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Introduction
Hello! I’m excited to introduce myself to the crew. I’m 39 years old. Never Married. No Kids. Four years ago I started my own company. One of the old fashioned kind of companies where we have a location with a lease, employees, clients that we interact with in person, payroll taxes, vendors, suppliers, creditors, etc. It’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It took all of me: physically, financially, mental, emotionally. I’ve had to unzip my head, pour out everything I ever thought I knew about anything, throw out the trash, dust off the good stuff and put it back in.
Talk about Red Pill Moments! Observing men and women in action as employees, clients, friends, family members… all from my new role… I could go on forever about all of it.
As a result, I’ve spent the last 4 years, maybe more, as a ‘ghost’, as defined by the MGTOW glossary. I’ve focused on putting all of my resources in to creating a cornerstone for my personal sovereignty and building a legacy through my company.What I am here for
I was off the plantation before I realized what the plantation was or that other men where on it. I’ve taken so many red pills that now I’m an addict and a dealer. I went Galt at age 18. That’s when I read Atlas Shrugged for the first time. After years of focusing on my career, I now want to un-ghost and remerge into life outside of work. A lot of my life has been focused on goals, core values and mission statements, for the company, for me, etc.For those of you into that kind of stuff, here is my personal mission statement:
I choose to win. I enthusiastically embrace, accept responsibility for and assert ownership of my manhood. I am creating a life of freedom, abundance and enjoyment consistent with God’s commandments.Three immediate goals that I have for myself in the next 6 month to 1 year:
1.Make new friends – My display name, balkpr, is short for ball keeper. Where ever I go in life, I choose to keep my b~~~~ on me and attached at all times. I want to develop solid friendships with other ball keepers.
2.Find a woman – I’ll state what I’m after eloquently, that is, to regularly enjoy intensely pleasurable intimate physical contact with one attractive woman at a time, while following my personal guidelines for safe sex, which are:
a.Never hide my sexual agenda from women.
b.Only have sex with women who want it at least as badly as I do.
c.Practice monogamy, no matter how short term, don’t start something new without finishing something old. Expect it in return.
d.Wear condoms until we have a ‘red pill conversation’ about birth control, pregnancy, kids, and money.
3.Increase my income – I have specifics for that I wouldn’t mind sharing on a private basis.This group seems like a good place to interact with other men who have similar missions and goals. It seems like a good place to hone skills, develop tools and make progress towards at least two out of three of my immediate goals.
What I am NOT here for
I have my own story about mom, dad, society, women, men, bosses, teachers, bullies, bill collectors, IRS agents, drunk friends, this, that and what not and how all of that contributed to me being an omega mangina at worst and at best a beta male in my younger life. I have empathy for those traveling down that road. If my own personal life experience that I share help someone move through that, I’m honored to offer it, but I’m past that part of my journey. I am done wallowing in it. I’m ready to focus on creating a life of freedom, abundance, and enjoyment.That’s it. I look forward to getting to know you guys!
Peace!
Ball Keeper
Welcome!
Welcome! Nice intro, I like your energy and optimism, and congratulations for your successful career!
d.Wear condoms until we have a ‘red pill conversation’ about birth control, pregnancy, kids, and money.
You are playing with fire. You cannot trust a woman with birth control, especially if you are a successful single man who owns a company. There are so many stories on this forum about women who “accidentally” get pregnant it is sickening. There are women who were caught taking out the condom from the garbage bin to impregnate themselves.
No discussion with her will change that. In relationships, women say one thing and do the opposite.
I really think you should find a better hobby. Sex is overrated. But if do choose to date for sex, you need to do more research and plan better, as now you are clearly not prepared.
A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)
I went Galt at age 18. That’s when I read Atlas Shrugged for the first time.
I actually have a copy of that book in my room somewhere, but never actually read it because I thought that the size of the book was very intimidating for me. But I think that I really should read that book one day because I read up so many people like you who claim how the book changed your lives. Looks like you actually practiced what you read since it looks like you took that book to heart.
