Article about signs of an impending divorce

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

https://au.finance.yahoo.com/news/january-apos-divorce-month-apos-074624822.html

January they say is when divorces increase. These are the views of a lawyer and a psychotherapist – both female.

More poor bastards out there about to be destroyed, as usual.

[Anonymous 43]

I am not a lawyer, just some moron with a keyboard and a computer. This is not to be construed as legal advice. Consult a professional whatever to develop a plan of action.

Three signs

#1 Contempt
#2 Girls night out/new friends who are divorced
#3 working late
#4 Stop touching me
#5 No sex
#6 Missing money
#7 Woman joins a gym without you
#8 She wants you to buy large items, Car, appliances, roof for house
#9 After weeks of no sex, suddenly f~~~s you to death
#10 Overly nice.

There it is, signs you are headed for the cliff.

What can you do to combat this?
Nothing. C~~~ made up her mind to throw you over months ago. She has been plotting your downfall, gathering assets and information to use against you, lying to her friends and family about what an asshole you are/skimming money/finding another man to protect her from you, ya raging abusive f~~~.

#1 Do not panic. This is not the end of the world, but the beginning of a new phase in life.
#2 Visit all the lawyers in the county for a free consultation. You are their client and can not represent her
#3 Protect your credit, put fraud alert on all three credit bureaus
#4 get her off the credit cards…”There is a card problem, and they will issue here a new card in a couple days…” Or make her the primary card holder for “tax reasons” stick her with the bills.
#4 quietly make gold and silver purchases, and you moron, you “lost” your 300 ounces of gold. Idiot. Imbecile!
#5 Get a post office box pay cash for this, one year in advance. This is your official address for ALL mail.
#6 Have a trusted person hold items for you, clothes, money, valuable items, documents
#7 Acquaint yourself with the gambling addiction strategy. Cash withdrawals at an atm at a casino, pocket the money, claim you lost it all on red. or the Pac Man slots. The pretty lights, the soothing sounds, the excitement of winning! You will beg the court to put you in a gambling addiction program. Go to all the sessions, and be cured of your addiction after the 12 week program has concluded.
#8 Sell your toys, firearms, motorcycles, work tools, family heirlooms to a friend for a discount,to pay for your gambling addiction, get receipts. Buy them back after the divorce is over.
#9 This is critical…Copies of personal papers, utility bills, bank statements, investment statements, tax info, business documents, all the important s~~~, copies off site. Mail these to your po box. Do not keep the po box key on your person. Make copies of the documents and put the originals back. No one said the files had to be perfect…do not lose or destroy papers, that is obstruction, bad bad bad. Inept filing…oh well, I suck at filing your honor.
#10 Emergency money. $5000 for lawyer retainer, $1000 work and casual clothes, $2000 for apartment deposit and first month, $1000 bed, table, chair, lamp, radio, cheap laptop, printer, office supplies, paper plates, plastic flatwear, plastic cups, basic food. $1500 for a beater car if your car is impounded by police. Prepaid phone. Get a gym membership. Look around for a cheap apartment or room to let near your work. Cash is your best friend when it all comes apart. Do not open a savings and checking account until after the divorce proceedings have started. Banks can write checks for you in exchange for cash.

I was removed from my home by police, and an order of protection was applied. This was 8 weeks no contact with my children and the c~~~. No contact means no contact. Police gave me paperwork, I remained calm, no sudden movements, low tone of voice. I told the police I will comply with their orders. I asked for a moment to read the order. I sat down on the stairs and read the 6 pages slowly and carefully, to calm myself, and figure out what to do next. Officers saw I was calm, rational and not a threat to their safety. No argument with the officer. I asked if I could gather some items, and permission to secure my property. I asked a police man to accompany me to gather my things. I took a suit and shoes, shirt and tie, a lock box, some photo copies, and I had $65 in my wallet, and a cell phone. I locked up my house and exited through the garage, and used the outside garage transmitter to secure my property. I was ordered to leave my keys to the cars and the house with the officer. I showed him those keys and I kept the key to the lock box. You cell phone is evidence, has texts, gps locations, phone calls and times. keep it powered up, and do not use it. Use the burner phone from Walmart. Have your mail forwarded to the po box. You need computer access for this…I thanked the officers for their professionalism, and wished them a safe and pleasant rest of their shift. They wrote my words down.

Do not argue with the police. Do not f~~~ with these guys. Keep the cops calm so they do not shoot you. You have rights. Ask or tell the officer what you want to do, comply with their orders. You have the right to read the documents. Look for what is required, You have the right to bring some items if reasonable, with you as long as they are not on the list of items the police must impound. Be smart about what you have to take with you. You need clothes for court. You need money, credit cards, id. The rest of your s~~~ can be replaced. If you planned ahead, you have all the goodies offsite and in trustworthy hands. Take the paperwork with you. You will give this to your lawyer later. Once you are away from your house, write down what you remember from the incident on the back of the police order. Details, what you took, condition of the house, time of day, weather, what you were wearing, concerns for your children, dialog with police more details is better.

