Hamster Nuking

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

Normally I wouldn’t directly quote a woman and I know this is long but it says so much to me about what women expect from a man that I’d like to share it with you guys. Bit of background: I’ve been seeing this girl very irregularly for a few months and, at this point, we’d only been on two real “dates” and only gone so far as second base… and she’s cute but not super hot or anything. Also, I recently squeezed it out of her that she’s been talking with her ex and thinking about moving in with him (because she’s broke as s~~~) so with that in mind:

♀ Hey you…

♂ Hey

♀ Hows ur day going ??

♂ Good, getting s~~~ done. You?

♀ Not so hot… When i picked my car up sat. Afternoon i had a oil change done and now its making some crazy ass noise… Idk whats going on with it… Waiting to get into the shop now and im just not having a good time about the whole situation..

♂ I hear you. Where’s the shop?

♀ Well thing is i left my car with my X to do the oil change and he was sapose to just do it at his house… Instead he took it to the shop… He filled tires messed with the wheel walls that were loose ect.. Pretty much doing all this extra that i didnt ask…

♂ So much for the hook up, huh? Next time get it done faster and cheaper yourself.

♀ Ya well he has done most of the work on my car, so usually when u know a mechanic its cool to get side work done without having to take it in… But this is proving to not be the case. When i picked it up its making this crazy noise that i cant even pin point… So sat. I took it to the shop and he took the front tires off and broke a stud… 2 1/2 hrs later hes got the new stud on and instead of putting the new bolt on the new stud he puts it on an old one and the old bolt on the new stud and strips it… Didnt have time to fix that so now im taking it back to fix that and hope that he can actualy figure whats wrong because hes saying its the break pads but this noise is inside i can hear it by my feet ive never heard this kind of noise before… Inbetween all of it hes being a total dick about it… I tried to tell him imagine u take ur car in for an oil change and u leave and hear this sound u would flip s~~~ take it back cussin people out ya know.. I just think he is such an amateur

♂ You know why they call them “ex”?

♀ Lol

♀ F~~~ im freaking out and ive been stuck in my house since friday.. Besides going out sat. Nite.. But i havent been able to drive or take care o anything since ive been back and its back to work tomm. I just wanna know what it is and get it fixed

♂ Just saying. Getting “free” work from an ex who is trying to keep you around that ends up costing you days of time, stress and more money is total ghetto s~~~. $35 at Jiffy Lube, in and out and on your way in an hour.

♀ Well i figured since he gave it back to me like this he needs to figure out what he did and fix it.. Honestly i cant afford to take my car to a shop… But yes i agree… Like i said hes always done the work on my car but that does need to change.. Idk what he did and he cant really figure out the problem yet either… Man it was just fine just needed an oil change wich was sapose to be done without the car moving.. Not taken to the shop and all this extra stuff that prob. Created whatever is going on now…

♂ Better plan to be without a car for a while.

♀ Well im past that part what is done is done i cant change that choice… But im just stressing out now i dont even know what the problem is or when it will be able to get fixed.. I wish i could take it somewhere else and get it diagnosed but they charge like $100 just to look at the car

♂ It sounds like this is going to be a painful and potentially expensive lesson.

♀ Its not like i knew this was going to happen… And i dont feel i was guetto to make that choice.. Like i said hes always done the work on my car and is usually pretty helpful… He has saved me tons of $$ and done a lot on that car.. I just dont know what is going in with it now and really stressed out

♂ I wouldn’t trust any ex girlfriend of mine with a valuable asset and control over my work and social life regardless of how well she may have managed it in the past. Leaving someone means not being dependent on them. I feel your pain but now you’re in the s~~~ and there’s nothing to do about it but wait and hope he can clean up his mess before its too late for you.

♀ Ya well i guess thats were our past is diff… We are still friends and do still help each other…

♂ Then I’d stop referring to him as an ex. That just sounds disrespectful to your friendship.

♀ What am i sapose to say he is????

♂ Call him your mechanic or by his name. “My mechanic f~~~ed my car up…” Thats something a guy can empathize with… but “I’m getting f~~~ed over by my ex” doesn’t really float the boat, you know?

