But I'm not a gold digger!

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

I saw discussion the other day on Facebook about a woman who broke up with her boyfriend only to discover that he’s loaded after the fact. He was frugal and lived the lifestyle of a humble and modest man despite being loaded. This wasn’t good for her and she broke up with him. She whined about it on FB and was promptly decried by Men for her gold digging and given support by Women and mangina white knights.

I love how even after she was p~~~ed she lost her loaded BF she was still claiming it wasn’t about the money, it was about the dishonesty. Except he wasn’t dishonest, just clever.

[Anonymous 1]

“Now I ain’t sayin’ she a gold digger (when I’m in need)
But she ain’t messin’ with no broke n~~~~s”

-Kanye West

I had to post this here, its too perfect!

[kbbroilerParticipant 886]

I think I heard of that story before. It was mentioned on the Tom Leykis show. There is a sure lot of them out there.

Keith

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

if she wasn’t a gold digger, why did she care?

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[VoidraitheParticipant 477]

I had to get to work earlier, here is the post. Full disclosure, I had to clean up some grammar and spelling issues my OCD would let slide.

I [F26] have been dating Will [M27] for most of 2014; I met him on New Year’s Eve, we exchanged numbers, scheduled a coffee date and have been seeing each other ever since. He’s tall and shy, with long thick hair like Eddie Vedder. He lives in an older house by himself and drives a 1997 Toyota. He dresses very casually – I don’t think he even owns a collared shirt – and all his clothes are minimum 1- 2 years old. For income, he told me he “ran a few websites” and picked up piece- work as a ‘session guitarist’. He is also very frugal. He never took me out for fancy dinners or anything.In the beginning it was always coffee dates, walks, hikes, etc. If we go out, he insists on ‘pre- drinking’ and refuses to buy drinks at a bar. Most nights he was content staying in, watching Netflix and playing his guitar.

I never outright asked how much money he made, but given his lifestyle, clothes, furnishings, etc. plus the fact that he rarely worked, I assumed it wasn’t much. I would lightly prod him with questions about the future, if he had any career goals – he would say that he “saw me in his future”, but also he was “happy the way things were”. I have Facebook and am on it every day, usually when work is slow. Lately my newsfeed has been filled with my peers getting married, buying houses, having babies, and other various accolades. I can’t help but feel jealous by this; it seems like everyone but me is making significant gains in their lives and relationships. Three weeks ago, after seeing a girl I knew from high school buy her 3rd property with her husband, it felt like my relationship with Will was juvenile and had no future. The next time I was over at Will’s (after he served me potato soup for dinner and was torrenting a documentary for us to watch later) I ended the relationship. I was perfectly honest about everything – he was a great guy, I loved him and his personality, but I felt he lacked career/life ambition and we wanted different things for the future. He sat and listened to everything, seemingly unmoved by it. When I finished talking, he said “fine by me” and asked me to leave. I went to hug him on my way out, instead he just guided me out the door and slammed it shut behind him. With prior boyfriends, we’d still talk or text a bit after we’d be broken up. Sometimes we’d even still hook up. I don’t know, I’ve just never had a ‘bad break-up’ and always try to remain on good terms. I haven’t heard a f~~~ing word from Will, even after texting him multiple times and calling him once. I saw two of Wills friends at the gym today. I went over and made small talk, asked how he was, etc. I tried to explain myself, saying he was a great guy but our views on money and the future didn’t seem to mesh. To this, one friend chuckled to himself and walked away. I asked the other friend WTF that’s about it, and he says “Ya, we heard. The thing is, Will’s loaded. He inherited his grandpa’s land which is leased to oil and gas companies. I’ve seen the quarterly checks he gets and they’re more than my yearly salary. Good luck getting him to spend it, though. He has a ‘if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it type mentality. Just look at that piece of s~~~ he drives!” This has completely baffled and upset me. I dated him for 10 months when I thought he was penniless, proof I’m not a f~~~ing gold-digger. I am a 26 year old woman who needs to be pragmatic, I can’t just indefinitely date someone with the future being so uncertain. He could’ve said something, ANYTH NG during our break up when I was explaining my doubts about our relationship. Instead he said nothing, and now he refuses to talk to me. It makes absolutely no sense. I just feel so low right now. If a man with disposable income meets a woman he likes, doesn’t he want to treat her? He said he “saw me in his future”, why didn’t he care enough to share these things with me? He could have easily kept our relationship alive by being forthcoming. Someone please help me make sense of this situation.

