Best mate divorcing: nudge him towards MGTOW?

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

One of my very best mates of all is divorcing his wife, and the whole process has only increased my anger at the selfishness and entitlement of women nowadays: he’s completely devoted to her and their little kid, works his butt off in his extremely competitive, creative industry to provide for them, travels tons for work and accepts jobs he wouldn’t otherwise do to earn a good living, and then finds out that, while he’s been on the road, she’s had some Chad’s dick in her mouth. Blue piller that he is, he begged to keep the marriage together, but she refused; now he’s divorcing her and she won’t go graciously, making outrageous demands and threatening the poor bastard that he’ll never see his kid again if he doesn’t comply. Charming.

It’s all very fresh still and the guy is, I think, still in shock. He’s most definitely still blue pill (he’s already said to me that he’ll want to find someone else because he’s a “relationships guy”) but I can definitely see the red pill cogs beginning to whir in his brain as he looks at everything he put into their marriage, and the thanks he’s been repaid with.

I am very much of the view that people have to come to their own conclusions about things, and I don’t think there’s anything to be gained from encouraging someone to change their mind about something when they’re dead set against it. Then again, I think a recurring theme in the introductions here is that we guys often carry on in blue pill slavery until by chance we stumble upon red pill thinking and MGTOW somewhere. Reading the horror stories on here, I’m horrified to learn about you brothers who have suffered one hideous divorce only to go through a second, a third, or more, before realising that it’s not worth it, and I’d hate to see my friend go through all this again. He’s still young (mid-30s, like me).

So my question, brothers, is whether you have any thoughts on how I might gently make him aware of the MGTOW way? And do you do have any experiences yourselves of introducing a friend to our way of thinking? My plan is not to preach MGTOW to him but basically just to keep talking with him and subtly airing my views on women and relationships, and getting him to ask questions himself, because I honestly believe that rational thought for men will nowadays lead to MGTOW: in short, that relationships with today’s women fail a cost-benefit analysis.

But I would be curious to hear any thoughts or experiences you guys have of nudging a buddy towards MGTOW.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Will RobinsonParticipant 3479]

he needs a bodycam before she makes that one phone call

from what you say his wife has more red flags than a United Nations convention. He’s lucky to be rid of her. I just hope he can mitigate the damage of what’s about to come for him and his kid

May you walk in peace and happiness, May you and all mgtow, near and far walk in peace and happiness.

[Anonymous 42]

Flood his head with MGTOW so he can see what’s coming! And YES a BODYCAM or quick draw cellphone camera! He needs to be on guard against himself as well as her, tell him of his potential dyer situation! Hes a lamb in a bullpen! Tell him I said that!!!

[AwakenedParticipant 35201]

E-Mail him a Link to mgtow.com with a lil note explaining that there are a lot of Men that have gone through what he has and unfortunately much worse, and this is a site that he may learn a lot about Women, Relationships, and most Importantly about HIMSELF, and HIS Future.

Press Send, and Walk Away…..

If he brings it up in Conversation, then continue the Conversation

If He Doesn’t Mention It to YOU, then neither do you

He will have to Find His Own Way as WE ALL DO, and Unfortunately,that may mean more Train wreck Relationships for him.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Will Robinson wrote:

from what you say his wife has more red flags than a United Nations convention.

Love this! Quite right.

Will Robinson wrote:

I just hope he can mitigate the damage of what’s about to come for him and his kid

Me too–I know his kid is absolutely his priority, and I know he’s a great dad.

Anonymous wrote:

He needs to be on guard against himself as well as her

Definitely: I’ll talk to him about this.

Anonymous wrote:

Hes a lamb in a bullpen! Tell him I said that!!!

Haha!

Awakened wrote:

E-Mail him a Link to mgtow.com with a lil note explaining that there are a lot of Men that have gone through what he has and unfortunately much worse, and this is a site that he may learn a lot about Women, Relationships, and most Importantly about HIMSELF, and HIS Future.

Press Send, and Walk Away…..

If he brings it up in Conversation, then continue the Conversation

If He Doesn’t Mention It to YOU, then neither do you

He will have to Find His Own Way as WE ALL DO, and Unfortunately,that may mean more Train wreck Relationships for him.

This is a very good idea, thanks. As you say, he wouldn’t be Going His Own Way if he didn’t come to it himself, but no harm to drop the idea in. Thanks!

