Avoiding Loneliness

[MINDustryParticipant 80]

What do you guys do to avoid loneliness if you live by yourself?

I’m in my early 20’s, about to start my career. I Don’t have many friends I talk to in person. I do most of my communication online and live far away from the city which is an hour away. I’ve never dated seriously. I wonder how much money I’d loose if I did decide to date.

If I ever purchase a house or whatever and decide to live alone I was wondering about ways to alieviate any loneliness I might experience do I.

I don’t really like people in general so I’m not sure how much of a problem this will be but I want to have all my bases covered.

Anybody in their 30’s or 40’s with tips for me?

[Anonymous 42]

When you’re living your life and doing your thing day in and day out there’s no time to be lonely, if you are lonely then you’re doing something wrong. Loneliness wells up from within, it’s not external, you can have 7 concubines and still be the loneliest man on earth. Loneliness is the failure to be content…

[The_YoungParticipant 1073]

In my early 20’s too!

If you’re talking about loneliness from women…just straight up pay for the sex bro. I value my time too much and I’m actually starting to dislike dating, and if I really need to feel some skin then I’ll just straight up give the cash. Pussy is relatively cheap in my city so w/e.

When dating in the beginning, it might not cost much. Don’t make the mistake of being a mangina and pay for all the dinners, always split 50/50.

In terms of making friends…you just have to show a genuine interest in people, which I frankly have a hard time doing sometimes. People’s favourite subject to talk about is THEMSELVES. The most common word from this f~~~ing paragraph aside from the word “the” is the word “I”. Yet I’ve barely used the word “you”. He who can let someone open up to them has them in the palm of their hand!

Brother, we need to stick together.

[HitmanParticipant]

when you are busy,
work
school
hobbys
cooking
cleaning
it’s tough to feel lonely.
for a while i listened to the radio a lot..
now i enjoy the quiet .
lonely or peaceful…up to you .

[Crazy CanuckMember 4215]

Do not buy a house, it’s a waste of money since you’re single. I have been living alone for 16 years. Keep busy. You can start a hobby, ride a bike or whatever.

"If pussy was a stock it would be plummeting right now because you've flooded the market with it. You're giving it away too easy." - Dave Chapelle

[J.D SilvernailParticipant 383]

I try to be friends with everyone around me. The only people I don’t try to be friends with are crazy and/or stupid. Being content with what you have is the first step. You feel lonely because you think you are cut off from everyone else, but you’re missing the big picture. There is no them,you are the only one who matters. Repeat this to your self. “I don’t need them. All I need is me, my family, and my friends. Our society and pop culture is useless. I am above all of That”. If you do this you will never feel lonely again.

I'm married to the game,but she broke her vows.

[Mr_OptionsParticipant 298]

Living single, by myself, in my house for over 2 years. You establish a routine in your castle. I always try to have a TV on or I’ll be listening to the radio. Always try to keep your mind active, it will cut down on the feelings that you need a wimminz to fill the void. Lastly, animals help tremendously. I’m looking into getting a rescue dog in the next few weeks. All in all try to stay active with hobbies, work, school, and always remember you come first!

A man without a woman is like a fish without a hook.

[AnthonyParticipant 2281]

Mr_Options wrote:

I’m looking into getting a rescue dog in the next few weeks. All in all try to stay active with hobbies, work, school, and always remember you come first!

This. If you truly feel lonely sometimes, look into raising a dog or getting a rescue dog. I plan on getting a dog and raising it from a pup in the next year or so once I actually end up moving out of my parents place.

But as of feeling “lonely” I never feel lonely. I love solitude as it is.

Once you have a Fleshlight real vaginas become worthless.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6413]

The older I get the less I think about being alone; it seems to have happened almost naturally over time. I’ve been alone for nearly a couple of decades now. Each day is filled up with work and other activities. I don’t know exactly how to define what happiness might be, but I’m not sad and don’t crave any relationship; so, I have no plans to change anything.

[bob__Participant 946]

Oh come on, loneliness? Get a cat or something. Cats are loyal.

[WallyParticipant]

Occupy your mind by reading, finding fullfillment in hobbies. I and many others have talked about the importance of animals, I have a dog, loyal and loving.

Live a selfish life, you only get one! What I mean by this focus on the things you find important and fulfilling, if you want to volunteer, do it for something you and only you find important.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[STORMParticipant 738]

MINDustry wrote:

What do you guys do to avoid loneliness if you live by yourself?

