Beginners' guide / check list to dumping her

[SymoParticipant 42]

Gentlemen, I would like to throw out an invitation to all who feel they can ad – to create, a sort of “beginners’ guide to dumping that bitch”.

Women are NOT known for handling the removal of their meal ticket very well. As such, many seem hell bent on reeking havoc post dumping.

Everything from cutting up you clothes to sabotaging a mans credit rating and much, much worse

I think, having gone through this myself – that our wisdom would serve well those about to go through this. I know I got caught short on a few things (like not changing the locks  – she had a spare key made)… etc etc.

I hope this will serve to a). give men confidence through knowledge b). The smarts to not get caught short.

my suggestions so far are

– ensure you change the locks, regardless

– cancel credit cards and contact bank if she ever had access (this I will NEVER do in the first place)

– change ALL your passwords – for everything

– swap cars with a mate for a few days / weeks and leave it down the street of a night

– advise your family of your actions ONLY after you have done it

– tell absolutely no one prior

– warn work, I had a nutter chase me down at work, put on a right crazy show – its not a good look..

– pack up everything that was hers & dump it back to her house / or parents. don’t give her an excuse to “drop in”

– make sure you get back everything prior

– avoid sleeping with them for atleast a month prior – (“I’m Pregnant”!) or

 

Thank you

Symo

“Ladies – eat a dick”

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

When it comes to dumping a guy, a woman will have checked out of the relationship long ago and will probably have monkey branched the new guy months ago.  You will get the “I need space” or “I love you but I am not in love with you” speech and they will be off with their new boyfriend without giving a second thought to how you are.  When I split with my wife because I found out she was having an affair, she seemed more interested in posting on Facebook about how she was going to the gym the next day.

When a guy dumps a woman, in her and her friends eyes he will be the biggest c~~~ in the history of the world and she will be fully justified in doing all of the things listed above as revenge.

Actually, I think it is pretty rare for a guy to do the dumping, it seems most women move on when they think a better meal ticket is on the horizon.

 

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[WolfParticipant 890]

I think you have a good list. With this said, a guy can be proactive in regard to some of the stuff, and it will never become an issue. Stuff like:

1. Cancel credit cards – NEVER have a joint credit card (or bank account) with a woman. There’s no valid reason for it if you’re both financially independent. If she’s financially dependent on you, why? Why are you with her??

2. Change all your passwords – don’t give her your passwords. There is no reason for her to have this info in the first place. Maintaining some independence and personal space in a relationship is healthy. If she disagrees, then that is a HUGE RED FLAG.

Depending on the acrimony involved, you may want to cut all ties:

– Block her on Facebook

– Change your cell number or install an app to block her calls and texts

– If she lives with you, make sure she moves out – not you

– Make sure you pack her s~~~, and do it quickly

– Any mail for her, mark return to sender on it and drop it back in the mail

The idea is to not give her any opportunity to interact with you and take revenge and/or manipulate you. She will procrastinate on getting her stuff or updating her mailing address in order to keep some connection, A chick is typically not a happy camper when she’s dumped, so you want to remain clear.

[StandUpGuyParticipant 334]

These are are all good ideas. However, I will offer my way of dumping: Get her to dump you. To tell the truth it can be easy to do without much trouble.  I will go point by point.

1. Women love shame and judge men in terms of success or status; that is where they think their power base comes from anyway. Simply agree with her that you are a loser or whatever in a non confrontational non passive aggressive way. Let them know that she deserves better; but be subtle.

2. Give them space and encouragement. Play to their egos about how “strong, independent, unique ect… she is “; and how that inspires you. Again do not over do it. This gets her thinking about herself and that you are not the meal ticket she was looking to hook and fry.

3. Avoid the old and new arguments but do your best not to let her run your life or give in to her demands; make the same lame excuses she does and repeat points 1 and 2.

4. Put yourself to work and keep the rewards as much as possible. This could be a hobby, extra work at the office or even friends and family.

5. Get ready as the beginning of the thread suggests. Being prepared for the dump is a real critical factor. For example, before my wife and I split I had the house sold had bank accounts split all under the idea that we were growing into a new life. You do not have to lie or be deceitful. I really did want a new life.

Before you know it she is giving you the dear John letter.

This has worked for me in the past.

[WolfParticipant 890]

StandUpGuy wrote:

However, I will offer my way of dumping: Get her to dump you. To tell the truth it can be easy to do without much trouble.

This is clever, but it may not work, depending on how much value she sees in you. If she sees a lot of value, then she will attempt to manipulate you into what makes her happy. I’ve experienced this. In my case, she even pretended to be sick in order to amplify her victimization.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Most of those steps should be unnecessary as you shouldn’t open yourself up to that sort of liability with a woman in the first place. Seriously, why the f~~~ would you tell any woman your passwords?

As to the breakup itself, I find two methods to be superior to all others: Either disassociate entirely and ghost her or make her think the break-up is her idea. A third option is waiting for her to f~~~ up in some indisputable way so the split is her fault, which she will inevitably do at some point, but such things can be hard to schedule.

