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Melkiorr 3 years, 10 months ago.
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So I know few people that, for some reason, just can’t be single. I was gonna make this solely about women, but I remembered that my dad is the same way
Anyways, this is something that has always floored me. My sister all throughout high school, and even after, has been in and out of relationships and I think the longest she’s been single is about two weeks in 11 years? Something like that. My childhood friend just got out of a 2 year relationship, and before that she was constantly in and out of relationships. When she wasn’t in a relationship, she had me to keep her company. Now that she’s out of the 2 year, she posted on Facebook that she did something just to try and get a guys number. Pretty sure they broke up about 2-3 weeks ago. My dad just got in his 4th marriage, and his current wife he started dating about a month after his last divorce. And his last wife was roughly the same; he got married fairly shortly after divorcing my mom. While this really isn’t any of my business, all of this is why I’m making this post.
Meanwhile, I’m a single guy both with love and family life. All throughout high school and after I graduated I’ve basically lived by myself, albeit in my parents house. My dad and stepmom worked, my sister was always out, so I was left to my own devices. Now, I live out in the country 30 minutes away from the nearest big towns, been single for 3 years, and only have about 3 close friends besides my family. With this history, I’ve learned how to be self-sufficient, pretty much to the point now where being in a relationship would be more of a hassle for me since I’ve been so independent for so long.
So with my history, I really don’t get why people just can’t be single. Why is it such a taboo to be single? Why do I get weird looks when I tell people that I don’t enjoy going out to clubs and bars and whatnot? Why is it bad to enjoy being alone? I really don’t get it.
people have a hard time seeing a man be single.
they are taught that we need women.
that is part of the blue-pill dream-like state they can’t disconnect from.
pay them no mind.
you have it right .stay single if you want to. you don’t have to deal with nagging. you save money.
its a taboo b/c of biology, you can’t reproduce while single. 100,000+ years of evolution has led to all this shaming.
MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.
Having to face the fact that you have no personality, no individuality, no preferences and no sense of self is probably one of the hardest things people can do.
We’re essentially herd animals… most people are happy just following the leader and the thought of being the leader (even if just for themselves in their own lives) scares the crap out of them. This is one of the reasons cults and religion are so effective.
Anonymous24Likely fear based social conditioning is the reason most people behave the way they do to an extent. Most attractive women also have the advantage of an endless supply of chumps chasing after her. The last hot chick I dated had about 15 guys on deck just waiting for me to f~~~ up. She was literally never single from the time she first menstruated…
Men? Well I don’t know. In my younger days I did some pretty stupid s~~~ for women. I guess we are told women want a hero over and over… Hollywood breeds white knights. S~~~, the U.S.A. is the biggest white knight, all be it based on lies, globally. A country of fools like Chris Kyle who are so disillusioned that they feel like they are a hero even when they are talking about killing American citizens who are looting during a situation in which their government abandoned them, is also a country that is full of fools ready to bow, fight, steal, deceive, and kill based on lies to play the role of the Hero…
People have a habit of projecting their beliefs/values on other people. When they arnt doing that, they just label the other person with a negative label so that they don’t have to think of them as a fellow human being. I also have zero interest in starting a relationship, but I don’t mention that to many people. Being comfortable with oneself is something I don’t imagine most people can comprehend.
@ Doc
I haven’t seen you around the forums in a while. Good to read another one of your excellent post.
Hmmm, let’s try and see what wimminz have to say about this themselves. Prepare your bile buckets.
Anna Akana and Kalel. Two typical L.A. based basic bitches. No personality, no values, no sense of self. Their only claims to fame being is that they dated very well known YouTube stars.
Their reasoning is very much facepalm inducing. “I am too good of a catch to miss.”, “I want the intimacy.”, “I want a companion.”, “I want to learn something from them.”
But we all known the true reason: they are bland. They sip on Pumpkin Spice Latte’s, drink tea out of mason jars, preach veganism, snapchat their outings, open a bottle of wine after a “hard day out”. Basically, they are the most definitive definiton of a basic bitch. And deep down they know it, they know that as people they are uninteresting, but they are good-looking. And they desperately wish for people to find them interesting but they can’t. So they always search out the next guy to provide validation for them, to tell them that they are his sunshine, his favorite conversation partner, to make them feel special. And when that person that makes them feel special leaves, they panic, because suddenly they again feel less worthy.
So why can’t people stay single? Because people don’t know how to build themselves and have to rely on someone else to tell them that they are worth something. And not just a f~~~ing waste of space and Pumpkin Spice.
The right man at the wrong place can make all the difference in the world.