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Anonymous 6]

Anonymous wrote:

Hes a lamb in a bullpen!

After he spends some time here that fragile little lamb will transform into a tyrannosaurus!

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

He should leave the country, forget about the kid and everything.

She is gonna poison the kids brain anyway.

Go away, desapear, once she has a kid, no men, no income and is f~~~ed up, she is gonna cry buckets.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Carnage wrote:

He should leave the country, forget about the kid and everything.

She is gonna poison the kids brain anyway.

Go away, desapear, once she has a kid, no men, no income and is f~~~ed up, she is gonna cry buckets.

I know what you mean. Trouble is, he’s spent years building a career in this country and I don’t think he’s going to want to give all that up. But yeah, the Chad she’s been f~~~ing is about double her age and has kids with two other women: something tells me she’s soon going to realise he’s much of an ATM. I say: let the tears flow.

Anonymous wrote:

After he spends some time here that fragile little lamb will transform into a tyrannosaurus!

Damn, I wish those beasts were extinct. We need a meteor to wipe them out!!

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[MonkParticipant 16985]

LionOnTheLoose wrote:

… something tells me she’s soon going to realise he’s much of an ATM.

He’s still Blue Pill, so her monkey branching back is a very real danger. The quicker she burns out with chad, the greater the danger.

[neverAgainParticipant 1662]

Best mate divorcing: nudge him towards MGTOW?

yes you should but it may be too little too late for him.

All good things come to an end.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Monk wrote:

He’s still Blue Pill, so her monkey branching back is a very real danger. The quicker she burns out with chad, the greater the danger.

That’s a really good point. I’ve already warned him to be strong if she tries to come back. She’s not moved in with him, so hopefully that will keep it going for a bit longer…

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

Email him this thread

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

He needs you to help him through this.
Enlist other mutual friends if there are any to protect him from her, the police and the courts.

You don’t have to reveal MGTOW to him if he seems resistant; but you should definitely warn him about “the one phone call”.

He is at great risk for losing his son, his savings and pension, his future income, and possibly his freedom and even his life.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

bstoff wrote:

He needs you to help him through this.
Enlist other mutual friends if there are any to protect him from her, the police and the courts.

You don’t have to reveal MGTOW to him if he seems resistant; but you should definitely warn him about “the one phone call”.

He is at great risk for losing his son, his savings and pension, his future income, and possibly his freedom and even his life.

Thanks, mate, I appreciate it, and am definitely doing my best to help him through. I have already warned him about the phone call but will reiterate the message: I think he might be vulnerable to it, and indeed to all the other risks you mention.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

neverAgain wrote:

Best mate divorcing: nudge him towards MGTOW?

yes you should but it may be too little too late for him.

NOT TOO LATE – he said he views himself as a “relationship guy”.

911 – he needs MGTOW or have the s~~~ slapped out of him for even thinking about doing it again.

[ReclusParticipant 96]

I understand why you would be wary of trying to push a message down him, but he could get some practical advice and support here. Send him a link to this Marriage & Divorce forum here along with a note saying something like “I noticed a lot of the men on this site have been what you are going through and thought this may offer some insights”. Keep it all low key and then even if he is not interested, it will not be an issue.

[LionOnTheLooseParticipant 1315]

Really appreciated all the replies. Thought I’d post an update:

I talked to him about the grave dangers of getting The Call from her when she’s fed up with Chad and wants to come back. I think he’s got the message.

The latest thing is that he’s just found out she was cheating on him before they even got married, years ago. I just read what Arcturis wrote on one of the other posts about knowing how s~~~ty women are, and yet still being shocked when he sees it again: I know that feeling, and I see it with my mate because it’s a fresh wave of humiliation, of realising how trusting he was and how she was happy to p~~~ all over it.

Sometimes I dream of every boy being briefed on MGTOW when he hits puberty, I think. Just imagine how much pain it would save for men, and how it would scupper so many women and their bulls~~~ plans. One day, maybe.

There aren't holes in your pockets. It's called marriage.

[Anonymous 12]

Sometimes I dream of every boy being briefed on MGTOW when he hits puberty, I think. Just imagine how much pain it would save for men, and how it would scupper so many women and their bulls~~~ plans. One day, maybe.

in short:
having a proper father raise you.

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