DO NOT argue with the police. If you feel they did something improper, figure it out later in court. The 20 minutes you spend with the cops are the most important moment in your life, do not f~~~ this up. Comply with their orders, move slowly, tell them your intention is to comply. speak calmly, low tones, move deliberately. Breathe, breathe, breathe. You will be in shock, but planning and preparation will keep you going.

Live to fight another day.

Your first night out of the house is also critical. You need to be able to account for your whereabouts for every minute since being removed. You do not want to be accused of returning to the house and causing mayhem. I routinely buy something every few hours, even after 9 years and 800 miles away. Develop the habit of having an alibi. Keep a journal, where you go, what you buy, who you talk to, what is on tv, what song is on the radio at what time. My journal has saved me from jail 7 times, and put the c~~~ in danger or perjury at least 9 times. DO NOT return to your house unless ordered by the court, and escorted by police. I never went back for my belongings, I gave up my rights to my possessions in court. Let the c~~~ figure out what to do with it all. What ever you had can be replaced, with newer and better, later. Oh, kind words to the officers…no malice, no hostility. They will be watching the house for a while after you leave, maybe even all night to be sure the treacherous c~~~ has a quiet evening.

Next, your job. You must hold on to your job. Act normal, talk to no one about your divorce. “I can’t comment on that” is the phrase that pays. Say nothing. Just do your job. Job is going to get you through this s~~~. The one stable spot in your life.

The gym is an awesome alibi. Check in is recorded, you are on camera, and you work out all the energy you would expend on tearing your house down one brick at a time and every negative thought you may feel coming on. Make new friends there, and you discover that all the guys in the gym are divorced, or may be helpful in other ways, new business contacts for instance.

Get a lawyer. Oh wait, you visited every possible lawyer already, right? Right? ok. Good. Go see the lawyer asap. Ask what the retainer will be, and what kind of check…go to the bank and get that check. Tell the lawyer what happened, give him the papers you copied, and the copy of the order you were given with your notes.

And that is as far as I can take you based on my experiences. I am not a lawyer, just a schlub who paid a lawyer $300,000. Worth every f~~~ing penny to get my freedom and sovereignty back. Your mileage may vary.

If in the event you are able to remove the c~~~ from your house, make sure she leaves with as little as possible. Let her leave in tears, locked out because you changed the locks, or God forbid, she ends up arrested for assaulting an officer, obstructs an officer, or interferes with police business because she is a screaming ball of adrenaline and rage. Let her f~~~ up, and get processed, not you. After the echoes of her screams dies down, try to relax. You have a busy day ahead of you. Do not touch any of her belongings until a court order is written concerning these items. Try to get some sleep. Do not leave the house. If she comes back, call the cops, do not engage her in a shouting contest. Stay away from her as far as possible. Interior bathroom is best. Let the cops handle this. Do not confront her, let the dispatcher know where in the house you are. Calm.

Good luck if you find yourself in this situation. Be calm, breathe, do what the cops tell you to do. Stay alive.

[Anonymous 43]

Sorry that was so long. It’s all important to someone.
At one time, information I gleaned from the internet in the week before divorce hit me was invaluable.
I read the divorce law, and some preparation sites and prepared as best as I could given my circumstances.

[BritGHOWParticipant 2566]

Signs of an impending divorce:

1. You got married.

No marriage = no risk of divorce, simples.

[jimbob15217Participant 491]

Lots of people in the US wait to file their divorce until Labor Day when the kids head back to school after the summer vacation. Makes sense.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

BritGHOW wrote:

Signs of an impending divorce:

1. You got married.

+1000

You beat me to it.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[TrailbossParticipant 1844]

Beat me to it as well! Don’t get f~~~ing MARRIED and you CAN’T be DIVORCED! #MANOUT!

An educated, armed populace cannot be enslaved.

[BoBParticipant 823]

Anonymous wrote:

Your mileage may vary.

You complete me.

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

May 7 2020, I salute you sir.

[Fr JackParticipant 926]

May 7, you have an inner strength that defies logic .
Blessings to you.