I understand the female need to constantly be “in a relationship”. It’s like women are empty vessels and they DEFINE themselves according to the man in their lives. They actually frown about “being single”, and use it to shame other people.
Ayn Rand once said:
“The correct orientation for man is to the world – and reality.
The correct orientation for woman is to man.”And if you also pay attention to how women speak, they use terms like “I need to find myself”, and they even talk like love is something they “find” which should come to them. Her focus and energy is expected to flow towards her.
But men CREATE themselves and a man knows love is what you GIVE.
His focus, and energy is outward.They are photo-negative / polar-opposite approaches to life.
It’s dangerous for men to think they should orientate themselves according to female values:
• Where “commitment” is more important than INDIVIDUALITY.
• Where “feelings” are more important than FACTS.
• Where “safety” is more important than FUN.These are female values and they will always hold a man back from his true potential.
So with my history, I really don’t get why people just can’t be single. Why is it such a taboo to be single?
You don’t get it, because you’re a man. Perfectly understandable.
It’s only taboo from the female perspective.
They can’t even CONCEPTUALIZE preferring a stand-alone identity of their own.The harder you are shamed for “being single”…
….reveals how much of a TRAGEDY they consider it to be.So when a woman says “that’s probably why you’re single”, she’s not saying anything negative about you. She just gave herself away and told you “being single” is the worst goddam thing she can possibly imagine. She can’t even FUNCTION on her own.
Nobody needs to watch video above from Yuri “why we can’t ever be single”, because the female doesn’t even understand it herself. No woman will ever produce a video that says “I’m an empty vessel and define myself by the man I attach myself to”. That’s why women can’t ever be single. Her explanation for it his always going to be bulls~~~.
“Wanna know why we can’t ever be single?”
“Already do know. The correct orientation of man is to the world – and reality. The correct orientation of woman is to man. You’re not DESIGNED to be single or stand on your own. You need a man to latch on to, or you don’t feel like a complete person. That’s why you use “single” as a shaming tactic and attempted insult. Because you think it SUCKS. How do you like that. You’re an open book. So you can stop pretending like you’re some kind of great mystery.”
If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.Patrice Oneil said it all when he said something to the effect of “You are nothing without me. Your happiness and sense of self depends on my happiness and who I am. You can be a queen when I make you into one but I am the king and without me making a place in the world for you, you have none.”
@ Doc
I haven’t seen you around the forums in a while. Good to read another one of your excellent post.
Thank you, sir! Just doing my thing and glad someone likes it.
Ayn Rand once said:
“The correct orientation for man is to the world – and reality.
The correct orientation for woman is to man.”Do you happen to know where in her writings this comes from? I can’t seem to find it through a Google search.
". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée
Anonymous1Every relationship i’ve had that’s ended (all of them), she’s entered a new one almost immediately after. it’s varied from 2 days to 3 months, and there are no exceptions. its an exact science.
Pre-MGTOW I coudln’t work how these women could be so cold (i felt like i’d been left wounded on the battlefield) its always a seamless transition to someone new without a glance. If she does look back at somepoint, she’s looking for an orbiter or triangulation.
how weak and f~~~ed up must someone be, that the moment they’re alone they don’t even exist in their own heads.
Anonymous11Every relationship i’ve had that’s ended (all of them), she’s entered a new one almost immediately after
That was true for me too for a 30 year stretch ranging from 3 weeks to 3 years of relations~~~.
We’re talking freakishly quick. In one case it went from you’re the love of my life one week, and then three weeks later she’s “happy” in her new relationship while inviting me to come over to cheat. WTF???
Another classic from my past featured her boyfriend prior to me, my best friend, and me all at the same time before she dumped me.
They’ve already lined up our replacement before they ever let go. I know some guys who have to have a woman and operate the same way.
The intentionally being cruel after the fact part is what I’ve always struggled to get my head around. Even with my vastly increased Red Pill knowledge, I still can’t understand it. I just don’t work that way.
Yes, being single is way less stressful.
Since most of my relationships ended by finding out I was being cheated on, I’d say mine ended before they ended. Maybe it proves time travel, that a relationship can end before it ends….Women’s great contribution to science.
My ex CAN’T be alone, ever. Last Father’s Day my girls spent the night before with me. By 11 the next morning she was texting them wanting them to come home. We weren’t divorced yet and I wasn’t looking for a fight, so I took them back by about 11:30. When I got there, I saw that her boyfriend’s car was gone. He has two daughters, so I’m sure he was spending the day with them. Instead of having an afternoon by herself, she wanted the girls back with her, even if it f~~~ed up my Father’s Day.
