Another sh*t test…

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

Women never change.

A much better than average woman (in terms of being logical, drama-free and easygoing) that I’ve known for a very long time and have dated for several years, wrote me an email complaining about our not being together “as a couple” often enough in the past half-year. She suggested that perhaps we needed to take a break in the relationship.

I responded with a listing of things we’d done together over the past six months or so, just to demonstrate that there was no basis in reality for her assertion. But then I twisted the knife by agreeing with her that a break might be a good idea.

It was clearly not the response that she’s expected, and she retreated faster than a cat from a roaring vacuum cleaner. If I’d gone soft and joined her pity-party, promising to do better, kissing her bruised ego, she’d probably have lost respect for me and realized that she held the upper hand in the relationship.

You can never relax in a relationship with a woman, and you must always be willing to walk away. Whoever most needs (or appears to need) the relationship has the least power.

[bladeParticipant]

Cut all contact . Say no more to her . You watch all this sweety sweet bulls~~~ fly out the window when she really loses her s~~~ . This is just the start . It hasn’t gone nuclear yet

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Anonymous 42]

Hammerhead wrote:

Whoever most needs (or appears to need) the relationship has the least power.

I guess that makes me ALL POWERFUL!

F~~~ TRAINING MONKEYS!

[chirParticipant]

Actually it was a passive aggressive reverse psychology s~~~ test.

Her: We are not a couple enough. I think we need a break. <-thats the hook she is trying to set in your cheek.

Translation: I am not getting enough attention. I will make him panic by saying we should break up. He comes crawling back to me, I get attention and sink the hook deeper.

You: I have given you plenty of attention, but if you think we need to break up, OK.

Translation: Zero F~~~s Given.

Her: No! Wait! <- hook didn’t set, have to reel him in with some sex or something.

Translation: PANIC! All “her” time she invested in manipulating you could be in jeopardy!!

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

chir wrote:

Actually it was a passive aggressive reverse psychology s~~~ test.

Her: We are not a couple enough. I think we need a break. <-thats the hook she is trying to set in your cheek.

Translation: I am not getting enough attention. I will make him panic by saying we should break up. He comes crawling back to me, I get attention and sink the hook deeper.

You: I have given you plenty of attention, but if you think we need to break up, OK.

Translation: Zero F~~~s Given.

Her: No! Wait! <- hook didn’t set, have to reel him in with some sex or something.

Translation: PANIC! All “her” time she invested in manipulating you could be in jeopardy!!

Nice. We both are fluent in “woman”. I won’t speak it, but understand it perfectly.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Y_Participant 4591]

Someone should make a MGTOW dictionary / thesaurus for all those f~~~ed up phrases men hear from females with the REAL meaning.

Hammerhead wrote:

wrote me an email complaining about our not being together “as a couple” often enough in the past half-year. She suggested that perhaps we needed to take a break in the relationship.

=
Bitch has found someone else to root and / or work his arse off for her.
=
You are toast and / or no roots ever again. Sorry 🙁 (no actually she’s not)

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

chir wrote:

Actually it was a passive aggressive reverse psychology s~~~ test.

Her: We are not a couple enough. I think we need a break. <-thats the hook she is trying to set in your cheek.

Translation: I am not getting enough attention. I will make him panic by saying we should break up. He comes crawling back to me, I get attention and sink the hook deeper.

You: I have given you plenty of attention, but if you think we need to break up, OK.

Translation: Zero F~~~s Given.

Her: No! Wait! <- hook didn’t set, have to reel him in with some sex or something.

Translation: PANIC! All “her” time she invested in manipulating you could be in jeopardy!!

Well put sir, well put.

[UKChapParticipant 296]

Hammerhead I know where you’re coming from Brother

I have a live one on the hook at the moment with similar s~~~ tests that fail thanks to all that I have learned on here and will be thrown out with the trash just like all the rest.

To my Global brothers I sincerely thank you for enabling me to read the signs

ZFG

Life's a bitch, then you're supposed to marry one and then die- sod that for a game of soldiers!

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Right after I had chosen ultimately which girlfriend to break up with (I had two), the one I was going to break up with did a little s~~~ test (oddly enough she even admitted it was a test). I pretty much did it on my terms, and then baffled her by breaking up with her a few days later. She actually had no idea our hike around her neighborhood would result in me breaking up with her.

She spent the next month occasionally emailing me or texting me. Then came over to my place with pepper plants to give me when the other gf was there. She assumed that I had found a gf after breaking up with her and later texted me that I must not have really loved her if I could find someone so fast.

LOLs.
NFG.

One positive thing about dating the Asian gf for over 3 months, was that I understand what Bloodhound Gang’s “Uhn Tiss Uhn Tiss” refers to.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Just a friendly thought to stick in your back pocket Women often pretend to be “committed” to a very busy hard working man, so she can eventually blame HIM for her promiscuity.

Take James Bond for example. He’s the man other men want to be, and the man women want to be WITH. Right? Except, they would say “he’s never home”.

Girlfriends have brought the “you work too hard” and “you need to get a life” accusation to me too. One day I just spun my head around and asked, “Does every hour I spend with you PAY the bills? It’s gotta come from somewhere.”