[EekParticipant 1162]

Typical female logic. From the copied post, she thinks that her story is proof she isn’t a gold digger. But the way I read it, it looks more like proof she is. He wasn’t throwing around enough money for her tastes, so off she goes looking for someone else.

“Will” from that story sounds like many of the guys on this site.

[Soul ManParticipant 1856]

Good for Will!  He gets it.  His actions or lack thereof flushed her true nature to the surface.  Brilliant move!  Kudos to that guy!  I would propose that anyone still trying to date take this guy’s approach.

Oh but she’s not a golddigging slore….uh huh…that’s nice cupcake.

 

HISTORY...learn from it, memorize it, DON'T repeat it...

[Anonymous 1]

Voidraithe wrote:

he was a great guy, I loved him and his personality, but I felt he lacked career/life ambition and we wanted different things for the future.

Love: it is never enough for a woman. Also, if she had different ambitions in life, why didn’t she go for it?!? Oh, yeah, that’s a lot of work. Better find a man to do it for her.

Priceless.

Voidraithe wrote:

When I finished talking, he said “fine by me” and asked me to leave. I went to hug him on my way out, instead he just guided me out the door and slammed it shut behind him.

This guy is my f~~~ing hero! 🙂

Voidraithe wrote:

I tried to explain myself, saying he was a great guy but our views on money and the future didn’t seem to mesh. To this, one friend chuckled to himself and walked away. I asked the other friend WTF that’s about it, and he says “Ya, we heard. The thing is, Will’s loaded. He inherited his grandpa’s land which is leased to oil and gas companies. I’ve seen the quarterly checks he gets and they’re more than my yearly salary. Good luck getting him to spend it, though. He has a ‘if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it type mentality. Just look at that piece of s~~~ he drives!”

Tried to save face and got burned. So much win.

Voidraithe wrote:

I dated him for 10 months when I thought he was penniless, proof I’m not a f~~~ing gold-digger.

No, she dated him for 10 months and BROKE UP with him BECAUSE she thought he was penniless. Proof that she IS a gold-digger. She Even stated, that one of the reasons she broke up with him was: “I felt he lacked career/life ambition and we wanted different things for the future.” The hypocrisy is over 9000!

Voidraithe wrote:

I am a 26 year old woman who needs to be pragmatic, I can’t just indefinitely date someone with the future being so uncertain.

Manslation: Need to find a slave before hitting the wall.

Voidraithe wrote:

He could’ve said something, ANYTH NG during our break up when I was explaining my doubts about our relationship. Instead he said nothing, and now he refuses to talk to me

Voidraithe wrote:

Someone please help me make sense of this situation

Wise man. Someone buy this guy a beer. I am paying!

Voidraithe wrote:

It makes absolutely no sense

If you are a man it does. If you are a gold-digger, yeah, the concept of being with someone for what they ARE and not what they HAVE must be a difficult one to grasp.

Voidraithe wrote:

If a man with disposable income meets a woman he likes, doesn’t he want to treat her?

Yeah! Shouldn’t a man spend HIS money to fill HER needs? Huh, wait… NO HE SHOULDN”T!

Voidraithe wrote:

He could have easily kept our relationship alive by being forthcoming.

So he would have “saved” the relationship if he showed the money? You know, from where I come from we call women like this HOOKERS.

Voidraithe wrote:

Someone please help me make sense of this situation

Sure cupcake. You tried to dismiss him thinking he was poor and he saw through your bulls~~~. Well done for him!

Thanks for the post, that was an awesome reading.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Voidraithe wrote:

she was still claiming it wasn’t about the money, it was about the dishonesty.

Except how much money he has WAS NONE OF HER F~~~ING BUSINESS!

She just thinks it was her business because she’s a gold digging whore and that’s what gold digging whores do.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

This is too funny. Thanks for sharing

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[DakotaParticipant 341]

Great job Will!  Except you’re a bit of an amateur…

If I were Will it would have went down like this…

“…OH HONEY, I love you and just wanted to make sure you loved me for who I am and not for how much money I have [pulls out small briefcase loaded with 100s].  I’m RICH and now YOU ARE TOO!  Let’s not quarrel, Dearest.  Our whole future lies ahead of us!”

After make-up sex, which culminates in a glob of gooey goodness in the back of her throat…THEN comes the “Get the f~~~ outa here, ya dirty c~~~!”

[KingOfTheSeaParticipant 1270]

Damn, son. New goal in life: Be like Will.

