Beta teenager jailed for talking to a girl

[ResidentEvil7Participant 9548]

As far as having Asperger’s I don’t like being known as the “village idiot” because I’m not dumb. Even my mental health doctor says that compared to other people he sees I’m considered pretty smart. And my personal gym trainer at the club says that I’m one of his best clients. I taught myself how to fix and assemble desktop PCs and I love doing it. I’m just not lucky when it comes to applying and interviewing for a job. I just have a hard time around other people because of how I treated when I was growing up and even still to this day by family.

https://themanszone.webs.com/

[Anonymous 3]

ResidentEvil7 wrote:

I’m just not lucky when it comes to applying and interviewing for a job.

There is a sentence I learned from a 4 star general: “luck is a lot of work”.

You cannot go to a work interview expecting luck to have anything to do with it. There are a few tools you require and some preparation for the event.

Tools: you need public presentation skills, self-confidence skills and people reading skills. These tools are useful to everyone, but a a must have for asperguers. I can point to some starters: Public presentation skills course, body language.

The preparation is also very important. You do not go to work without being prepared for that work.
If you are doing a interview, what do you know about the firm that is interviewing for? What do you know about the job? What will it be your duties? What is your experience in that field? Review everything that you did and your are capable of doing that helps you perform that job.
You are selling your skills, how good of a seller are you? Practice what you can say, practice what you can respond to obvious questions, practice what you can respond to hard questions.

When you perform the interview, you already won or lost, according to the preparation you have done.

Apply this in life for everything, and you are a winner.

ResidentEvil7 wrote:

I just have a hard time around other people because of how I treated when I was growing up and even still to this day by family.

Turn it upside down. Remember that your family is responding to WHAT YOU WERE! They are configured to respond to ideas they made about you a long time ago. They have preconceptions. And by what you say, it is negative preconceptions.
You are not going to measure how others respond to you by the way your family responds to you. Do the opposite, dont do the mistakes you did with your family with others, and it will turn out differently!

Learn to establish boundaries and cut people from your circle of trust when they dont respect those boundaries, and the changes will be spectacular.

But most important than anything else: realize that you do not need anyone. Armed with that realization you deal with people in a different way, in a position of comfortable detachment, instead of needy.

[Anonymous 3]

ResidentEvil7 wrote:

I’m just not lucky when it comes to applying and interviewing for a job.

There is a sentence I learned from a 4 star general: “luck is a lot of work”.

You cannot go to a work interview expecting luck to have anything to do with it. There are a few tools you require and some preparation for the event.

Tools: you need public presentation skills, self-confidence skills and people reading skills. These tools are useful to everyone, but a a must have for asperguers. I can point to some starters: Public presentation skills course, body language.

The preparation is also very important. You do not go to work without being prepared for that work.
If you are doing a interview, what do you know about the firm that is interviewing for? What do you know about the job? What will it be your duties? What is your experience in that field? Review everything that you did and your are capable of doing that helps you perform that job.
You are selling your skills, how good of a seller are you? Practice what you can say, practice what you can respond to obvious questions, practice what you can respond to hard questions.

When you perform the interview, you already won or lost, according to the preparation you have done.

Apply this in life for everything, and you are a winner.

ResidentEvil7 wrote:

I just have a hard time around other people because of how I treated when I was growing up and even still to this day by family.

Turn it upside down. Remember that your family is responding to WHAT YOU WERE! They are configured to respond to ideas they made about you a long time ago. They have preconceptions. And by what you say, it is negative preconceptions.
You are not going to measure how others respond to you by the way your family responds to you. Do the opposite, dont do the mistakes you did with your family with others, and it will turn out differently!

Learn to establish boundaries and cut people from your circle of trust when they dont respect those boundaries, and the changes will be spectacular.

But most important than anything else: realize that you do not need anyone. Armed with that realization you deal with people in a different way, in a position of comfortable detachment, instead of needy.

[Anonymous 3]

Sorry for the duplicate. The site is getting buggy, because I cannot edit the 2nd post, neither any of them show up in the “last post”.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Sky-O wrote:

she diagnosed me

Spoiler Alert: It turns out she was the crazy one all along.

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3766]

Teenager in the article: stick to your hobbies ! Forget the opposite sex, not worth it !

I’m on the autism spectrum as well and I’m glad ! Yes, most aspects of social life growing up and even today aren’t easy to navigate but I have, since I found out I was an Aspie, embraced this peculiar brain of mine !

