Blue Pill Relapsing…Help!

[MetalHeadParticipant 40]

It’s almost 1AM here and I have to be at my new job I just started two days ago at 7AM. I’m wide awake and the only thing on my mind is the last girl I was romantically involved with. It f~~~ing sucks. I KNOW the relationship was s~~~ and I KNOW I’m way better off with out her. We recently started playing stupid phone games (trivia crack, words with friends) and I thought there’d be no harm in that (way to go self, you idiot) . She’s been making small talk with me more through the games recently and the only thing it’s doing to me is reminding of what I wanted and what didn’t happen.

I know MGTOW is what I want to but there’s still a white knight in me somewhere and some blue pills circulating in my veins. I don’t want to play these damn smart phone games with her, I don’t want to make small talk with her and I wouldn’t be now had she not initiated any of it in the first place. I’m still being a “nice guy” and I know I don’t want to be like that. I shouldn’t be like that. I know what I need to do and I tell myself “you’re not gonna do it, just don’t” and then when push comes to shove I f~~~ing do it. I feel f~~~ing guilty for some reason f~~~ing reason if I don’t accept her game invite or respond to a message. I have NOTHING to feel guilty about and I’m p~~~ed that such trivial s~~~ has got me at such odds with myself.

From reading through these forums I imagine it’s just the process, I’m still deprogramming and breaking old habits. I guess I’m just venting frustration and want to get it off my chest. I don’t want sympathy (nor do I deserve it), like I said, it’s stupid trivial s~~~ and I’m doing this to myself. Help me whip my ass in to shape guys!

[Anonymous 23]

Mate, I completely get what you are saying, having gone through a similar thing only months ago, I personally found the best way to get over a girl is to have sex with someone else – the effect is almost instantaneous, I went from a love sick piece of s~~~ to not giving a crap. Try it brother, any girl – Even a chubby if you have to. 🙂

[Smitty the Great OneParticipant 1535]

oh yeah, and another thing…QUIT F~~~ING TALKING TO HER!

Life is too long to play by someone elses rules....

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

Just rub one out or go f~~~ another chick, then if you have some kind of hobby, go do it. I find that as mghow, having something to occupy yourself and stimulate your intellect is something crucial!

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[Dans0nParticipant 36]

Dont write her, at all. If she insists on contacting you, tell her to f~~~ off already, because that s~~~ is not going to happen. You already mentioned, that the relationship was kinda s~~~ty, so why bother again with the same s~~~? It’s unlikely that she has just changed like the wind blows. Get yourself a nice hobby, do something with friends, you’re a man and could do whatever you want, hell the opportunities are endless.

Always remember: If you already tasted a turd and you didn’t like the taste of it, do you eat it again? Hell no.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 25019]

Treating woman as real people takes a while after intense brain washing that women are superior and should be treated with deference just by dint of them having a varginer.

At first you can’t say “NO” to a chick, like your sitch, then she freaks out. But you are firm and never contact her again and the next day you feel better. You just got a monkey off your back. Your dating again in no time and never think about the ex. The next girl that gives you a hastle you have no problems saying “NO”

Stand up for yourself, it’s easier in the end.

Soon you’ll be ready to jump in that sea full of fish.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[MetalHeadParticipant 40]

Thanks for the responses everybody. Very helpful, putting my head in the right place. This is exactly the kind of no bulls~~~, truth of the matter advice I need to hear.  Now that it’s spring time and I’m working again I will be able to start enjoying my favorite hobbies again, both of which require money and no snow.  I’m feeling much better today, especially after reading what you guys had to say. Tonight is a beer night. Cheers to you fine gents!

[John DoeParticipant 743]

This scenario will happen again unless you gain some control over yourself.

I’ll be blunt with you.  You are a horny and insecure man.  In other words you are full of s~~~.  You have to acknowledge this, and once you do, like a medicine, you will slowly recover.

This is about as much pity as you are going to get.  I would tell you to “sack up” but right now you seem to be crying out of your vagina.

Life is tough.  No one avoids pain.  Get over it and move on.

This is probably the best piece of advice you are going to get on this thread.

No need for thanks.  You are welcome.

[Cipher HighwindParticipant 1144]

MetalHead, how often do you wank? I wager that 95% of craving for relations~~~s can be remedied by waknking once per day, or more if needed.

[TheBardParticipant 974]

Yes masterbating a lot more will help, it worked for me. I would maybe hold off on having sex with another girl because I get the feeling you are kind of like me and I personally only have sex with girls I am dating and I too had trouble getting over the fact I wasn’t getting pussy anymore when I broke up with my exes even with the second one who was a s~~~ty relationship. If you just have a one night stand or something I think you might get attached or just crave that girl again. I would say get a fleshlight and get into your hobbies more. I get into my video games, comics, books, and anime which helps me. Yes you are going to miss pussy like I do, but just go masterbate and realize your ex isn’t going to work out. I miss my first girlfriend as she was a freakin big titted nympho who was always horny. The sex was amazing, but I wouldn’t do her again because I know the relationship wouldn’t last. Yes I think about having sex with her all the time, but I know never to act on it because it could land me in a bad situation.

[BiG_WeaselParticipant 116]

I’ve been there, too.  The hottest woman I ever dated wants to message me about once a year, to see if I’m still single.  The last time, I just had to tell her to just lose my number, and that its never going to happen.  She was one of those hell-bent on marriage, and I was having none of it.

[MetalHeadParticipant 40]

Haha, yea wanking is good therapy plus I fall asleep faster. I did the same thing when my first GF broke up with me. I should clarify, I don’t think it was clear in my OP, it’s not that I’m sitting around all day long thinking about it. It just happens at night when I’m just laying down trying to fall asleep and my mind starts racing. It’s just been happening more frequently and it’s been causing me to lose sleep. That particular night was very aggravating.

@thebard, you’re right about me. Sex gets me attached to a girl so I stay away from one night stands and FWB.

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