I’m in my early 20’s, about to start my career. I Don’t have many friends I talk to in person. I do most of my communication online and live far away from the city which is an hour away. I’ve never dated seriously. I wonder how much money I’d loose if I did decide to date.

If I ever purchase a house or whatever and decide to live alone I was wondering about ways to alieviate any loneliness I might experience do I.

I don’t really like people in general so I’m not sure how much of a problem this will be but I want to have all my bases covered.

Anybody in their 30’s or 40’s with tips for me?

The best thing to keep in mind is this. Even loneliness in its most pure, and unfiltered form, can never be as much torment as ending up in a home with an abusive psychopath who controls your every move, baits you into rage that you have no vent for, because if you vent your rage the police show up and take her side since she’s the woman. And makes indirect comments to drive you insane, nags at you, and then asks for your debit card to “get a few things at the store”.

This may sound cliche, but I have seen it in person repeatedly.
Find some good headphones, find some great music to listen to, maybe try out some art, if you can stand reading, get some books, watch documentary’s. And always keep some tasty snacks nearby :}

If we listen to a female at all, It's no longer to find out if they're crazy, we know they're crazy, It's to find out what flavor.

[Anonymous 2]

In all honesty, I very much like living alone. I lived with roommates for around 8 years, and I can tell you right now, living alone is great. Living with a woman that you’re in a relationship with is like the roommate experience on crack. As much as roommates can get on your nerves, at least with your roommates, you don’t have to let them know what you’re doing, and they’re not going to give you s~~~ about doing s~~~ on your own because you’re not in the mood to deal with anyone. Living with a girlfriend means your personal time is no longer yours to do as you please, and if you want to do something that she has no interest in, you have to listen to her bitch about it.

Also, I don’t feel lonely. I play music in my spare time, and I enjoy hanging out with my friends when I feel like going out. I’m also just as content to stay home and relax watching sports, practice music, read a good book, or listen to an album out of my music collection. Trust me, there are a countless number of married men out there who would kill to have the freedom to do what they feel like at any given time instead of having to deal with the baggage that comes with living with a woman.

[the roadParticipant 3125]

Hobbies. Try to get good at something. See if you can impress yourself.

#MANOUT

[DarkRyuParticipant 2354]

Loneliness is no joke. I work online from home so I could go months without seeing or talking to anyone. I’ve done it before. It really f~~~s with your head. You’ve got to get a couple of friends and take time for them. Build a relationship. It’s easy to let your friendships deteriorate over time. Don’t let it happen. It gets much harder to make friends when you get older.

Unfortunately my family is kind of f~~~ed up so I don’t really have any family. I let my mother move in with me a while back and it’s been a pain. Though honestly, it’s nice to have someone around sometimes. Unfortunately hanging out with my friends is a little awkward now with my mother around.

Different people have different tolerances for loneliness. I believe that most men are able to handle loneliness MUCH better than women. But it can still get to you. Personally I enjoy my freedom, but I don’t like being lonely. If my mother ever moves out, I’m going to ask one of my buddies to move in. I own a small house, but it’s still way more space than I need. All I really need is one bedroom, one bathroom, and a kitchen table for the rare instances when I want to actually eat in the kitchen instead of in my bedroom.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Get a pet.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

MINDustry wrote:

What do you guys do to avoid loneliness if you live by yourself?

I look forward to the time I can get to myself. It’s why I keep my office in the basement and work from home every day I can.

That being said, you can be lonelier in the middle of a crowd of thousands than by yourself at the top of a mountain.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

As others have said – being alone in a crowd is worse than feeling alone by yourself. Personally I am happiest with my own company and my favourite weekends are ones where I have enough booze and food in my flat so I don’t have to see another human being and can drink beer/vodka all day long whist playing on my PS and Xbox or watching my favourite DVDS (spent half of last Saturday watching my favourite Babylon 5 episodes – no way could I have done that if I was in a relations~~~ or married)

on rare occasions I might feel a bit lonely but like with boredom – it just happens every so often and the feelings soon passes or I can visit my family which gets me back on track.

[RennieParticipant]

Keep busy, anything that’s not illegal will suffice.

