Better make an intro

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

Hey everyone. I’ve been lurking and occasionally posting replies here for the past few months but I’ve never fully introduced myself. I thought I had better do that now so I don’t get the “Cody” treatment. LOL 😉 <<<(obvious female trolling)
I started to notice evil, conspiratorial, controlling behavior in women 30 years ago when I became engaged to my first ex-wife. She asked me, in front of her friends, to “fetch” something for her and when I did, I caught her making a waving pinky motion to her friends, indicating I was wrapped around her finger. I just frowned and said it wasn’t funny or something and just let it go, but never forgot.
That first ex was always waving red flags in my face but being the simp that I was, just happy to be “getting some” on occasion, I went along with the crap and made babies with her. After marriage, the sex was more rare because she used it as a control tool and she just got fatter and meaner. We both had affairs, but she was first, last, and by far the most frequent offender. I also found out she was “embezzling” from me and our family because I let her control our finances and didn’t realize until near the end of the marriage.
I finally began “ghosting” her and we (seemingly) agreed to end the marriage peacefully. When she realized I was really going through with the divorce she changed tactics and went bats~~~ crazy, like a typical divorcing woman will do, with the violent outbursts, playing the “suicide card on both me and our kids, trying to turn them against me, threats of keeping my kids from me, etc.. Nothing but ugliness from her ever after.
I didn’t learn my lesson from that one because I immediately got hooked by another ex wife who was a single “independent” mom who had a good income, that is, until she got married and moved in with me. She quit her job and we tried to start a business that I borrowed from my retirement to fund, and I ended up doing most of the work, before she finally threw in the towel and just worked part time as more of a hobby than a source of income.
Her daughter, a future AWALT, was coddled and could do no wrong in her eyes (just like her mom). This ex wife also grew fat and immediately established the “no sex if your naughty” rules. I started seeing a pattern then. When I was trying to “work things out” with her I mentioned, in the kindest way possible, that I felt I was being used for my utility as a piggy bank and laborer, she gave me the most icy and horrifying look of disgust to let me know I had no right to point out the obvious. That was probably my big red pill moment, right there. I knew from then on, I had to find an exit.
Long story short, she divorced me when she realized I was onto her and I moved to another state to start over away from the exes.
Since then, I’ve dated a couple of Asian women and now I am currently cohabitating with a Filipina mother-of-two in a house I just bought for all of us. I regretted the over-commitment, finally became fully aware, and now, I am beginning the process of removing myself from most of the obligations I seem to have cornered myself into. She is pretty understanding of my feelings and doesn’t push too hard unless our annoying female “friends” convince her she is not getting enough out of me. I just push back and she reluctantly relents until the next time. To be honest, I don’t think I will ever fully GMOW because I really like the sex, but I now know I can get it on my own terms because I hold all the cards except the vagina card, which no longer holds sway over my decision making.
I think you get the jist of my journey and where I am now. I hope it was eye opening, if not entertaining.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Thanks for making an intro, but you’re not even in the same ballpark as that illiterate puke. At least you can put a goddam sentence together.

bstoff wrote:

She asked me, in front of her friends, to “fetch” something for her and when I did, I caught her making a waving pinky motion to her friends, indicating I was wrapped around her finger. I just frowned and said it wasn’t funny or something and just let it go, but never forgot.

I had a moment like that which will never forget and kicked myself for.

An ex of mine pleaded for me to sign up on facebook ( 2006?), and against my better judgement, I signed up. As soon as I did, she didn’t say “Hi! Great to see you!!”…… or any kind of welcome…….. she says “Ha ha I knew you would cave lol”.

Should have deleted here right there, instead I was on that social media toilet for almost 2 years, but when I finally noticed it was for women and gays, I decided I was out of there and she was the FIRST person to contact when I removed myself.

“How come you’re not on facebook anymore?”

“I am. In the VIP section. Zuckerberg invite only.”

That f~~~ed her up nicely and she never heard from me again.

bstoff wrote:

I don’t think I will ever fully GMOW because I really like the sex,

When you decide the juice isn’t worth the squeeze, you’re welcome anytime.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[HitmanParticipant]

bstoff wrote:

To be honest, I don’t think I will ever fully GMOW

hello , not sure why you’re here then, but welcome . maybe if you stick around a while you will see that,
NO, the juice is not worth the squeeze..however, who says YOU have to do the squeezing ?
we have a ” spock ” member ,so maybe a new avatar , and a new perspective will help you brother .
you don’t have to be celibate to be here..but living with a woman and her two kids HAS to suck.
think about an escape plan..then you’ll be going your own way,.
just some food for thought .you are at the bridge to freedom,it’s up to YOU to cross it !
good luck , don’t be shy,if the key-master says you’re welcome ,sit with us and share in this incredible place for men. you may start to feel differently about GYOW…
..imagine her and her kids are GONE and your banging the 22 year old cashier in YOUR place ..hmmmm…
THEN SHE HAS TO LEAVE FOR WORK …priceless…

[Anonymous 42]

bstoff wrote:

We both had affairs, but she was first, last, and by far the most frequent offender.