 

Someone posted an article somewhere about the double standard that women can divorce a man who loses all of his money because its “prudent” and be praised while a man will be demonized if he doesn’t stay by his wife after she’s let herself go after marriage. It’s clear she’s a f~~~ing delusional bitch; the man did a good thing and in such a cool way.

 

EDIT: Can we sticky this, please? Think it’s pertinent to any purple pills that still doubt the motives of some women out there.

[DeepInThoughtParticipant 2710]

Voidraithe wrote:

He was frugal and lived the lifestyle of a humble and modest man despite being loaded.

Good man!

 

Voidraithe wrote:

plus the fact that he rarely worked, I assumed it wasn’t much.

I am in the same boat, I trade the global markets, when most people are asleep in bed in Australia I am working the Euro, NYSE & NASDAQ exchanges. I have the day to myself, I go to a cafe in a t-shirt, cargo shorts and leather thongs (flip flops) and the amount of middle class female and white knight morons who give me lip about getting a job and doing something with my life is absolutely humoring as I sip my espresso, eat my omelette and read the financials in the morning before I go for a surf. I am kinda like this guy, I don’t display my wealth, I am who I am…just cruising through life! And TBH it is amazing how much money you save not having a partner and the BS that goes with it. I am not into lavish houses and the affluent lifestyle, I like my modest home, truck and essentials and ain’t no woman gonna f~~~ with that!

[KingOfTheSeaParticipant 1270]

DeepInThought wrote:

 I am in the same boat, I trade the global markets, when most people are asleep in bed in Australia I am working the Euro, NYSE & NASDAQ exchanges. I have the day to myself, I go to a cafe in a t-shirt, cargo shorts and leather thongs (flip flops) and the amount of middle class female and white knight morons who give me lip about getting a job and doing something with my life is absolutely humoring as I sip my espresso, eat my omelette and read the financials in the morning before I go for a surf. I am kinda like this guy, I don’t display my wealth, I am who I am…just cruising through life!

Damn, man. Teach me your ways, haha.

[VerkirParticipant 7]

“It makes absolutely no sense.”

 

“Someone please make sense of this situation.”

 

You’re a gold-digger. Now GTFO.

Looks like Will might be rolling into this site soon with his 1997 Toyota.

[NO WAYParticipant 87]

Thanks for sharing. GREAT STORY. I’ll resending it to both my sons.I hope they’ll learn a lesson here.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

Link please. That woman is harassing him.
He is a fish too smart to be caught with the hook of gynocentrism and pussy addiction.He just saved himself millions of dollars.
He is a MGTOW and probably never even heard of us.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Kyle R.Participant 21]

Whoa, this Will guy is like a real life Bilbo Baggins, with a treasure stashed up somewhere safe, and he still living frugally in a modest hobbit hole, minding his own damn business and tending to his simple pleasures.

By the way, Bilbo was a damn fine MGHOW. Or better said, HGHOW lol.

[FrediKrugrParticipant 11]

I admire Bilbo for not succumbing to the One Ring of vagina worship

[MadScientistParticipant 131]

This is how you do it guys. He didn’t even lie to her.. he just didn’t tell her he was loaded. So he never deceived her at all 🙂

Of course, I’m sure the crazies will say that he was a bastard for not voluntarily telling you he was loaded.. wow.. seriously? So.. umm.. what? NOT a Gold Digger? Like another poster here said, she proved she IS a Gold Digger. And she only dated him for 10 months.. advice to ladies: if you have baby rabies, and a guy isn’t jumping on the bandwagon with zest, leave sooner, ok? You’ll save yourself the problems when you hit the wall and cannot get any decent attention, and good ‘ol Will there will just start hiring escorts, masseuses and ‘personal care assistants’ to take care of his needs.

Oh and lets clear up  that confusion for her….

 

“Will was TESTING YOU. And you FAILED. He didn’t want to tell you he was loaded because he knew that there are thousands of women out there that would just nail him for his money, and tell him anything he wanted to hear, and do anything he wanted done.. until married for awhile, and then Babies, divorce and BANKRUPTCY .. and his family legacy gets p~~~ed down the toilet, and he gets left with nothing. Got that? He was being conservative, like a good Conservative man should be. He wanted to see how things turned out with you without you knowing he was wealthy, so he would know if you were a keeper. And you clearly were not.”

 

By the way.. can someone forward this to Tom Leykis? I think he would get a hoot out of it 🙂

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