♀ Look i wasnt looking to be badgered about the situation on how i call who what… I was simply trying to talk to u and let u know i was stressed about my car and maybe a little comfort but i feel more stressed than i did before so ima just end this conversation.. Hope u have a good day

♂ Sorry, you chose to bitch to me about your ex not doing the free job the way you asked him to… did you want me to give you meaningful advice or just be a witness to your experience?

♀ Im not getting f~~~ed over… And ur acting like he intently did something, if that comes around then ok… But ur making me feel like this is my fault and im already stressed about the situation as it is… #1 i wasnt bitching… #2 i was just saying im stressed about my car not being ok… #3 sorry if im wrong but yeah i was looking for comfort maybe u might have said its going to be ok ull get it figured out, not badger me…

♀ As i said before i would like to end this conversation!!!

♂ A $35 oil change has become a three day drama because of your choices. Yeah, it sucks but stressing over it isn’t helping. And I’m not going to lie to you, it’s probably not going to be okay. Talk to a girlfriend if you just want to be comforted.

♀ Ya see thing is i dont have anyone to talk to and thought u might consider my feelings, i can see thats not the case… Honestly i know its going to be ok because it always is things always work out.. Just wanted a little reassurance in the end i found out there is no one to give that to me but myself.. Thanks for the confidence boost..

♂ Sorry but I think we’re done here.

♀ I feel like ur being so closed minded about the whole situation just because it was my X… Seems more like a jealousy factor than anything… Had it been anyone else that did it u would have been more considerate..

♂ Look, the fact is that you are a total disaster. Everything you do is a major drama and I’m not interested in a relationship where I spend more time hearing about your problems than I do having fun with you. You want my help or advice, I’d have given it to you. I’d have picked you up, driven you around and even loaned you my car if you needed it and asked me for it, you know that. But you’re not interested in me or even what I can do for you, you just want someone to listen to you stress out. That doesn’t work for me. I’m sorry but I’m out. Good luck.

♀ Wow… Something is going on with my car and this is what it turns out to you… Crazy… But your choice is your choice… Sorry i dont have all the $$ in the world to just go turn my car in and live a stress free life as u do.. And sorry im not looking for a hand out either i would never ask something like that of you.. My feelings are deff. Hurt, but i can see that ur not considerate that my life is not as easy going as ur is.. Thats ok tho

♂ Seriously, you can stop texting me now. I’m not even reading it.

♀ I just wanted to say that i never expected that u would treat me this way.. U are rite i do have a lot of problems.. I wouldn’t want to bring u into to those but figured i could confide in you.. Sorry i was wrong.. Im really hurt rite now, i cared about u and for someone i care about to treat me this way hurts.. Like everyone else in my life just turn their backs on me… U wonder why im so skeptical about people well u showed the exact reason i had all my trust in you

 

Call me cruel and heartless if you like but the bottom line here is that this woman makes poor decisions about her life… always trying to save a buck and get a freebie from someone… then bitches when it blows up in her face or her loser friends do the same to her and f~~~ up her s~~~. She’s too lame to take care of herself and too inept to find someone decent to take care of her. So then she calls me wanting sympathy and just can’t handle it when I call her out on it.

Now if she wanted to come over and do something nice for me… make dinner, bring over some booze, show me some attention, then maybe I’d be willing to pat her on the head and say everything is going to be alright… but I’m not going to be anyone’s emotional tampon, particularly not a woman I’m not even f~~~ing. And of course it’s me being the bad guy when she dumps her problems with her “ex” on me and I give her good advice and tell her to suck it up and deal with her own s~~~. Looks like this time I got her “right in the feels”.

Okay guys, let’s hear your hamster nuking stories.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Just found this gem! Moved it into MGTOW Central for a few days. Great topic Doc.

Hamster-nuking is wildly entertaining when done properly. For those who aren’t familiar with the term, it’s not putting a rodent in a microwave. “The Female Rationalization Hamster” is the creature which lives in a woman’s brain, and feverishly spins the hamster wheel which helps her rationalize and justify her thoughts, behavior and actions regardless of how counter-intuitive they may be. No amount of logic or reason can stop the hamster from spinning.

Hamsterbations may include (but are not limited to) examples such as:

• “40 is the new 20”.
• “I don’t need a man to have a baby”.
• Justifying repeatedly going back to the asshole who mistreats her (etc)
• “Single mothers are a great catch.”
• “I am a strong independant woman. I know what I want”.

