Any Advice on How To Calm Down?

[AlmostNiceGuyParticipant 210]

I currently have had to live with my sister, because moving to college in the united states my parents already had a house here. And I’ll be honest. It’s s~~~. I have had to hang my head low and receive her bulls~~~ like a smitten dog, and frankly I’ve had enough. Since a child I have had to put up with her bulls~~~ because “she is a girl, and I can’t hit her(back)” also because of the fact that I was a small child and her troglodyte-size as a female frightened even her peers. She used to torment me as a child, and I guess now that I tower over her, she doesn’t attempt to try and hit me. I am done with her s~~~, every time she wants to argue I stand my ground and (figuratively) fight back. However, I have seen a sudden spike of aggressiveness in myself, I have no idea where it comes from, and I have continuously had to stop myself from beating her face in. This is odd because I am a very passive person, and quite frankly dislike confrontation. While breathing deeply and thinking of soothing thoughts usually does the trick, It has been harder and harder to contain myself. Any tips, or phrases, that can help with such a thing?

[KeymasterKeymaster]

However, I have seen a sudden spike of aggressiveness in myself, I have no idea where it comes from

Years of this s~~~ builds up. Every once in a while, I almost WISH a mugger or someone would try to carjack me, or hold up a restaurant I’m having lunch in. I would so f~~~ing Samuel Jackson that motherf~~~er and enjoy it. I seriously pity the fool who would ever try it.

Take this to the gym and wail on your arms until you can’t lift a finger anymore. A killer workout does wonders.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[GoneSoloParticipant 119]

Are you aware it’s a s~~~ test? It’s not her fault, she’s built that way. The more of a rise she gets from you, the more she’s gonna do it. How long can I talk before this motherf~~~er snaps. That’s a woman for you. We don’t like confrontation either. A jedi’s mind works better when calm. At peace. Passive. Use the force for knowledge and defense, never for attack. Anger, fear, aggression. The dark side are they. Once you start down the dark path forever will it dominate your destiny. Consume you it will! – Yoda.

It’s a s~~~ test. Your girlfriend is gonna do it. Your mom is gonna do it. Females at work are gonna do it. Try this for a while. When a woman says something you don’t like. Smile. Don’t saying anything. Just smile and then carry on. She amplifies smile more like you know what she is doing. Be prepared for her to go out of her mind.

[JediTimParticipant 50]

@gonesolo is right (PS – LOVE the avatar, Solo) – women – ALL women will try to expose you to the s~~~ test. My response now is to blankly look at them and say “Hmm…” It now drives my mother insane. All women will do this.

“Fear leads to anger; anger to hate; hate to suffering” Yoda was right, but mainly because it leads to your suffering.

@keymaster – your comment made me think of my favorite Bible passage. Maybe you’ve heard it. It’s Ezekiel 25:17….

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Oh yes. I memorized it myself:

@jeditim couldn’t help but associate “Jedi” with Solo’s post above. Huge Indiana Jones / Star Wars fan, he is.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

PS.. I wish to add – @almostniceguy above – when you are in doubt about how to respond, there are 4 canned responses you can use to deflect the female puck right back in her face with minimal effort.

• That’s interesting, why would you say that?
• That’s interesting, why would you do that?
• That’s interesting, why would you think that?
• That’s interesting, why would you believe that?

This buys you time. Rather than giving her a response (what she is hoping for and expecting) you hold a mirror up and force her to explain. It is amazing what will be reflected back to you. You don’t need to do anything. You just sit back and nod and then give her nothing – making her run around in circles. The word “interesting” isn’t actually a compliment, it’s the condescending gentleman’s way of saying “you’re an idiot and I won’t be suckered into your s~~~”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[euphemus2Participant 4]

@jeditim – I find that hilarious – I’ve been doing that for years to the women around me when they get annoying, but mine is a dismissive aloof “Uh-huh” – No eye contact – no nothing – I’m not distracted by them at all. Works a charm.

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