Bros before hoes (even when that hoe is your sister)

[Honorable_Juice_BoxParticipant 591]

Hello gents,

A while back I posted about my sister, whom I considered to be a NAWALT, suddenly deciding to leave her husband of over 10 years.

Upon reflecting back upon my past and childhood, I realize there were obvious signs of AWALT behavior; which I ignored because of my relationship with my sister (we were always close).

It was hard to accept, but if she was not happy in her marriage I could understand her wanting to leave. However this changed when it came out that she has been cheating on her husband for some time, and of course the person she is now living with is this new guy.

My personal thoughts on infidelity is that it is completely unacceptable without exception (in marriage or a relationship where exclusivity has been agreed upon). I now have zero sympathy for her.

If you are not happy in your relationship, and you have tried to fix it to no avail, then leave; but do not start a new relationship until you are divorced.

Thankfully there are no kids involved who, in the end, are always the real victims. Of course my sister wants my family and I to just accept this new guy as if everything is fine, even though her soon to be ex-husband is like a son to my parents and a brother to me.

I do not expect her new relationship to last. This new guy knows she is married but still chose to get involved which speaks to his character. In time I am certain that he will cheat on her, or vice versa.

Down the road, if she became involved with some new man and I met him; I believe I would be inclined to tell him about my sister’s infidelity. Though it may not be my place to do so, I am sure she would not divulge it herself, and if I were in that position I would want to know.

Your guys thoughts?

TL;DR, Would you be inclined to tell a man dating your sister about her past infidelity.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22558]

Blood is important. Do not forget that.

[Anonymous 54]

Thats a tough one,only because he could turn on you,she would be at war with you.Maby casually slip it in the conversation and let him draw his own conclusions. It’s been my experience that warning other guys backfires. They just don’t want to see it.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

Would you be inclined to tell a man dating your sister about her past infidelity.

Unless he has his head completely up his ass, he KNOWS she’s dishonest / unfaithful. He’s the one she’s been cheating with . If he’s stupid enough to think “she won’t do that with me”, then he deserves what he gets.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 16]

Faust For Science wrote:

Blood is important. Do not forget that.

Mom wold die for me… my sis? hell no.
Women do not feel anything for any one except theyr sons.
Sorry sepuku but in this life you are alone, can only trust mom. And now you know your sis can not be trusted.

[Anonymous 16]

Anonymous wrote:

Thats a tough one,only because he could turn on you,she would be at war with you.Maby casually slip it in the conversation and let him draw his own conclusions. It’s been my experience that warning other guys backfires. They just don’t want to see it.

just stay away. GYOW.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22558]

Anonymous wrote:

Women do not feel anything for any one except theyr sons.

That is likely because women in western culture are raised to be spoiled, selfish, emotionally immature narcissists with a “princess mentality”.

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

Upon reflecting back upon my past and childhood, I realize there were obvious signs of AWALT behavior; which I ignored because of my relationship with my sister (we were always close).

You were close because she chose to be.

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

Of course my sister wants my family and I to just accept this new guy as if everything is fine, even though her soon to be ex-husband is like a son to my parents and a brother to me.

I keep relationship with ex-husband and advise parents as well.

I would explain to my sister, in private, that I will have nothing to do with her or any of her future boys.

This is one of the problems with our society. Accountability for your actions.

I know I am hard over on this and others would advise being moderate for relationship.

Good luck

Peace brothers

[Truthseeker82Participant 6406]

Stay close to her – but avoid that topic as much as possible. It will fade with time – but she is your sibling forever. I’m in no way condoning her rotten behavior – just looking out for a brother who is in a tough spot. Keep us posted!

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

You should tell that to the PUAs, it doesn’t seem to apply to them, biggest backstabbers.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

I have a sister aroung my age. She’s a landwhale sociopath, drinks too much, doesn’t even love her own kids. The state took them from her becuase of 100% neglect and drug repeated drug use for ten years. She abused her husband until he left. Stole cash and credit cards from my other sibling etc.

It’s hard for me to say that blood matters, when the worst bitch i’ve known in my life IS my sister.

Does family matter ? The only answer is whatever one you come up with. Some people have nice little cozy family’s that are close. Others like me, want nothing to do with them anymore.

[Anonymous 54]

My saying is..relationships need to be maintain,cultivated. Mutual respect and careing.Even family. Especially family.If not..i don’t know you

[Masculine_ManParticipant 2735]

If you did all that, what would your family say or do about you? That’s what you should look for in an answer.

If it costs you your peace of mind, then it is too expensive.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

suddenly deciding to leave her husband of over 10 years.

That’s not a coincidence. They do that for the lifetime alimony. Ask Kobe Bryant and Ben Affleck – whos’ wives filed for divorce literally ONE DAY after their 10th anniversary.