[Admiral CrunchParticipant 776]

#1 sign of an impending divorce: signing the marriage contract. Many women start to plan their future divorce at that point

Women do not love men. Women only love what men can provide.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Women only want a divorce when they have a bigger wallet or an alpha chad ‘gina tingle man lined up to replace you. From my experience it went :

1)Always on her phone, puts password on it and never let it leave her sight. When you ask her who she is messaging she will say a woman’s name you have never heard of.
2)Joined a gym
3)Lost weight
4)Bought new clothes.
5)Always wanting to go out with younger, single women from the gym and divorced friends.
6)Do anything to avoid sex, pretends to be asleep or just says “stop pawing me”, “I am ill”, I am stressed”, “I can’t just turn it on you know”
7)Says she “needs space”, “loves you but isn’t in love with you” or “isn’t happy”

She is on the phone because she is messaging her new Chad and the clothes and losing weight are for him. She refuses to have sex with you as she is getting the tingles from the new chad and she sees sleeping with you as cheating on him. The “I love you, i’m just not in love with you” is her trying to make you think it is all your fault so she can kick you out and replace you with Chad without having to feel guilty.

Not that she feels guilty, she checked out years ago and all she can think about is the tingles she gets from the new chad.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[Screamin1Participant 152]

Won’t Get Fooled Again – Everything you wrote is correct. From my most recent divorce experience, the phone thing is the biggest. My ex had it password protected and it NEVER left her side. She even slept with it under her pillow. I should have checked the phone records much earlier. It would have given her away months before I found out.

The gym is absolutely correct too. My ex got a gym membership. This had two benefits for her. She was able to work out and stay in shape for her Chad, and it also gave her an excuse to leave the house by herself to spend time with Chad (ie going to the gym, a big lie).

When my gut finally told me something was wrong I asked the ex and she said, and I quote, “I am just not super happy”. She was happy and had a life of leisure, but she was not “super happy”. You can’t make this s~~~ up.

The she-devil got a boob job that I paid for. That was probably the beginning of the end. That wasn’t for me. That was for a future Chad. Never, ever give a woman a boob job or allow her to get one while you are in a relationship.

The whore started going out occasionally to the bar with her girlfriends. I have since learned that the wedding ring came off right away and she was flirting with every swinging dick in the bars she went to. Her friends were obviously not my friends. The provided her with a cover story.

That said, I agree with everyone that marriage = divorce. It sure has been the case with me.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Screamin1 wrote:

Won’t Get Fooled Again – Everything you wrote is correct. From my most recent divorce experience, the phone thing is the biggest. My ex had it password protected and it NEVER left her side. She even slept with it under her pillow. I should have checked the phone records much earlier. It would have given her away months before I found out.

The gym is absolutely correct too. My ex got a gym membership. This had two benefits for her. She was able to work out and stay in shape for her Chad, and it also gave her an excuse to leave the house by herself to spend time with Chad (ie going to the gym, a big lie).

When my gut finally told me something was wrong I asked the ex and she said, and I quote, “I am just not super happy”. She was happy and had a life of leisure, but she was not “super happy”. You can’t make this s~~~ up.

The she-devil got a boob job that I paid for. That was probably the beginning of the end. That wasn’t for me. That was for a future Chad. Never, ever give a woman a boob job or allow her to get one while you are in a relationship.

The whore started going out occasionally to the bar with her girlfriends. I have since learned that the wedding ring came off right away and she was flirting with every swinging dick in the bars she went to. Her friends were obviously not my friends. The provided her with a cover story.

That said, I agree with everyone that marriage = divorce. It sure has been the case with me.

Mine too had a life of leisure but had to “find herself” as she had lost any sense of “who she was”. Mine also put a password on her phone and never let it out of her sight, when I asked why she said to stop the children using it.

My Aunt actually rang me to warn me that she was constantly posting on one guys Facebook page and when I jokingly asked if she was having an affair she told me he was a hairdresser and gay, the first part of that statement was true anyway.

Before this when she was in full looking for attention mode she went away for the weekend on a hen night. I saw a picture of a 20 something guy kissing her on the cheek, when I asked her about this she told me he wouldn’t leave her alone and the only way she could get rid of him was to be friends with him on Facebook. I would guess something more than a peck on the cheek happened that night.

The easiest way to avoid all this, financial rape and the years of hassle and grief is simply not to get married. So simple yet all men think it won’t happen to me, she loves me. Sure…….

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[MonkParticipant 16978]

Admiral Crunch wrote:

#1 sign of an impending divorce: signing the marriage contract. Many women start to plan their future divorce at that point

Given the increasing currency of the ‘starter husband’ idea, that’s damn right.

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Won'tGetFooledAgain wrote:

The easiest way to avoid all this, financial rape and the years of hassle and grief is simply not to get married.

OK all you young unmarried guys either as members or lurkers, listen to these voices of experience. I did when I was your age and have avoided this. So can you. Don’t think you will be different. These guys will assure you that you are not. As Prophet Micah succinctly states it: “No Wife, No Strife.”

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