F~~~ing her best friend has a certain style, but is almost guaranteed to become complicated.

[RoyDalParticipant]

StandUpGuy wrote:

Get her to dump you.

This worked out the best for me. If it was “her idea”, then there was a lot less mess in the long term.

It’s academic these days. I’m out of the game completely now. My precious time and hard earned money are going to other diversions.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[BigDParticipant 3024]

I do believe this would be a good list.  However, we need to let it be known quick about breaking up with someone it is important to realize you have to do it for you and not to listen to society on how to do it.  For instance, here are some of the things I was told to do when breaking up with a girl or trying compromise with a girl that I should have realized was BS.

1.  Real men break up face to face to communicate the reason for the break up.

No.  You are breaking up with this person for a reason.  Her happiness is not your concern.  It is not your job to give her self-help, closure, or a sense of well being.

2.  Sleep on it.  You may change your mind in the morning.

No.  Do it as soon as you have any doubt about the person.  “Love” does funny s~~~ to the brain.  You over look too many flaws in someone and fall in love with the image you have of them that is in your mind.  You will fail to see the pretty monster that is before you.

3.  Have her break up with you instead.

Again, you are trying to spare her feelings.  Her happiness is not your responsibility.

4.  If she hints at breaking up with you, try to ease the issue. and talk it out.

Nope.  If she is that stupid get her the f~~~ out of your life.  If she is trying to play f~~~-f~~~ games fishing for you to make her feel better about herself then she is too weak minded to be part of your life.  Get her out of your life.  If she is willing to f~~~ with your emotions for no reason accept for self gratification, what else is she willing to do for self gratification?  God forbid you have children with this person.

5.  If she has problems understanding something you find simple, try to explain it to her in a way she will understand.

Nope.  If simple concepts and ideas in life are beyond her you need to walk the f~~~ away.  She is a danger to herself and those around her.  Again, do not get her pregnant.

6.  If she tries to shame you to get you to not have sex with you try to see her point of view.  Ex:  “You just look at me as a sex object.”

This is the biggest bulls~~~ I have ever dealt with.  Who the f~~~ else am I supposed to be wanting to have sex with?  Your f~~~ing mother?  I’m f~~~ing horny, relieve that stress.  If not I will find someone who will.  Every woman in the world has a vagina, an asshole, and a mouth.  The chances of finding a girl that uses all three in any order of your pleasure is very high.  If they think sex has some kind of magic power over you either reverse that s~~~ by letting her know she’s a dime a dozen and easily replaced, or just walk away.  I like doing both.  Nothing shatters a woman like finding out her sexual value is 0.

 

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[StandUpGuyParticipant 334]

You are correct. Women will play games like being sick; a very popular one. It really is a two pronged approach. The point is to get then thinking about their identity so they will focus less on the relationship and look for another man to leech from. The trick is to know that they are trying to manipulate and pull on your emotions; do not fall for it.

[BDParticipant 1146]

sidecar wrote:

Either disassociate entirely and ghost her

Yes Yes Yes! When you dump her, ghost her entirely in every way.

BigD wrote:

If she hints at breaking up with you, try to ease the issue. and talk it out. Nope.

If she says “I need space” or “I don’t think this is working out”, agree with her, and send her on her way immediately. To ignore this red flag is to underestimate your enemy, she will be fishing for new c~~~, extracting and hiding your resources, and preparing to destroy your life.

Because in order to be able to think, you have to risk being offensive.

[SymoParticipant 42]

Hey Big D, that’s the great constructive info that I really think will help those looking to cut a women free. I particularly like the reference to “Nothing shatters a women like finding out her sexual value is 0″

There is some great contribution regarding not ending up in a situation where your women has bank details / passwords etc  – all the things that I’ve avoided, however I wanted to really give faith / guidance to those in the worst of situations that have made such mistakes but want to rectify and you seem to have hit that nail on the head.

Interestingly as I write this – 2 guys walked into my office & we started talking about the whole marriage thing. They were genuinely shocked when I said ” hey if you think I’m bitter, just remember that statistically 1 of you 2 will be divorced – would you put your entire life savings on red? – cos that’s what you two have done” – they were shocked & didn’t even realise the % of them being f~~~ed over. but that’s  side issue…

anyways, cheers for the input mate

Symo

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Yeah, you want to make it seem like “HER idea”. Women are terrible losers. So if you can repulse her and get her to leave (easy!) you have it made. There is a strategy I would strongly recommend here. It takes hypergamy and female nature and makes it work FOR you.

“Feign Beta”.

• Come home on a random Tuesday and tell her you lost your job. She will begin planning her departure by the end of the week. You will still go to work the next day, but you will make like you are out looking for work.

• You have no interest in sex because you’re preoccupied with worries about work.

• You “worried” because you don’t have enough savings.

• Tell her how beautiful she is and how much she means to you. “You’re the reason I breathe”. You “can’t live without her”. Women hate that s~~~. Shower her in adoration etc. You get the idea.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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