Being Bitter About The Past

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

As each decade goes by, I think about the past years and have regrets about opportunities that I missed out on. Sometimes I wonder how my life would’ve been different if I had finished several college courses instead of dropping them. Or there may have been a certain woman I was talking to, and I was too shy to ask her for her phone number. Or maybe there were certain investment opportunities that I failed to recognize. There are several companies I wish I would’ve invested in 20 years ago. If I did that, I wouldn’t have the financial problems I’m dealing with today.

At this stage of my life, I’ve come to the conclusion that I have to look at what is available to me today. I can do something today to make my life better in the future. I can still go to college if I make a serious plan to get the money, and invest the time and effort into making good grades. I can still find single women to date if I’m willing to search for them. I can still invest my savings in small companies that have the potential to increase in value. I may be living in a different time now, but the life experience of the present is very similar to my past. The difference is: I am fully aware of the consequences of being lazy and careless when it comes to self-improvement and planning my future. I don’t want to experience those consequences anymore.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[AttonParticipant]

Try to simplify what you want to do, break it down even more.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

I myself realize that is it not what you have, it is what you know or can do. Maybe it can help that you can try to be the best shape in your life that can help with you getting more energy to have a more productive life maybe. I myself lost over 40 pounds of fat and I know that I am going to keep it off, because there is no way that I am drinking coke again. I am not saying that you are big or anything, but ever since I lost the weight, I went down a clothes size or two, I have a lot more energy because I eat much more healthy now, I can do things with much less effort than I did before and the best part is that I have good moral. I also muscle trained at one point and I also try to brisk walk everyday at least 30 minutes a day which helps. I have all these benefits and I only did small changes every few months to see what works and what does not work. If a guy like me has all these benefits, imagine how much better you would feel if you even put more work than me. As for school, maybe you should go into an apprenticeship. At least you will get paid while they train you which can also help you with your finances. You can go anywhere from cooking, to plumbing to even being a welder. Try to make it a bucket list goal by trying to be certified in your field also, so that your education will be recognized all over the country.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

Thanks for the advice, Enjoy The Decline.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

I would like to apologize if my post was personal. I would also like to point out that when I was a young adult, I was actually in great shape and I could of even done like 90-100 push ups at one point. Anyways, what I said to you are just suggestions.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

FunInTheSun wrote:

Thanks for the advice, Enjoy The Decline.

Your welcome, was worried about your response.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[experiencedParticipant]

If ANYONE here has EVER heard of this, I’d be Damn glad to hear about it from you:

Guy marries, she divorces him.
He’s not “bitter” (i.e. has learned nothing)
So he marries again, another divorces him, he has even less left over.
He’s not “bitter” he tries again and isdivorced again . . .

Has anybody here EVER heard of a woman say, “Maybe marriage is not the answer”.

I’m guessing NO, it never happens. They will keep sending him back into that rigged arena until nothing is left but a blood stain and some bowel scraps in the dirt.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Anonymous 0]

Sounds positively Roman gladiator, Experienced

Women will never say marriage is not the answer because it serves them so well. Some men wise up after the first time and see it for what it is; a tool for controlling men and getting cash and prizes. They don’t like it when men call them on it. (Sarcasm) Breaks my heart (Sarcasm)

[Anonymous 0]

Oh and women will never say marriage is not the answer unless she is number three and she knows there is no payout.

[Anonymous 42]

Anonymous wrote:

Sounds positively Roman gladiator, Experienced

I second that! Well said! He’s the guy you see riding a bicycle and living in a cardboard box by age 60.

[HitmanParticipant]

We live and learn.
If you live long enough you realize that every person missed certain opportunitys..
Try to look forward and realize part of the human condition is to be imperfect.

[Buller100Participant 2189]

Looking at what you missed is not a good way of thinking, we all miss good an bad some poor souls were at the WTC 9/11, terrible.

Each day is a new life a new start, no one drives a car looking in rear view mirror, it’s fine to look back smile and ponder but the future is where you need to focus your efforts.

Do not look for a good women to marry, she may be perfect for a year or two then you will have an enemy trying to get you to slave for them for there life time.

[FunInTheSunParticipant 8286]

Enjoy The Decline wrote:

Your welcome, was worried about your response.

No need to worry. There was a time, when I was in my 20s, when I’d go to the park and workout. I’d do a lot of situps, pushups, and chinups. You know why? ‘Cause I was trying to impress this girl I was dating. Later on, I joined the Army and I got an overdose of exercise. Life is funny.

Now that I’m not dating/trying to impress women, I’ve gotten fat and lazy. I am thinking about making more healthy choices in my life, though. I don’t drink as much soda as I used to. And I hardly ever eat candy bars or cake. I think exercising is a chore. If I start exercising again, it’s going to be something easy, like, walking or riding a bike. I like to use the tennis wall at this park that’s about 2 miles away. I should do that more often.

"I saw that there comes a point, in the defeat of any man of virtue, when his own consent is needed for evil to win-and that no manner of injury done to him by others can succeed if he chooses to withhold his consent. I saw that I could put an end to your outrages by pronouncing a single word in my mind. I pronounced it. The word was ‘No.’" (Atlas Shrugged)

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

FunInTheSun wrote:

Enjoy The Decline wrote:

Your welcome, was worried about your response.

No need to worry. There was a time, when I was in my 20s, when I’d go to the park and workout. I’d do a lot of situps, pushups, and chinups. You know why? ‘Cause I was trying to impress this girl I was dating. Later on, I joined the Army and I got an overdose of exercise. Life is funny.

Now that I’m not dating/trying to impress women, I’ve gotten fat and lazy. I am thinking about making more healthy choices in my life, though. I don’t drink as much soda as I used to. And I hardly ever eat candy bars or cake. I think exercising is a chore. If I start exercising again, it’s going to be something easy, like, walking or riding a bike. I like to use the tennis wall at this park that’s about 2 miles away. I should do that more often.

Thank you for describing yourself more. As for me, it was the coke that did it. Did you know that fructose sugar actually makes you eat more because it tricks your mind to think that you are not full yet, even though you really are full? If you just google the side effects to fructose sugar like fructose corn syrup in coke, you would be horrified by all the side effects it would give you. I hope I helped you in some way but you did say that you are not drinking coke as much as you use to which is a good sign. I really appreciate your reply.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

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