A proper Hamster nuking is an illusion-shattering bomb dropped on the female. A recent Hamster I nuked from afar (through an email) has been pushing to get together when she is in town. 17 years ago we knew each other very well but never dated. Now she’s a divorced single Mom and dropped a hint over coffee that we should maybe start dating.

“You’re funny. If it didn’t happen then, why would it happen now?”

A few weeks ago, she wrote “I’m thinking of coming for a visit” with full intent to have me entertain her and even put her up. All friendly and enthusiastic. to which I replied. “AWESOME! Let me know when you book your flight and if I’m in town, we’ll have a drink”.

There was no reply whatsoever. Roasted.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

My hamster-nuking stories?

How about…EVERY conversation I’ve had with a chick on Yahoo/Facebook messenger, texting, etc!?

All they want to do is whine about some random s~~~ about their ex or why they aren’t happy about some other boo-hoo event that is ruining their life. I pretended to listen the entire time. I’d be like, “Yep. Sure. Uh huh” while cooking dinner or watching TV, and the woman would be getting p~~~ed because I wasn’t answering as fast or in the way they wanted.

“Are you even listening to me?”

“Yep.”

“Well, what did I just say?”

“Nothing different from what you’re usually talking about. Yes, life sucks for you, I get it, but I don’t think I need to put my dinner on hold to hear more about the millionth thing that is BOTHERING you.”

“You’re supposed to be communicating better with me. That’s what we’re supposed to do in a relationship.”

“Yes, I agree, but this isn’t a relationship. I never even met you and this is the ninth day that we’ve been messaging back and forth. That doesn’t constitute a RELATIONSHIP, sorry to burst your bubble with reality.”

“I think you’re being a f~~~ing asshole. Why are you even talking to me if you’re just wasting my time by not having it go anywhere?”

“Talking to YOU? 95 percent of the time, you’ve been the only one that’s talking, and you’re doing it to a computer screen instead of face-to-face with a guy in person.”

I’d say that all of my chatting sessions end the same way. Painful and emotional for the woman and satisfying to me…as I’m enjoying my latest meal and relaxing in front of the TV.

[experiencedParticipant]

Her: “I think I’d like the relationship back to non-intimate, for the time being.”

Response: “That’s fine, get your stuff.”

Her: “Where’re we going?”

“The bus station.”

 

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[BurgundyParticipant 1525]

This reminds me, every time some gal you know, asks you, “how are you doing” / “How’s your day been?”, is but a stepping stone, to a long long long useless story, to grab some attention, release the blab of stress, and gain some pity, thus each time, when some gal asks me this, I simple does a reply to close out some of the bridges that could start her story telling of unneeded negative and possibly depressing story, which in the end was her own fault, without her ever noticing it properly or taking responsibility for her own mistakes and rather aim for the pity attention jackpot.

The secret to avoiding this, is to not add, “… and you?” in your answer, lol.  50+% success rate, for anything else you exaggerate your happy day and mention you really hate negative nannies, who try to ruin other people’s good days by telling their terrible pity stories, you can thank me later.

 

Hamster nuking stories… Well any trouble some gal bring they have, and you point out to them, it’s their own choices that resulted in the mistakes, they now cry about, they try excuse it out, or worse doesn’t acknowledge it, it’s sometimes hilarious, and other times very annoying, I do like to laugh about it, since every trouble I so often hear from both coworkers, close friends, sisters, and mothers, end at their very own doorstep as root of the problem, sigh.

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

HA!  Wimmenz will rarely come right out and ask what they want….bitch was hoping you’d bust out your white steed, polish up your armor, and ride to her rescue Doc.  Then they get all p~~~ed when you refuse to act on what they are NOT saying…f~~~ing typical…ohhhhh sooooo typical of wimmenz.  Great way to shut her ass down.  The one thing that escapes ALL LOGIC is why wimmenz always have to have the ex orbiting in the background.  I mean I get why they keep them around but once a bitch is MY ex, hell I wouldn’t p~~~ in her ear if her brain was on fire.  There’s a reason they are an ex and it usually culminates in all respect going out the window for them.  I don’t associate with people I don’t respect.  I’d rather strap them to the back end of a rocket, light it, and then kick it over on the launch pad!  BOOM!  Is it just me???