I call that “riding the marry’go’round” it’s a c~~~ carousel licensed by gynocentralia! The marry’go’round doesn’t just let men go (like the c~~~ carousel) a man is tied to it, and when she decides, the rope is tossed into the machinery, and the man is subsequently pulled off the platform and into the machinery for disposal.

bstoff wrote:

This ex wife also grew fat and immediately established the “no sex if your naughty” rules. I started seeing a pattern then.

Right there (no sex if you’re naughty) f~~~ that, get naughty with another woman, then shove her words up her ass, no sweetheart, MORE SEX FOR BEING NAUGHTY!

[hellraiderParticipant 2837]

well my friend, better late than never.

Have you ever thought about buying a fleshlight or similar sex toy?

It offers a lot of the rewards but no bulls~~~.

I dont think men in general are that atracted to sex, its the emotional bond that we crave.

bstoffers, i think that your filipino wife will slowly change the goals until she becomes an awalt.

I hope im wrong but be careful.

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

I’m actually making the gradual changes that will probably eventually lead to my exit. I’m getting myself uncommitted financially and emotionally from her and her kids. I’ve already announced to her that the house goes up for sale before I reach minimum retirement age, which is about 5 1/2 years from now. Then, I’m leaving the country with or without her and definitely not with her kids, who will still be in school by that time. She also knows the house will go up for sale if I see there is a major problem in our relations~~~.
She has stood up to her pushy “friends” and defended my decisions to do my own thing and live on my own terms. I think she genuinely likes me. We have great chemistry and generally get along well. The sex is the best we’ve ever had, probably because we don’t have “s~~~ tests” and other games between us that other couples have, but I also know I’m the gravy train, and she will try to keep me happy as long as she can keep riding.

[CPT ObviousParticipant 2730]

Thanks for taking the time to write a good intro. It is always interesting to hear someone’s backstory and how they arrived here.

I see some similarities in our stories. Unfortunately, guys like us like to learn the hard way by being kicked in the nuts by women repeatedly.

My advice: If you are going to cohabitate and be the “gravy train” then don’t take any s~~~ from her. I used to tell my girlfriend to either toe the line or get the f~~~ out. One phrase I repeatedly said was “if I feel I would be happier being alone than living with you, then we are done.”

Women will respect a strong man in a relationship. Look at your ex: when you let a woman walk all over you, then they will bulldoze your life.

"You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."

[HaymakerParticipant 226]

Welcome brother. Man you had it rough. Hope everything turns out well. Stay strong.

Always going big, Yeah you know the kid, Call me haymaker.

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

Funny, I actually said “I would rather be alone” once when she laid one of her ultimatums on me.

[BlakeGuyParticipant 287]

Sigh. you are not learning. You are exactly the type that should never be in a relations~~~. Just think you need to hear that. Your Pinay is using you. She is just smart enough to act more timid than the other 2. Pinay’s use different tactics.

Let the good times roll

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

You’re right, BlakeGuy. But the sex and companionship has, so far been worth it, in my opinion. She realizes her SMV and mine are moving in opposite directions, now. There are no palimony, or common law problems where I live, and she doesn’t have title to any of my property. I consider her to be a really good friend with benefits and she is also paying rent to me. The rent amounts to about half a mortgage payment, and I would be bored and lonely without her and our shared circle of friends, so I will stick it out for a while longer.
I know I sound like a puss when I read this back to myself, but I’m happier this way, for now.

[Y_Participant 4591]

bstoff wrote:

You’re right, BlakeGuy. But the sex and companionship has, so far been worth it, in my opinion. She realizes her SMV and mine are moving in opposite directions, now.

Hi and welcome. I feel that after two exes you probably would have had enough dude. No – I think you’re legit.

I hope you have prepared for what can happen. Have no illusions – females will have no hesitation to get rid of you when they can get a better deal elsewhere. Including the one you’re with now.

Don’t be caught blindsided. Read our horror stories and be entertained. Peace.

[bstoffParticipant 4865]

I don’t care if she monkey-branches away. I expect it to happen eventually, no big whoop. As long as there’s no big drama around it, she will just move out and I will have the place, and more of my money, to myself. I’ve already decided no one is ever moving in with me again. I plan to move to the Philippines and/or central America in five years, when I’m eligible for early retirement. I will bang what I want and move on whenever I want.

[Anonymous 42]

bstoff wrote:

I’m getting myself uncommitted financially and emotionally from her and her kids.

“Her and her kids” exactly! But what are you going to do about her Judge, lawyer, system, and law?

You’re talking as if she’s not “entitled” to the house, “entitled” to your retirement, “entitled” to carve out a big piece of you then monkey branch the f~~~ away!

Women turn Jack the Ripper rapist in their court of law!

Better plan on sending her big fat checks after she’s gone!

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