Anyone ever have "friends" like this?

[BigdawgrockyParticipant 2]

My friend who I was cool since high school is always hating on me and down talk me when ever I get with girls. He also tried to bring up high school past around me, and I’m like “bro high school is over”. I then confronted him about his social media on how he makes fake accounts of guys/girls to reply/like to his own posts to make himself look cool and popular. He then got mad about it.

We were out the other day at a hookah bar and we were trying to split the money and he always try to pay less or don’t pay at all. I then confronted him in front of other ppl how much of a cheapa** he is and I left him by himself and move to another group to hang with. He was socially awkward the whole night. And he eventually gave me the other half of the money. The reason he had no choice was because he had no1 to drive him home and he lacks social skills/shy.

Is this a type of person who you should cut out of your friend group?

 

[BigdawgrockyParticipant 2]

He is also being jealous that I’m also getting with girls and he’s not. (no brag). Always wants me to show him their Facebook to ‘prove’ it. But I just know damn well that he’ll add them. And I don’t have to prove s***, and don’t care if he believes me or not. Last time I showed him my phone of a chicks number/text and he tried to copy her number in to his phone, but I turned my phone off.

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

Stop hanging with him, he sounds like the kind of jealous douche who will throw you under the bus for even just a chance at getting pussy. I’m not the most assertive guy either, but that doesn’t make me an insecure asshat who tries to spit on his friends to make himself look better…

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[BigdawgrockyParticipant 2]

Mango Ingaway wrote:

Stop hanging with him, he sounds like the kind of jealous douche who will throw you under the bus for even just a chance at getting pussy. I’m not the most assertive guy either, but that doesn’t make me an insecure asshat who tries to spit on his friends to make himself look better…

 

he’s shy and awkward around girls. When ever my friends and I are out with him he just remains silent and cross his arms.

[narwhalParticipant]

He doesn’t sound like a positive influence on you, and it’s frustrating I’m sure, but other their other negative consequences?  As long as you can keep good boundaries with him and not cave in when he asks for money, or if you let him shame you, then he can’t hurt you.  In some ways, he can be somewhat of a training tool for you to practice saying no to women when they ask for money or try to shame you.  Being that you’ve been friends with him, I’m guessing there are other traits about him that you value.

You shouldn’t feel obligated if he’s more of  charity case then a friend, but you have to make that call.  I would recommend that you have a sit down with and let him know the things that annoy you, if you haven’t done that already.  He deserves a chance to change his behavior, or at least know why you don’t want to hang out with him anymore.

Ok. Then do it.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Bigdawgrocky wrote:

When ever my friends and I are out with him he just remains silent and cross his arms.

I don’t have a comment on the rest of it, because this kind of social friction is odd to me, but the sentence I quoted above stuck out. I tend to take the position and empathize with the WEAKEST in the group. If that persons is shy and socially awkward, I would make an effort to elevate them to our energy level – so to speak.

From his perspective, I could imagine he is out with “your friends and you” and perhaps he is more of a “bros before hos” type. I know I am. Nothing is more irritating when I am out with one of my purple-pill buddies and his attention is on two chicks that just walked in – mid sentence. He’ll drop what he is saying and doing and even change tables just to get a closer to them. He’ll stop chewing and answer his phone right there. If I wanted to hang with chicks, I would hang with chicks. He’s very pushy and “lets go talk to them” when I’m just not f~~~ing interested in that moment.

Im far from “socially awkward” and the life of the room actually. But when a guy is chick-obssessed or showing me texts some chick sent him, I am bored out of my mind with that s~~~. I find it silly. Do the chick stuff later and on your own.

I admit I have NO idea of the actual dynamic your speaking about, just illustrating a thought based on what you left here.

Bigdawgrocky wrote:

I then confronted him in front of other ppl how much of a cheapa** he is and I left him by himself and move to another group to hang with.

This is a little uncool, but when there are chicks around, a WHOLE NEW dynamic and guys butting heads takes place. I witness it all the time. A guy who would never jab at me in private will now joust because a girl is present. Im prepared for it, so I will jab back and make it funny. He doesn’t like it much, but his girlfriend is amused by it…. and if he wants it to stop, all he has to do is knock it off with the c~~~-of-the-walk bravado s~~~.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 42]

Bigdawgrocky wrote:

Is this a type of person who you should cut out of your friend group?

Dude, really? Anyone that would drop you like a bad habit over person social prestige, or the appearance of some strange pussy, is not the kind of person you let IN “YOUR GROUP” of friends in the first place! I don’t have blue pill friends, I can’t stand the company of pussy-whipped cowards! I also don’t waste my time perusing pussy with my friends, we like to do exciting things, like skiing, motor sports, or restoring old cars, bikes, or whatever! Wasting my time and ruining the quality of my life on the nonsense and drama of nutso inflicted women, is the last thing I ever want to do…. I’d rather open all the draws on my 6ft tool box, and let it fall over and crush my head!