"Question everything" - Albert Einstein
welcome sir!
i’m glad you found the path to freedom
enjoy the forums and the website
cheers–Wear condoms until
don’t trust a women with birth control!!
i’ve heard so many stories of “accidental” pregnancies.
women are great at hiding their true intentionsMGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.
Anonymous54Welcome.Always a pleasure to be in the company of other Men who don’t hand there b~~~~ over to women.I always give the advice of treating your approach to haveing sex as a risk management situation.
Take your time with it. It’s a huge book. Some parts are very heavy. Sounds sappy, but take it one page at a time. If it takes you a few years, it takes you a few years.
Ball Keeper
I like the concept of risk mitigation!
Ball Keeper
Welcome mate.
I have not long found this forum ,and after twenty years of blue pills,I am in the throes of getting the red pill down.At 43 ,with two older kids and an ex who owns half the house,it is a daily struggle.
I am the opposite of you,being so addicted to the blue pill and the life I had,dealing with change needs to be forced.
Good luck in what you seek.Fed, Fucked, Appreciated. The three simple things men want, but women will never grasp.
Riding motorcycles is crazy as f#$k! Think about it. A guy riding a motorcycle has to balance and keep upright a several hundred pound object that is standing on two wheels. This is counteracting gravity, with no structure to protect him from physical harm. He does this while navigating the motorcycle on an unforgiving concrete surface. He shares the concrete surface with other vehicles which are easily three or four time the weight of his bike, and everyone is going at speeds of 60-70 miles per hour. If one of the other vehicles hits him….bad news.
People ride motorcycles anyway. Why? Because what they get out of it outweighs the risk of injury and death.
Some riders don’t fully consider the risks. They ignore the risks. They convince themselves that the risks are minimal. The wreckage that they’ve seen won’t happen to them.
Some riders read the FAQ section on mgtow.com. The part where it talked about avoiding road hazards. Some riders admit to themselves that the thing they like to do is risky, even deadly. They own that fact. They learn how to ride. They learn about road hazards. They learn how to handle the hazards. They learn to mitigate the risk. They learn how to minimize injury if anything happens while riding. They understand that they can’t prevent every injury. They understand the worst might happen. Riding that bike puts a smile on their face, so they keep riding.
Sex is like motorcycle riding.
I’ve learned a lot over the last 4 or 5 years.
•To get what you want you always have to be willing to walk away.
•Once we’re over 18 we are always exactly where we want to be and we are always doing exactly what we want to do.
•We’re responsible for our own actions and our own decisions. Always. Excuses have no cash value. Sometimes we don’t have all of the tools to make the right decisions, but we still make them.
•Some people understand this a little bit. Few understand it completely. Those that don’t understand it all are people I keep my distance from.
•I am comfortable with being abrasively honest. I can state my intentions brutally unambiguously. If that scares people away from me, that’s OK, it’s a screening processes. If I know what I want, and express it clearly, I’ll avoid wasting my time, energy, money, and stamina on those don’t share my desires. Ultimately, this leave me open and available to engage with people who do.
•No is a beautiful word. Perhaps the shortest word we can say. It’s a time saver and a grief preventer.
When I started my business, I decided to make it a success. In order to make it a success, I decided to put a lot of things aside, and some people aside. My social life was one of those things. I’ve been celibate for over 4 years. I decided to focus my energy on other things. After 4 years, I learned that I can live without sex, but I would rather not. It puts me to sleep with a smile on my face. I also know that I can walk away from it, my b~~~~ won’t explode and it won’t kill me. I want to ride again, and I want to mitigate the risk.
