Any advices about managing anger ?

[JavelinParticipant 167]

Hi lads,
I’ve lost a table tennis match today in a tournament. Against someone that is way below my level. But I could not handle the stress that I’ve put on myself, by my own, and I lost.

So I just left the tournament after the defeat and didn’t play the other matches. I never felt so much angry on someone (beside one of my GF when she drunk-cheated on me with Chad), and against me for losing against a f~~~ing unskilled dude.

He beated me so I guess I’m the noob of the day.

Anyway, I went back home, took a baseball bat I’ve in my room (been robbed twice, i’ll use it next time) went into my basement and destroyed everything that was useless in there.
After that, I felt relieved but empty.
I can’t do that all my life to calm myself.
What do you guys do to manage your stress ? Your fear of failure, your anger ?

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[Anonymous 11]

I’ve adopted a stoic attitude.

I’m assuming you don’t live in a red US State since you are using a baseball bat to defend yourself from robbers. I was mugged as a teen, and the anger lasted for years.

The first time I lost a corporate job after a corporate buyout. The anger was so intense that it cannot be described. They ass f~~~ed me pretty badly. I wish I knew then what I know now about unemployment claim law and process. I would have given the c~~~~~~~~~ owner a coronary. I was viewing a documentary about a biker gang. They had a banner on their wall with FTW emblazoned on it. It stood for “F~~~ the World”. It was their philosophy. That was possibly my first ever red pill and lessened my anger massively. I adopted it and refined it over the years. In my last relations~~~, the wench became angry at me, because I was not angry. Anger is natural, but train your brain to release it as soon as possible.

I don’t fear failure. I view it as a chance to get it right the next time. As for stress, exercise is how I deal with it sea kayaking, lifting weights, or bicycle riding. I also like to play guitar or photography as escape mechanisms too.

[Anonymous 42]

Intellect over emotion, train yourself to stay on top of that s~~~ and all over it before it has a chance to bloom, I’m talking inside the space of a microsecond like defusing a bomb, just Zen the f~~~ out and pull the wick! Don’t allow yourself to ignite and you’ll maintain control over every unexpected in-your-face situation, you play it cool, fire on the inside and cool as winter on the outside then the moment will pass, then all the snow on your roof will melt and cool down everything else.

The victory is a flavor you get addicted too! F~~~in ZEN with a side order of NFG… Defuse yourself and you defuse the entire situation and avoid unnecessary stress, pain, and even hardships caused by loss of control. Be the abrasive that sands down the bumps of rage before they blister and explode! You’ll be all smooth and peaceful when the fire goes out and it ends. A man’s top doesn’t just blow all on it’s own, a decision is made to pull the trigger, so cut the mental finger off that pulls the trigger…

[Anonymous 25]

Look for resources on mindfulness and emotional resilience. Look at the rathe scale too for external stressors. Best to avoid doing too many stressful life events all at once. Look at stressors from the environment too, like noisy neighbours and take steps to minimise impact of that. The other half his how you respond to situations, an NFG attitude is best.

Avoid high conflict, high drama people. Stress levels stay high for 72 hours after. They’re just not worth being around.

Mindfulness will help you learn how you respond to stressors and stuff that makes you angry, once you can recognise it you can develop a response where you just think ‘ooh, I feel frustrated’. Rather than getting angry.

Eat healthy and exercise. Find stuff you enjoy doing to relax.

[BoarParticipant]

Mark Manson wrote a good book titled: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Read it.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[SuggestiusParticipant 3312]

Avoid any possible contacts with the s~~~ that provokes your anger.
And of course goosfraba

Happiness for all and let no one be forgotten ("Roadside picnic", Arkady and Boris Strugatsky)

[experiencedParticipant]

I become angry at “the setup” , “the game” that society has trained women for.

Focusing that on heavier weights or higher reps yields positive results.

Your strength increases and so does your pain threshold & tolerance – – and these seem to be transferable to an increased ability to put up with Society’s crap.

Like water off an eagle’s back.

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[JavelinParticipant 167]

Boar wrote:

Mark Manson wrote a good book titled: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Read it.

I just downloaded it. Very interesting book, thanks for sharing.

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[Ice-JiubParticipant 491]

If you really need a physical outlet and you have the room for it where you live, get a bunch of logs and a splitting axe, then take your anger out on them. Great exercise, and you get firewood out of it too. Worked wonders when I was an angry little s~~~.

[Anonymous 1]

Pull up some youtubes of Gene Simmons’ interviews and situations with his (now) wife.

That guy is cucumber defined.

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

Get a heavy bag and go a few rounds and save your basement!

If you are into actual techniques, then try Releasing:

https://trans4mind.com/heart/emotions3.html#release

Works great for alot of people. This is actually marketed as The Sedona Method but without the added fluff and it’s free.

[Anonymous 1]

Just starting to read that Subtle art of not giving a f~~~

I think I’m going to enjoy it — getting a chuckle out of the first few para’s.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Any advices about managing anger ?

Sometimes you don’t have to. It’s OK to be angry.
Anger – for example – is a legitimate emotion in the face of injustice.

Javelin wrote:

when she drunk-cheated on me with Chad

Legitimate anger.

Javelin wrote:

losing against a f~~~ing unskilled dude.

Not legitimate anger.

I would manage that by accepting the outcome.
It’s wasted energy to be angry about that.

You played a game.

A game.

You didn’t lose Wimbledon here.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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