Being Co-dependent in a Marriage or Relationship

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Married men and those who are in a long term relationship have a very hard time understanding that they have become too dependent on their significant other to validate their existence as a provider at the expense of their sovereignty. She becomes a slave master and the husband is the slave on the plantation. His fear of losing his wife over rides his logical brain and he makes excuses for her bad behavior towards him so he doesn’t lose his purpose in life or children if they have any.

Marriage was designed to be a contract where two people would be faithful and co-dependent on each other for survival for both them and their future offspring. But instead it is being corrupted by women with personality disorders who want to control their husband and utterly make him depend on her for his reason to live.

In the majority of these cases the wife or girlfriend systemically destroys the man’s life by removing all his friends and hobbies and molding him into the perfect slave and many men who after being let go can’t come to terms that they sold out their morals and logic to maintain the co-dependence of the relationship.

Women are now able to break the co-dependence and instead make the man only be dependent on them because they will always have the government to fall back on to become their male provider instead. Men on the other hand do not have the same supports when confronted with the same scenario and in fact find themselves in much worse situation via family court and possible jail sentence from false accusations.

After a divorce or a long term relationship many men will either gravitate to find another woman because they need to be wanted and loved again and enter into another co-dependent relationship or go into a deep depression and contemplate suicide. Unfortunately in our modern world today co-dependence is one sided as the majority of women will not do the things that men require in order for them to be able to work long hours at a job instead making them miserable and depressed.

This also extends to your parents and siblings and any other family member as they want to hold you back because they need to rely on you to be like them and depend on them so that they can use you for their own needs.

When a woman decides to divorce or leave her man he doesn’t know what to do with his new found freedom because he lost the ability to properly rationalize and use logic when it came to the relationship. He can’t understand why he is being let go after all the things he had to endure and put up with just to appease his wife or girlfriends unrealistic expectations.

If you find yourself in this situation do not fear your new found freedom instead embrace it. Give yourself time to heal it is a long road but what does not break you makes you stronger and you will become reborn and stronger for it. For those still in a bad marriage or long term relationship take the steps necessary to break free from this dependence learn that it is a prison keeping you on the plantation and start planning your escape. No man should be held back ask for advice and learn from our mistakes and you too can forge a path to freedom.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

Thank you so much for this post. I agree with you 100%. Just like you mentioned, this doesn’t only apply to girlfriends/wives, sometimes the people holding us back the most are the people closest to us like our family or friends.

[Anonymous 13]

Great post.

We’re living in a MATRIX.

We can help some take the redpill and to get out.

It is like after an extended stay in prison.
Once out you need to readjust.
To get used to being FREE.

REPROGRAM.

We can save some but we can’t save everyone.

BUT,

I, for one, shall never stop trying.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Rhino-

Great post brother.

Wife = Slave Master

A man is more than a farm animal pulling a plow for his often ungrateful wife.

A man is not put on this earth to sacrifice all of his time, thoughts and dreams in an effort to please a heartless bitch of a wife who can not be pleased.

God did not intend to make women supreme master over men.

Say goodbye to the accursed plantation. Say hello to freedom.

[ghostParticipant]

I have a supportive family so I won’t say they have held me back in any way. I don’t think I’ve ever been held back by a woman either. They usually bail when they realize I won’t bend the knee. It has happened over and over again. I get tossed for a beta simp and then she resurfaces after a period of time. Once you see how the matrix works, nothing surprises you and female nature becomes so obvious. As for dependency, it depends on your own mental strength. I have been emotionally dependent at times but never dependent in a co-habitation situation. I always knew it’s a slippery slope. The best way to go about it is to always keep 7-8 women on tap and never get serious with any of them.

[NomadicExpatParticipant 1785]

Great post, Rhino!

You’ve hit the nail on the head; marriage used to be a codependent endeavor. Then women swindled the ability to renig on their responsibilities while simultaneously getting a government backed Guarantee to get free cash and prizes every month, because of vagina.

It’s impossible to be in a codependent relationship when the other party can renig at any time and still get full benefits.

The only way for the system to be balanced:

When women get divorced, they ALSO must provide the same “Quality of Life” he was promised at the time of marriage: i.e. -Ex Wife is forced by law to give ex Husband no less than three blowjobs per week, wash his clothes weekly and do a full blown house clean once a month.

^^^Let’s see how many Chad’s want to jump on a divorced single mom who has to “service” her ex husband weekly.

[bstoffParticipant 4878]

This is a good thing for blue or purple-pillers to read who are having a hard time letting go of whomever or whatever is keeping them pining after women/relationships and pussy in general.
It’s probably a lot like giving up smoking or booze.

[MagpulParticipant 59]

Rhino wrote:

Marriage was designed to be a contract where two people would be faithful and co-dependent on each other for survival for both them and their future offspring. But instead it is being corrupted by women with personality disorders who want to control their husband and utterly make him depend on her for his reason to live.

This is exactly where my last relations~~~ was headed. She was all lovey and accepting of my lifestyle and hobbies in the beginning. Then she tried to mold and change me to what she wanted me to be. Tried to get me to give up the gym and my supplements, tried to turn me into some religious nut with her, tried to get me to drink all the time. In the end I wasn’t having it, and she cut it off and got back with her ex only days later after speaking to my mom about wedding venues.

Crazy borderline bitch.

[Anonymous 3]

Great post! Rhino Your insight into the situation is very accurate.
Having been taught to be dependent on a very sick ( in a lot of ways ) mother, it took therapy for me to break out of developing codependent relationships. A codependent walks around with his umbilical cord in his hand waiting to attach it to someone.
Leaving gets you physical distance but not emotional distance. Learning to say “No” is what actually frees you up.
Lots of good replies to this thread also.
If someone could tell me what a purple pill is, that would b helpful. Finally getting free from codependency is a process. I needed help. I was one f~~~ed up trapped in the BP matrix dude. I live alone & am as happy as a clam.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Interestingly I did some research into the psychological meaning of co-dependence and it said that co-dependence was when a wife for example, let’s her husband drink thus being a co-conspirator in his drinking.

Hence she is co-dependent on alcohol.

I think people in relationships are interdependent but women have truly turned against men and relationships are simply a means to an end with women. No interdependence for them. They want independence.

I got independence…it’s free girls.

You just got to pull up your own bootstraps.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Point Of No ReturnParticipant 4074]

Excellent post Rhino!

Know when it is your duty to give them zero explanations for your actions.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Thanks for the post. It is spot on to what I have been feeling over the last few days. I’m always able to come to this site and find some wisdom that addresses what I am going through.

Am just ending a 30 year relationship/marriage and feeling lost without a woman in my life and with freedom looking me in the face.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

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