Brother is married…

[bomwaParticipant 488]

I’m trying to work out how I can be happy when I visit brother and his wife.

I see this woman as being a definite AWALT. I’ve argued with her on many occasions. She once asked how we could get along better, I replied ‘by stop talking (to/around me)’. That didn’t go down too well with her, or my brother.

The day before their wedding, this woman was talking to my mum. I was taking a nap and I don’t think she realised I was able to hear her. She told my mum about how marriage is such a big move because it means you can’t sleep with other people anymore. She said that she used to have a ‘f~~~buddy’ (she used that word), and had still been in contact with him until just 6 months before the wedding. She spent a good 10 minutes explaining to my mum why it was so nice having a f~~~buddy, but that she was ready to settle down now and be committed for ever.

I was literally seething at this point. My adrenaline levels were through the roof. I had always thought this woman was bad news, but to hear her talking like this to my mum the day before her wedding just about did my head in. At that point, all doubt was cast aside, and I realised that this woman was mentally defective.

She will not allow my brother and I to spend time together in peace. Before they got married, I visited my brother and went to the pub for a bit. When we got home, she had chucked a hissy fit and gone to a different pub on her own! She wasn’t receiving his undevoted attention for 2 hours so she dolled herself up and went out! I hadn’t seen my brother in weeks, maybe months!

Whenever I see my brother, she always makes him go do errands. Or she will call him a number of times until he has agreed to come and see her. She will not stop calling until he stops hanging out with me.

I’m thinking of just letting him have his domestic bliss. I see her as a really bad choice and she annoys me through him. So, I’m contemplating just leaving them to their life.

[WallyParticipant]

What an uncouth woman your brother has married, suprised your mum didn’t slap the snot out of her when she talked about her “f~~~buddy.”

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[HitmanParticipant]

sometimes family can really suck. when you stop enjoying the time you spend , it;s time to STOP giving them your valuable time .your brother may start to realize he is being held hostage when he stops having visitors .. reality isn’t always what we wish it was …thank god it’s not YOU instead ..cold ,but true ..sorry to hear about it dude….marriage not only f~~~s over the groom ,but the people in his life as well..

[bomwaParticipant 488]

Schedule time away from her with your bro.

Maybe a camping weekend.

Thought about this. But what if he refuses (which I think he would). Or what if he went mental if he didn’t get phone reception?

What if he enjoys this type of suffering??

[QuietlyquietlyParticipant 728]

bomwa wrote:

…. She said that she used to have a ‘f~~~buddy’ (she used that word), and had still been in contact with him until just 6 months before the wedding. She spent a good 10 minutes explaining to my mum why it was so nice having a f~~~buddy…..

The one thing a woman will do when talking about who (and how many) she has slept with is LIE.

This is common knowledge amongst both sexes: you ask her how many people she’s slept with, she says…..errr…2? and she means 15. She says, “I was in contact with him until 6 months ago….” means “I’m still in contact with him now, last time I f~~~ed him was 6 months ago”.

Your brother needs the kindest hard-love kick in the nuts you can give him. You owe it to him to tell him this s~~~ BEFORE she gets pregnant!!

DAMN.

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