I am so grateful that I don’t hate myself so much that I can’t stand to be alone for one afternoon. I would actually feel sorry for her if she wasn’t such a f~~~ing c~~~ most of the time. It must be tiring to need to fill every minute with some interaction that keeps you from being by yourself. It has to be a miserable existence.
At least I hope it is.
Order the good wine
Anonymous1A common by-product of blue pill thinking is projecting your own sense of Morality onto a woman in a relationship. This is kamikaze thinking and will leave you in emotional turmoil when the s~~~ hits the fan.
Thinking she won’t cheat or leave you for some other dude in the blink of an eye cos you wouldn’t. That’s bulls~~~ thinking. I wised up, but it took me ten Long years. I’ve never met A SINGLE woman with upstanding morales. They can talk the talk so well though, like a slick car salesmam on Coke.
Don’t you believe it man, don’t you f~~~ing dare!!
I realise this post is a tad off topic, but you know, who cares.
It must be tiring to need to fill every minute with some interaction that keeps you from being by yourself. It has to be a miserable existence.
Believe me, it is. I’ve been single most of my adult life and enjoy being alone… I have hobbies, interests and my work to occupy me and sometimes I just enjoy sitting around by myself doing absolutely nothing. I’m sure most of us are quite similar in that regard.
Now imagine being able to do NONE of that because you’re too busy soaking in other people’s drama and bulls~~~. Imagine having NO self worth, no introspection, no ability to look into your own eyes and feel good about what you’re seeing.
Last year I was casually involved with a woman who wanted to go to one of those “float me” isolation chamber places. Well, I think she just wanted to post about how awesome it was on Facebook because after we went, she told me she had the worst time ever.
For me, it was lovely, shutting the entire world out and just being alone for an hour with minimal effort expended in just floating in the dark and silence. It was bliss. For her, it was a panic. She said she could never get comfortable, had bad “day dreams” in the dark, got up and left the chamber several times… felt the whole experience was terribly wrong.
I was like “I’m sorry you had a bad time of it… ‘There is nothing in the cave except that which you bring with you.'” She didn’t appreciate the awesome Star Wars reference or the truth of my point.
We don’t talk any more, as you may have guessed.
Now imagine being able to do NONE of that because you’re too busy soaking in other people’s drama and bulls~~~.
I’m actually going through this now, but it isn’t my relationship that it’s happening with. My sister cheated on her husband (because he wasn’t giving her enough attention even though she was gone basically all day at work. Kinda hard to give attention to someone when you’re always at work), and ever since her husband has been coming to me about their relationship and how he doesn’t know what to do and all that he’s doing to try and fix it and blah blah. I love the guy, since he’s the closest thing to a brother I’ve ever had, but holy s~~~, even after I told him to stop dragging me into it, he’s still trying to drag me into it. It’s at the point where it is distracting me from my normal life since, on one end it’s my sister, but at the other it’s someone I consider a brother (and someone who is innocent in this scenario).
Although this seemed to be a tangent, it actually goes back into the post since she immediately went to another guy as soon as she felt that she was lonely despite being in a relationship. It’s f~~~ing stupid.
My ex wife confided to my mum that she was scared of being single. So when she divorced me she already had a replacement lined up. I don’t care because whilst she’s obese I’m in really good shape marathon training.
Being in a couple/family is the story that we’re told – it’s sold to us as the aim. So we need to rethink all that and question it – but it’s not always easy to discount your social conditioning.
I had a close lady friend once. Great girl, smart, witty the works y’know. Could spend hours taking to.
Big big flaw. Got hooked up with a lonely married bluepill man twice her age, who was afraid to divorce his wife who had almost all his money and never home. Went through a whole series of emotional ups and downs. Called me up one night sobbing saying he refused to leave his wife.
She asked me if it was a good idea to be a “mistress” on the side. A secret lover. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. So afraid of being single, any notion or pretense of pride and self worth out the window just for the need of a provider.
The tears continued until she found someone else and then he was dropped almost immediately.
Monkey branching! I just don’t get this s~~~. Whenever I meet a girl that has a boyfriend but is obviously looking…I’ve always just moved along. My gut always just told me she wasn’t worth the drama and she’d eventually end up putting me in the same position where she was “with me” but looking.
I’d find a girl much more attractive if she just said hey, I’ve been single for the last year and a half working on myself and holding out for the right guy. Funny part is…if you tell them that about yourself they think you are weird or a loser who couldn’t get a girl for the last year and a half. Apparently they’d find you more attractive if you were like them and just settled for whatever came your way for the time being while constantly looking to upgrade and not giving a s~~~ about who you hurt or f~~~ over along the way because hey…you weren’t single!
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