She got so silent you could hear a mouse fart.

Of course, she eventually blamed me for her promiscuity, but I expected that and it was only a matter of time. At least I didnt drop what I was doing to gaze into her eyes all day. For that I would kick myself senseless.

( OK this time my post worked with no “500 error”. Excellent)

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

If we know anything about woman we know there will be another s~~~ test soon. You also know that the tests are the result of an agenda.
One that will never go away. At some point she will either trick you into that agenda, or leave you for someone else who will satisfy it.
Chances are she is already looking or has someone in mind as a second. Within a few more s~~~ test you will find out. Until then I would double your guard if you choose not to walk away.

chir wrote:

I am not getting enough attention.

I doubt she wants more attention. Simple whining usually works for that. Blackmailing a relationship is a serious s~~~ test and should be treated as more serious, and with more caution. So I would assume she wants something bigger, like more commitment (marriage or babies).

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[narwhalParticipant]

Y_ wrote:

Someone should make a MGTOW dictionary / thesaurus for all those f~~~ed up phrases men hear from females with the REAL meaning.

It really isn’t necessary to do that, and we already know what it means most of the time anyway. Just take them at their word and don’t read into anything else.

Hammerhead gave her exactly what she asked for. He knew exactly what she meant to say, what she was trying to do, but he ignored that, responding to what she actually said.

Perhaps it’s better to try and forget what we know about women, or at least turn off our automatic reaction to a when a woman says stuff like that.

Can you imagine if your buddy said the same thing to you? “We aren’t spending enough time together, so I don’t want to hang out with you anymore.” How ridiculous is that? He’d never say that, he’d be direct. “I miss hanging out. Let’s go do something.” Or, he would just let you go.

I should upfront an admit that I’ve done that to a woman before. Back in college, I feel hard for a friend. We had already talked about really liking each other, yet months went by and she didn’t want friends to know, or take it much beyond friends. So I told her that I didn’t want to play around. I wanted to be more, but if that wasn’t going to happen I wanted to go back to being friends. I didn’t mean for it to be a test, I just wanted resolution and to move on. I wasn’t very strong at the time and we did go back to being friends, but I couldn’t handle it very well.

Ok. Then do it.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Y_ wrote:

Someone should make a MGTOW dictionary / thesaurus for all those f~~~ed up phrases men hear from females with the REAL meaning.

And rank them like they do hot sauce with a little thermometer.
Least to most concerning.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[AwakenedParticipant 35202]

Since the Drama Attention Seeking Games have STARTED, It Sounds to me like this “relationship” has probably ran its course, and probably best to send her packing before She unleashes the NEXT wave of s~~~.

Hammerhead wrote:

A much better than average woman (in terms of being logical, drama-free and easygoing) that I’ve known for a very long time and have dated for several years

It took her longer then Most, but her TRUE Colors have Shown Through !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Awakened wrote:

Since the Drama Attention Seeking Games have STARTED, It Sounds to me like this “relationship” has probably ran its course, and probably best to send her packing before She unleashes the NEXT wave of s~~~.

Personally, I have very little patience, and this would be enough for me to end it. That being said, when a man passes a s~~~ test like this it greatly increases his value in her eyes and she becomes easy…for a while at least.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[Anonymous 1]

We need a break = I want to party and f~~~ another guys, but I don’t want to let you go just yet just in case I got pregnant, or those guys are assholes, or those guys not as rich as you.

[HammerheadParticipant 362]

Thanks for all the great comments.

I guess I should have been clearer…I’m nearly 60, and she’s close to the same age, so there’s no chance of baby rabies. She also knows that I will never marry again, so that’s not an issue. We’ve got a good relationship – – as good as you can get with a woman, anyway – – and she’s a blast in bed – – and she follows my basic sleepover rule: hot sex in the evening, BJ in the morning, otherwise don’t plan to stay over at my place. If she wasn’t such fun (in & out of bed), I’d have cut her off permanently awhile ago.

Like nearly ANY woman in a relationship, she gets the usual craving for “more” – – especially “commitment”. So they try mild or firm ultimatums. The last time she tried a mild ultimatum, I stonewalled her and she went off to find her Prince Charming. THAT gave her a crushing lesson in the reality of post-Wall dating and her SMV. So, she came crawling back. But they never really learn, so she had to test me again. Same question, same answer. I’m not going to crumble, babe.

Also, I’m dating another women and I have options. (Women HATE when they can’t control you, especially regarding your access to sex.)
She even tried the old “You should move in with me and save your money” ploy. Yep, I could save a ton of money. Nope, not gonna happen. No cohabitation, no marriage, EVER.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

A few months ago, the 22 year old I’m casually rooting, tried a little s~~~ test of her own. (Always with protection and sperm guarded like Fort Knox ; with consent documented.)

She wanted to know if “we were exclusive” – we live about 2hrs apart; distance is awesome by the way. This questioning came just as I was leaving; sprung after spending the weekend together.

I want to play out this arrangement a little longer, so I gave her the non committed answer “I’m not currently looking for anyone else”. She did not get the validation she desperately wanted. Now she’s trying extra hard to bait the hook. Once you eyes are open, the games are so transparent.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

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