[Vector VikingParticipant 413]

I used to have a friend kind of like this. One of his favorite things to do was to dog on any woman that I was bangin’, or try to dog me in front of any woman that showed interest in me when we were out at social events. Worst f~~~ing wingman that ever walked the earth. He’d end up settling for any hairy-pitted horseface that would give him the time of day, and whine to me about it when she screwed him over in whatever myriad of ways happened. Got himself kicked out of his own apartment because of one of these bitches, and a month later he’s tellin’ me how she was just misunderstood and back up in that s~~~, and everything’s cool now.

Told that guy to get lost. I don’t regret it for a split-second.

[MENGINEERParticipant 583]

Life is too short to have shifty friends. I roll with 2 red pillers and have a great time wherever we are.

pussy whipped dudes just waste my time either chasing pussy or dealing with their estranged one. Not my problem! Why would I want to hang around a guy that has a curfew or an electronic leash (cell phone) when I want to go out?

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

Doesn’t sound as a “friend”, sounds like a “familiar” more, now that I know to really differentiate.
I had such “friends/familiars” when I was a kid, long long time ago. Learned fast to filter out. Have only 5 people that I can honestly call friends now. And 2 who I can call my best friends. Everyone else is a familiar or a person I don’t want to know or care at all.

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[RoyDalParticipant]

Othello had his Iago, and you’ve got this guy. With friends like him, you’re better off hanging with your enemies.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[JinParticipant 77]

You don’t need to babysit him all the time, that is not your job.

 

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it"

[bigboy83Participant 11312]

So the point of the story is, your letting women divide and conquer you and your friends? A victory for the woman. Why are you competing with women that just want your resources for? They must have big t~~~ or something.

If your friend is socially awkward, then oh well.

Seriously, use your head, not your dickhead.

Shit Tested, Cunt Approved.

[Anonymous 1]

Look, I am shy and social awkward as well. But I am still not like this friends of yours.

What I would do is this:

– Take him to the side, to place where there is no one else around and have a real talk with him. Don’t shame him for being shy or awkward, but tell him that this jealousy thing has to STOP, now. He is not being just shy, he is being stupid and the impression I have is that he would throw you under the bus in a heartbeat.

– If this pattern of him being a dick (a.k.a not paying his share, trying to gain status at your expense, etc.) continues, then just walk away.

I sympathize with people that are shy and awkward, specially around girls, because that is how I was and still am (although I am getting better). And if you could help him on these areas, it would be great. However, for what you described, the jealousy is a big thing too. I get being jealous, it is a natural emotion and I am not going to condemn him for it, but when it goes to the extent where he would actually try to put you in a tough spot in order for him to “climb up” the social ladder, that’s where I would draw the line.

Have a talk to him away from people so he will not get embarrassed (anyone would get angry if you call them out in public) and give him a chance so he can better himself. And if that doesn’t work, then you drop him.

[treelville..miamiParticipant 893]

Vector Viking wrote:

I used to have a friend kind of like this. One of his favorite things to do was to dog on any woman that I was bangin’, or try to dog me in front of any woman that showed interest in me when we were out at social events. Worst f~~~ing wingman that ever walked the earth. He’d end up settling for any hairy-pitted horseface that would give him the time of day, and whine to me about it when she screwed him over in whatever myriad of ways happened. Got himself kicked out of his own apartment because of one of these bitches, and a month later he’s tellin’ me how she was just misunderstood and back up in that s~~~, and everything’s cool now.

Told that guy to get lost. I don’t regret it for a split-second.

Had a homey like this as well from high school and lemme say this dude personified the desperate pussy beggar. All the time “woman this woman that” would even throw insults and jabs at me in front of random broads, eventually this foow had to go. I actually went to his wedding as a best man(married some fat chick) but I didnt hate never have, just didnt have the heart to decline. Besides at the time I was blue pill so I figured I’d Try an get laid have a few drinks. Anyway his marriage only lasted a year I s~~~ you not.

"The wounds of honor are self inflicted"

[BigdawgrockyParticipant 2]

bigboy83 wrote:

So the point of the story is, your letting women divide and conquer you and your friends? A victory for the woman. Why are you competing with women that just want your resources for? They must have big t~~~ or something. If your friend is socially awkward, then oh well. Seriously, use your head, not your dickhead.

 

When we are out with friends were just trying to have fun and catch up on things. And women just come by and try to get our attention and when a few chicks come by we just try and get to know them. But this guy just tries and put us down and tries to prevent the chicks to leave with us. We’re not out to try and meet women, just have fun.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

Sometimes you out grow friends. It’s natural. You have to assess who is best to socialize with. Not just who happens to be around at the time. With whom you choose to spend time is as important as how you spend that time.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

Sometimes you out grow friends. It’s natural. You have to assess who is best to socialize with. Not just who happens to be around at the time. With whom you choose to spend time is as important as how you spend that time.

Golden words.

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