 

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[Smacktalk73Participant 296]

Well played.  Very well played.  I have been getting much more ruthless about just telling women “no.”

Of course, many women will complain we are celebrating generally being mean to women, but that’s not true.  I know women who don’t want men to solve all their problems – women who take  responsibility.  They would not act like this.  I have no interest in being cruel for the sake of being cruel.

But watching a guy tearing away a woman’s privileged support system of males telling her she is wonderful for no reason is F~~~ING AWESOME.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

Too many women want to use you as an emotional tampon.In Docs situation she’s using her ex for free car repair and using Doc for her emotional issues .Women will continue to do this until we show them it’s unacceptable. IMO saying NO is a big part of being MGTOW

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

I had a conversation with this girl who is a friend. She starts to ask why I am not married and inquire of woman I would be looking for. She is married and I believe was inquiring so she could fix me up with one of her single friends which she has done for other single guys. So after a few minutes of explaining the divorce rate, the bias of family court, the fact I never really wanted children, hypergamy and the risk to my assets that I do not want to get married. After a few more minutes of her fishing I level the truth at her. She would have to be on AT LEAST the same financial footing as I am and even then not likely. I don`t think I will forget the broken look on her face.

I am now forbidden from talking to her children about marriage and relationships.

[experiencedParticipant]

You were supposed to be a wallet, not a wallet with a brain.  You slam dunked her by hitting the nail perfectly. My hat is off to you brother. Pity her male offspring.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Big Viking Chef BVCParticipant 1286]

I was consciously avoiding this thread on “hamster nuking” because of the fear that someone was actually nuking real hamsters.  That’s not something that I need to see twice in my life.  lol  just kidding.

Imagine my surprise that it was really just this stuff – bursting the bubble.  Great read, guys.

BVC

 

Swallow this RED PILL ===> Men will lay down their lives for their brothers, their women and their children. This makes Men useful as slaves. Women will lay down their lives for ONLY their children. To expect more from women is just a FANTASY created by society and reinforced by the unconditional love that we experienced from our Mothers. The key to freedom is the understanding that the woman you meet is not going to fantastically love you like your Mother did. If you buy into the fantasy, then she is your new master. If you do not buy into the fantasy, then she is nothing, and you retain your freedom.

[experiencedParticipant]

Too many men don’t know exactly what is in store for them. @voidraithe,”She is married and I believe was inquiring so she could fix me up with one of her single friends which she has done for other single guys. So after a few minutes of explaining the divorce rate, the…” 

What she’s actually proposing is a 50/50 scenario.   One, which KM showed in another post, is optimistic vs what actually happens today:

Think about all the sweet little innocent womin proposing what Chigurh did in this clip.  Who’s the sociopath today?

It’s off by one year, coin 1968, no fault divorce ’69.

“What do I stand to win?” … “Everything.””How’s that?”     Chigurh’s now p~~~ed-because the guy got him on that, asserts “you stand to win everything” a lie exposed.

http://divorce.com/worldwide-divorce-statistics/    “Even though many sources seem to agree on the half and half rate of marriage and divorce in this country, there is growing debate about the accuracy of the numbers. Some researchers have suggested the 50% number is just plain wrong and based on flawed math.”

“You got no cause to hurt me”   = no fault.         https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZw1Ms1LvZc      “I knew exactly what was in store for me when I saw you sitting in that chair”-Carla.    “the coin don’t have no say, it’s just you”-Carla.     Aside from blood, how is it that women can’t stand this film?

 

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

I suspect that she is trying to use whoever she can and just acting dumb to cover it up.I would bet you dollars to pesos that her ex is sick of being used and either did something or didnt do something and that why something is wrong with her car.Women will continue to use us until we say NO

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Vector VikingParticipant 413]

Doc,

I really enjoyed reading that. I really think that the overpopulation of White Knights has led to women expecting all men to act like their girlfriends. Too many manbitch satellites in orbit for too long, so when they talk to someone who isn’t coming from a place where they think “maybe if I put up with your s~~~ long enough, it’ll win your approval and you’ll let me put my penis in you” they know f~~~-all what to do about it.

I may have said something like “If you can’t afford a $35 oil change, you probably can’t afford a therapist either. I’m not licensed to practice in this state, so I can’t help you there.” I probably would have got the same kind of reaction that you did too.

 

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