I’m also glad that my elevated “flight” propensity has kept me out of harm’s way when it came to women. If I got too close my brain would let me see all the things that could go wrong before they happened and tell me to get the fu.ck out of there. Every time…

So here I am, late thirties enjoying peace, quiet and the occasional adrenaline rush of my hobbies, all unhindered by anyone.

I hope this guy finds a quiet path to spend his life’s journey on.

[ResidentEvil7Participant 9548]

SpiderHerder wrote:

Teenager in the article: stick to your hobbies ! Forget the opposite sex, not worth it !

I highly agree. You only live once and some people not very long. You have to focus on what makes you happy and have it worth your time. I have my hobbies that I enjoy (bike riding, building 3D puzzles, shopping and decorating for my comfortable man cave bedroom, follow Republican politics, doing computer projects). I don’t have room for women or most people in my life.

SpiderHerder wrote:

I’m on the autism spectrum as well and I’m glad ! Yes, most aspects of social life growing up and even today aren’t easy to navigate

I know. Growing up in school wasn’t easy. I was picked on and bullied a lot to the point I would fake being sick on the phone to my dad so he calls me in sick. I felt isolated from other people. One thing I like about this site is that we are all gentlemen who get along; no fighting, no trolling, we talk like gentlemen. I need good people in my life.

My aunt and her 4 kids also give me a hard time, because I’m different than them and on disability. They’re in high school and college while I’m 37 and they expect me to take guff from them! I hate half of my family!

https://themanszone.webs.com/

[iMickey503Participant 12465]

My FAVORITE GIF of ALL TIME!

I’m sort of wondering what is going to happen on Halloween? Now THAT would be wonderful to watch. Women in a haunted house.. Oh the chaos!

I can see it now.

You are all alone. If you have been falsely accused of RAPE, DV, PLEASE let all men know about the people who did this. http://register-her.net/web/guest/home

[EGParticipant 1853]

Anonymous wrote:

Actually the majority of Aspergers have above average intelligence but lack social skills.

I tend to think “Aspergers” is the name they gave to the made-up “disease” of being a nerd. How many shy dorky types grow up to be stunning and charismatic? It happens pretty commonly, as is often demonstrated at many 20-year class reunions. Social skills are primarily learned, not in-born. My belief is that the psychology field has pathologized the condition of being smart but shy. Why wouldn’t they? A person with a “disease” is a captive customer.

Sky-O wrote:

I thought I had Asperger’s once but it turned out I was just really stressed out that day.

^ This right here

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

I read the article. Even by his own admission, it was not the first time he waited and approached that specific girl in that manner.

So on some level he needed to stop. (collaborate and listen)

[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

When it first happened I didn’t think much of it. I forgot about it because I had my exams and just thought it was weird behaviour.

It was so significant, she didn’t even remember it. She forgot about it because she had other things on her mind.

How important can something be if it’s hard to remember? Why does he need to be in jail over something she “didn’t think that much of”?

It’s gonna be illegal to breathe in a woman’s direction any day now. We’re gonna find an article that reads, “There was a guy behind me at an ATM and he wouldn’t stop breathing. I felt that soon I would be dead.”

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

That guy is really good looking. Any normal would be attracted to him, I would think.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

SpiderHerder wrote:

I’m also glad that my elevated “flight” propensity has kept me out of harm’s way when it came to women. If I got too close my brain would let me see all the things that could go wrong before they happened and tell me to get the fu.ck out of there. Every time…

My brain would do the same thing. When I got too close to women, my brain would let me see all the things that could go wrong before they happened and tell me to get the f*ck out of there.

Then I would tell my brain to ‘chill the f*ck out, and watch this’ and my brain would try to renegotiate but I wanted to see if I could endure and survive the inevitable chaos that the next pumpkin was going to unleash on my life.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2097]

Sky-O wrote:

I thought I had Asperger’s once but it turned out I was just really stressed out that day.
A chick I was banging during my blue pill era that has a psychology degree, was in bed next to me after a 3 day, binge fck-fest and she diagnosed me as an ‘INFJ’ and I had to research that online a few days later.

Women can perform a Myers -Briggs personality test by how you bang them now? 😉
That should save a lot of future conversation now

I’ve known a couple of friends who were possibly autistic or aspergers. I think a lot of incels might have it. Social awkwardness is a curse to such men. But I myself am becoming more of an invisible man in social settings. When youd prefer to read a book rather than chat up a pretty woman you know something has changed.

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

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