to ultimately live. Don’t grade yourself on a scale like a teacher would, look at the arc of your life and as long as you are progressing you are winning.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

The more you try and will yourself the easier it will become.

Doing loads of stuff really helps. Fill your time.

As has been said ….. it’s just chemicals. Love, lust and all other emotions.

Pick and choose your chemical highs.

You’re on a good path.

[SpacemonkeyParticipant 1481]

MrBurns wrote:

What’s interesting is that I felt absolutely no internal tension after I cancelled. It was all leading up to it, making the choice. Afterward it was nothing but relief.

You know what that feeling of relief is telling you, Aaron? It’s telling you that you made the right decision. This time you made it 3 hours before she was due to arrive, next time make the decision before you commit to meeting her, the time after that make the decision before you look at her profile, and the time after that make the decision before you even go onto the website. There are always many times in life to make the right choice, many different forks in the road to take one path or the other. If you start to take the right path sooner than later, the more of your life will be a calm and pleasant journey.

“Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”

[JosephParticipant 125]

I came to this post with a little stupid lecturer hat on the way to give you a couple of tricks to score with women. Then I realized that you do not need any of that because you are well above me on that area.

Your resolution is so simple, so clean, so right, that you have made me question my own lifestyle of sexual debauchery (not porn, but women) that has eaten so much of my time that I could dedicate fully to explore my flow of good ideas.

So now I take off my stupid lecturer hat, and wear the humble student one. Sensei, you are indeed a master, and you are showing us the path of the righteous.

Thanks so much for sharing this with us.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

I think it passes with time, man. Humans are hard coded to eat, sleep, drink and f~~~. Just part of all biology. Give it time, or just jack off. That works too.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[OldBillParticipant]

Aaron, like Joseph, I too opened this thread with the intention of making a post about MGTOW and celibacy. After I read your initial post, I realized you needed no advice at all.

You struggled, Aaron, but you also won. In the end, you faced down your irrational desires.

Your self-awareness, your self-control, and your honesty mean you’re a fine example to us all. Thank you for your post.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[AttonParticipant]

It felt like I was relapsing into some drug addiction.

It is a drug addiction when you think about it. I’ve even heard that it triggers the same parts of the brain that drugs do.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[HitmanParticipant]

not easy.
we are human with built in urges.
some men struggle to GET sex,
some struggle to AVOID it..
accepting yourself for who and what you are is not easy.
to master one’s self takes much discipline.
be gentle with yourself brother .
forgive yourself for everything.
peace will fall on you like gentle rain from the heavens..

[JosephParticipant 125]

Hitman wrote:

not easy.
we are human with built in urges.
some men struggle to GET sex,
some struggle to AVOID it..
accepting yourself for who and what you are is not easy.
to master one’s self takes much discipline.
be gentle with yourself brother .
forgive yourself for everything.
peace will fall on you like gentle rain from the heavens..

Interesting and good points.

I have a similar problem myself. I am in a happy relationship. It suits my needs and over the years I have modeled her to be my perfect partner…yet I have this animal inside that from time to time has to be fed.

She loves me because I have this bad boy edge. I work hard, can fix everything around the house, and I am wild in bed. But it comes at a price. And the price is to feed the animal in secret so it is kept under leash.

The animal always fights to overpower me. In my younger years I let it reign and, to tell you the truth, these were the best years of my life. But later on I wanted a calmer life even though I knew that the animal would never accept it…so I came to terms to myself, and to the animal inside of me.

I know who I am, the risks I take, and the consequences which I assume. I will never kill the animal for it provides me with the strength to face life and fight, and after all it is part of me. So I feed it when it needs to be fed.

I am not entirely sure about what she thinks, or knows, but we don’t talk about it. When the urge comes I take advantage of the opportunities presented to me (e.g. business trips) or create opportunities for myself (e.g. go to help a friend or visit someone). Feminism has been very helpful in providing me with an endless supply of women looking for a guy like me and thinking that their magic vaginas will steer my wallet towards them. And of course feminism has made them proud enough so when I want to get rid of them they always think it was their decision.

And so, with the animal satisfied, I come home where my heart is.

PS: I should put a timer on my keyboard to stop writing such long entries, sorry guys!!!

[BigDParticipant 3024]

What I do to stay celibate is to look at my bank and brokerage accounts, add them up, and multiply it by .75. Because that .75 is how much some gash more than likely will cost you.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[SilentParticipant 303]

I wanted to make a topic about this subject, but damn dude, you beat me to it.

I’m considering very seriously going celibate.

What I plan to do if I do go celibate, is buy a few fleshlights and a Realdoll.

Having sex with western women is way too risky in this day and age with most of them having a feminist mind set. Even if you do get a vasectomy, it still won’t help against false accusations.

I also don’t see the point in traveling to eastern/Latin countries just to have sex either. Waste of money.

Plus, at least with fleshlights and Realdolls, if you wanna have a weekend busting your nuts, booze, and porn, especially on rainy days, you can use those sex toys without having to deal with “hooking up” for sex.

[RennieParticipant]

Silent wrote:

I wanted to make a topic about this subject, but damn dude, you beat me to it.

I’m considering very seriously going celibate.

What I plan to do if I do go celibate, is buy a few fleshlights and a Realdoll.

Having sex with western women is way too risky in this day and age with most of them having a feminist mind set. Even if you do get a vasectomy, it still won’t help against false accusations.

I also don’t see the point in traveling to eastern/Latin countries just to have sex either. Waste of money.

Plus, at least with fleshlights and Realdolls, if you wanna have a weekend busting your nuts, booze, and porn, especially on rainy days, you can use those sex toys without having to deal with “hooking up” for sex.

I am celibate myself. I don’t know how it will work for you but ‘batin is good enough for me.

[SilentParticipant 303]

@rennie
I usually only try to have sex for a good time. It’s never been something I’ve ever been “addicted to” like PUAs and manginas are.

However, I do have a high sex drive, so my hand just won’t be enough. Which is why I’m definitely gonna use sex toys + porn.

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