Bros before ho

That expression exists for a reason. A man will genuinely appreciate your loyalty and be grateful for it. A woman will not. It doesn’t mean anything to her. She would rather take a monthly check.

It’s not “bros before women” because you don’t pay a whore to f~~~ you (as you already know) – you pay her to LEAVE. She will f~~~ his best friend for free, but her husband pays her $3 million + property to f~~~ off and get lost. That’s what divorce is. You’re paying the unfulfilling whore to LEAVE.

So thats’ why it’s “bros before his”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 11]

In my little world, the bros will throw each other under the bus for any old ho.

My sister is an AWALT, but we are still close.

[Honorable_Juice_BoxParticipant 591]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

He’s the one she’s been cheating with .

This is in regard to a hypothetical future man. The current guy she is with is who she has been cheating with and I don’t give a s~~~ about him.

Anonymous wrote:

can only trust mom.

While I like to think this is true she is the only one taking my sister’s side. While she does not condone what she has done, my mother is ready to forgive her instantly and “move on.”

Meanwhile my father and myself do not even want to see my sister at this point and likely never meet the guy she has been cheating with.

DorkShit wrote:

Accountability for your actions.

I agree with you Darksith at this point. While I do find value in blood ties I do not believe they are the end-all. This is of course my mother’s argument that “she is still your sister” as if that somehow pardons her from moral judgement and responsibility.

Keymaster wrote:

That’s not a coincidence. They do that for the lifetime alimony.

To be more specific they have been together for 10+ years, married for 5. From what my brother-in-law has told me she would not be able to take much from him (they both work full-time). They do not own a home.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

From what my brother-in-law has told me she would not be able to take much from him (they both work full-time)

At least he’s aware and has considered it already.

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

It was hard to accept, but if she was not happy in her marriage I could understand her wanting to leave. However this changed when it came out that she has been cheating on her husband for some time, and of course the person she is now living with is this new guy.

Women rarely – if ever – leave to be “single”. Monkey-branching is the order of the day. And like monkeys, they don’t let go of one branch until she already has a really good grip on the next.

Honorable_Juice_Box wrote:

Down the road, if she became involved with some new man and I met him; I believe I would be inclined to tell him about my sister’s infidelity. Though it may not be my place to do so, I am sure she would not divulge it herself, and if I were in that position I would want to know.

If she were MY sister, I would not warn the other guy, I would confront her directly and ask what the f~~~ she is doing in a “relationship” ( or marriage ) when she wants to f~~~ someone else?

F~~~ whoever you want!! Just don’t introduce me to your “boyfriend” or “husband” because I will point and laugh at both of you.

I would have no respect for her. I wouldn’t even be able to sit at the same table with them, because it would be impossible for me to acknowledge him as “her boyfriend” or “her husband”. Approaching it that way means you’re not butting into THEIR situation…. your establishing your OWN set of values and maintaining them. F~~~ whoever you want, just don’t expect me to acknowledge you as “husband and wife”, or wish you “happy anniversary” ever again.

And if she told me she was pregnant and her “husband” was sitting right there, I wouldn’t say “great! Im so happy for you”… I would say “who’s the father?” and I wouldn’t give a f~~~ who heard it.

It’s one thing to stick your nose in their business, but it’s something else when they expect YOU to celebrate their life choices, which are all based on a foundation of lies and mutually-accepted delusion.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 3]

How many bros have you had in your life? I’ve had very few, there might be a couple I’d consider that now but I almost never see them. I have a blood brother that I can probably still rely on, even though we live in different places and don’t talk too much, but that’s it.

Every other time I’ve heard “bros before hoes” it was always some dude that really just wanted to keep me away from attractive women because he figured that would benefit him, and the second the shoe was on the other foot he’d disappear and be smug about being with a woman. So I don’t take that nonsense seriously.

Yes women make poor life partners, but guess what, most men are far worse than that. This idea of a “bro” is ridiculous to me, it’s like the male version of being sold the feminist sister solidarity. It’s bulls~~~ for women, it’s bulls~~~ for men.

Again, there are a handful of men if you are lucky you’ll meet in your life that you can truly trust. The vast majority of men however instead are either blue pill men openly or blue pill that haven’t yet been able to achieve their blue pill attempt.

It’s like a reverse MGTOW. As MGTOW we pretend to be blue pill men to blend in and ghost, these people try to pretend to be MGTOW but really want to be blue pill.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Women do not feel anything for any one except theyr sons.

Not mine,the cold hearted bitch ran off with another guy when

i was 8,thankfully I still had my father.

Then there’s all the psycho c~~~s who kill their own

but get off because of Post Partum Depression or

some such BS.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[SimpleLifeParticipant 439]

This thread makes me glad I only have a brother.

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