Thus the rules. As I started to socialize again, I politely make it clear to women I meet that I’m interested in them primarily as a potential sexual partner. If we have sex, I’ll know, and she’ll know I know that, my penis did not end up inside of her for any other reason than because we were two grown adults, with a grown up itch that we wanted to get scratched so that we could fall asleep with smiles on our faces. If I decide that I want to “ride without a helmet”, I’ll let her know that I don’t want to have kids. I’ll confirm that she doesn’t want them either. I’ll confirm what method she is using to prevent pregnancy. I’ll tell her that I don’t believe that women get pregnant by accident. I’ll let her know that I am an employee of a corporation that pays me a very small salary. My tax returns show that I’ve lived at poverty level for several years, and that the salary my company pays me and which would be used to calculate child support will be low. I can take care of my son or daughter, but that doesn’t mean their mother will be living under my roof. The calculator that my state uses to determine child support would have me paying a monthly amount that I would be a reasonable amount for me to care for my offspring, I’ve looked into it, and as I do some additional business planning with my attorney throughout the course of the next year will discuss with him further. I’m a long way off from riding without a helmet. I’m not sleeping with anyone now, and I don’t have any current prospects.
Fatherhood isn’t my first choice, but it’s a risk of the road that I accept. If it ever happens, I’ll make a good dad. I’ve got a few more year before I get snipped. I think being clear that I’m going my own way, understanding risk and mitigating it and accepting the potential consequence of the activities I wish to take part in keeps me safer, healthier and able to bounce back from injury.Ball Keeper
welcome !
glad to have you on board !
Anonymous54I’ve been riding for half a century. Damn strait it’s dangerous. So are women.I still risk riding the bike,but I won’t risk it with women.To each his own on risk management. But I must say,my bike has never lied to me ,or tried to trick me. Both have tried to kill me.(not the bike,morons in there cars) Good luck. Happy rideing,what ever it is your rideing!
I’m ready to focus on creating a life of freedom, abundance, and enjoyment.
This is what mgtow should be all about it seems to me. Taking the focus off of women and onto ourselves.
All too many make women the focus of mgtow, when it should be the man himself.Welcome.
But I must say,my bike has never lied to me ,or tried to trick me. Both have tried to kill me.(not the bike,morons in there cars) Good luck. Happy rideing,what ever it is your rideing!
Ha. Right now I’m not riding anything, or anyone! I’ll check in here before I do!
I’ve been lied to, tricked, deceived, and manipulated by women. I’ve also had some really enjoyable, mutually benefical experiences with them. The former has happened far more frequently than the latter, no doubt.
I own my s~~~ though. Society, the expectations of the hive, desires of the cathedral not withstanding, I deserved it.
I spent my 20’s and early 30’s thinking that the ideal for male fulfillment was to be a stud on the c~~~ carousel. I sucked at it. I can blame others, they weren’t innocent, but as the song says, “I was unhappy with my riches because I was p~~~ poor morally.”
I was a big wet mangina. I tried to manipulate my way in to women’s beds by being “nice”, by trying to hide my desires, by working hard to be the hive’s definition of a real man. I put up with a lot of s~~~, I had no desire to put up with. Infrequently, a whore would do me a favor and let me have a piece of that biscuit. I can’t blame those women. They were being women. There’s no integrity in what I was doing. I was a manipulative pussy. On top of that, I had my self substantially convinced that I was a pillar of virtue and “niceness”. That’s delusional.
I was a choir member. I’d sit around and indulge a women’s desires to talk s~~~ about the men they were with. I are up the approval they were giving me. I hoped, even if I didn’t admit it to myself at the time, that they would toss me some sloppy seconds. I hung around other men’s women, in hopes that they’d do me the favor of a mercy fu$k, and I wondered why I didn’t have better friends. I blamed men. I convinced myself that I was just too good for those mysoginists to have me in their crew, and they knew it and that’s why I didn’t have many good friends.
Risk Mitigation…if I ever “ride” again. I’m safe just because I have my head out of my ass and I am looking at the world as it is. Fortunately, I never put myself in a situation that left my life a s~~~ty mess. I was lucky. As a desperate, dripping, throbbing wet mangina I doubt I would have had the fortitude to walk away from a piece that was being put out there.
Ball Keeper
I’m ready to focus on creating a life of freedom, abundance, and enjoyment.
This is what mgtow should be all about it seems to me. Taking the focus off of women and onto ourselves.
All too many make women the focus of mgtow, when it should be the man himself.Welcome.