[LosPukeParticipant 514]

I believe that I have something worthwhile to contribute to this topic. My present circumstances are that I am my grandmother’s caregiver 24/7. She will be 89 next month. My father (her son) passed away 2 years ago and left me a bit of money in a monthly trust. Between her monthly SS check and my monthly check from the family trust, we are able to live together without me having to work in the corporate world.

My grandmother and I are tight. We always have been. Before I got married, I asked her to teach me how to cook. I realized that my soon to be wife sucked in the kitchen and I was not going to eat cereal and Jack in the Box for the rest of my life. I videoed the lessons to reference should I need a reminder on a particular technique. I didn’t realize that they would become sentimental to me.

So, as I’ve mentioned, I’ve learned how to cook. It is a pleasure to cook for my grandmother now. She’s asleep most of the day. I watch cooking videos on You Tube, look up recipes online, and go shopping for the ingredients. Over this past year, I’ve learned a great deal about grilling, baking, and soups. It’s kind of a personal satisfaction to get her approval on a successful new dish.

I spend a lot of time doing the tedious chores that we all hate to do. In addition to cooking, washing dishes takes a s~~~load of time in my typical day. In learning how to cook a new dish, I inevitably feel the need to dirty every dish in the f~~~ing kitchen! Most things I want washed by hand, so I end up washing EVERYTHING by hand. Perhaps I’m a bit weird, but I’m not much into dishwashers. If I’m not washing dishes, I’m washing clothes, folding them, or hanging them up. Same thing with towels and bed linens. Staying on top of the daily grind of boring ass chores can be a challenge. I usually end up jamming out on the iPhone with the headphones cranked. I have an agreement with her that she calls me on speed dial when she needs me. Wherever I might be, the music stops and she can request something. It’s a good arrangement. Meanwhile she has Fox News cranked up to max level because she’s almost deaf. I’m good. I’ve got Maynard James Keenan screaming in my ears while I’m enjoying a nice 420 buzz.

On my downtime, I’ve got a bunch of games on my XBOX One. I’m into racing games and Forza Motorsport 6 is the s~~~! There are quite a few tracks that I’m ranked in the top 1% in the world. But I’m nowhere close to the top competition. Never will be. I’m 47. Slow reflexes. But damn, that s~~~ is fun! I really don’t have time to dig into the depth of Fallout 4 or Witcher 3. But I look forward to it one day.

My grandmother is the last of my family that survives that I spend time with. I’ve lost both parents and the rest of my grandparents. I don’t have children. Once she passes, I’m alone in regards to family.

At this time, I do not have a social life. It is difficult to break away from taking care of her for more than a couple of hours. I have a nurse’s aide come 3 times a week to give her a bath. That is pretty much my only free time unless I hire the aide to sit with my grandmother.

However, I am very lucky. In my journey, I spent nearly 18 years as a firefighter/EMT. In my divorce, I rode the downward spiral of self destruction, as a lot of us do. It cost me my career. During this dark time, I had friends that looked out for my best interests. They encouraged me to leave my contributions to my pension alone. In other words, I left the money in, rather than take it out. By doing so, I will receive a portion of my pension for the rest of my life. This begins on November 1st, 2019.

Since discovering MGTOW, I’ve learned about living a life of minimalism. Men don’t need much to get by. We’ve all heard Brad Pitt in Fight Club. Those examples he gives make a lot of sense to me. Without wasting money of trivial bulls~~~ that women demand of us, we become financially viable.

I’m convinced I can live on my pension without having to work ever again. However, I’m also convinced that if I did decide to get back in the workforce, I could seriously put some decent money away. I could put myself through a trade school (no college needed here, the c~~~s can have it!). I could travel and live in a different city each year. I could learn different languages, volunteer as a firefighter at a Volunteer Fire Dept., learn to play a musical instrument, go hunting, skiing, scuba diving, or follow Went Camping’s advice (master a trade/skill/IT/real estate).

In short, I will be way to busy learning to ever be concerned with being lonely. The one thing I won’t be doing is dealing with a demanding and narcissistic woman. I have no interest in ever being divorce raped again. I don’t need another bitch to ever have a chance to reach her hands into my pension. One was enough!

Whether I’m learning new ways to have fun or new ways to stack paper, my focus is on me. It’s doing whatever the f~~~ I want. A man goes his own way. I’m on my path. As far as pussy…I’m thinking a semi-annual trip to the Bunny Ranch will suit me fine. Peace, my brothers!

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