I agree. That’s why goal #1 was to make friends. That’s my first focus. Developing some hobbies outside of work. Get back to lifting some weights, strapping on some gloves and hitting a heavy bag Learn how to hit a golf ball, catch a fish, drive a boat. Have some other MGTOWs I know who are interested in knocking back a pint or having a cigar. Women are only a part of the equation.
Ball Keeper
I must say from reading your posts it does indeed indicate you are who you say you are. You sir are free and your mind is a f~~~ of a lot more powerful than most men. Intelligence and Freedom in my view are intimately connected. You have the good sense to assign value to your freedom, for as long as you value freedom like you do it will be yours forever.
Welcome to the site and good to have you ballkpr.A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!
I must say from reading your posts it does indeed indicate you are who you say you are. You sir are free and your mind is a f~~~ of a lot more powerful than most men. Intelligence and Freedom in my view are intimately connected. You have the good sense to assign value to your freedom, for as long as you value freedom like you do it will be yours forever.
Welcome to the site and good to have you ballkpr.Thanks for the encouraging words, Atton. They were good to read!
Ball Keeper
Great post Balkpr but I would really like to urge you against a relationship as others have said it will only cause you problems down the road. You can still have sexual relationship with women if you want and you seem to understand wearing a condom is important but my advice would be to pump them and dump them. Never bring a woman to your home, never cohabitate, never date single mothers, and never trust a woman to take birth control you are just asking to get roped into the plantation. A lot of guys here use fleshlights it may not be your thing but it is something to consider once you tire of the game with women.
You built yourself and your company and now you will be a target of hypergamy by so many women. It is in their nature to gold dig nothing you can do about it but use it to your advantage if you must. You seem like a smart guy you know what is best for you but like others on here I am telling you this from personal experience it can and very well could happen to you too no one is immune to the female nature. There are no unicorns out there they are all AWALT. Thanks for sharing your story.
Great post Balkpr but I would really like to urge you against a relationship as others have said it will only cause you problems down the road. You can still have sexual relationship with women if you want and you seem to understand wearing a condom is important but my advice would be to pump them and dump them. Never bring a woman to your home, never cohabitate, never date single mothers, and never trust a woman to take birth control you are just asking to get roped into the plantation. A lot of guys here use fleshlights it may not be your thing but it is something to consider once you tire of the game with women.
You built yourself and your company and now you will be a target of hypergamy by so many women. It is in their nature to gold dig nothing you can do about it but use it to your advantage if you must. You seem like a smart guy you know what is best for you but like others on here I am telling you this from personal experience it can and very well could happen to you too no one is immune to the female nature. There are no unicorns out there they are all AWALT. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thanks Rhinorage.
The fleshlight isn’t my thing. Literally speaking, I like to live in the flesh. I like to man-hug my friends, and I like to get naked and roll around in the sack covered in thick thread count sheets with hot naked women. Using a fleshlight and pulling images out of my spankbank wouldn’t be the same.My comment about condoms caused some controversy. Here’s more info.
As I get older, and I’ve cut out relationships. I realized that blood is thicker than water. Parents die, women leave us, or we leave them, friends move on, etc. Being a good parent offers a good opportunity of having other humans in our lives when we get too old to interest anyone else. I haven’t written off fatherhood. Marriage seems to be the life sucking force out of men. I know several unmarried father with their b~~~~ attached to their bodies who enjoy having kids. The key is they set boundaries with their kids mother’s. “Doing the right thing” re kids doesn’t equal: having the mom move in, paying her bills, not dating other women. One guy I know found out his girlfriend was pregnant. I asked him how he was handling it, he said, “It’s cool, I knew what I was doing when I was busting my nut.” – That’s key. None of the guys I know were “tricked”.
So I guess, maybe I should clarify to say. I’ll wear condoms unless I’m ok with potential pregnancy AND I make it painfully clear to the women that having my kid doesn’t earn her a key to my house, or my ATM pin, or potential marriage, that we might break-up, and I might date other women. She get’s fat, tears about her body, sees her SMV plumment. I get to show othe women that I’m good with babies and puppies.Ball Keeper
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