Another Ex Story

[TaxGuyParticipant]

So, this one takes place about 3 months ago. As background for this little gem, my divorce took almost 3 years to complete and was final less than a month ago. The ex has been living with her boyfriend for over a year, although about 2 months after he moved in she felt the need to tell me that it wasn’t going to work out, they were more like just roommates,……. I think there was more to it but I didn’t care enough to listen to the rest.

So, back to three months ago. We are getting down to the final few details of the divorce (health insurance, splitting retirement accounts) and I get a text from her one Sunday night at about 11:30 (she knows I’m already asleep by the way).

Ex: Hey, I just wanted you to know that I finally figured out who I am and am in a happy place. I just couldn’t do that while we were together. So……are you sure you’re done?

Seriously? Are you sure you’re done? Is that the lamest attempt at monkey branching you’ve ever seen? Not I miss you, I still think about your wallet, are you still taking your blue pills every day, I learned how to swallow. Are you sure you’re done? This is after she threatened to lie to a judge and risk putting me in jail so she could get her “Fair Share” in the divorce. I figured out who you were years ago. A miserable shrew that completely lacks the capacity to be happy or content.

Me: I’m very happy for you. And yes I’m sure I’m done.
Ex: Okey Dokey 🙂

I s~~~ you not. She wants to know if I want to call off the divorce and when I say no she responds with Okey Dokey and a smiley face. Obviously she loves me very deeply and wanted to reconcile. I’m sure she was thinking how happy the girls would be to see the deep love that we share for each other. I’m sure she is so hurt by the rejection of that made for TV romantic move. I can see it now, right up there with the greats:

You had me at hello
Frankly Scarlett, I don’t give a damn
Take me to bed or lose me forever!!
………you sure you’re done?

I laughed my ass off!! I really wanted to tell her how f~~~ing lame that was, but you never want to enter the narcissistic vortex for no reason, so I let that one go.

And that, my friends, is what is out there waiting for you. And let’s not forget, she’s probably laying in bed next to her stupid f~~~ing blue pill boyfriend texting this crap to me.

And women wonder where all the good men are.

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[Anonymous 42]

@Tax Guy, get this,,, The last wedding I went to about 3 years ago is now over. They have two kids already, and she had to hop back on the c~~~ carousel, getting drunk, drugs, and the carousel became her life, he’s real nice guy too, but I’ve never seen him like this before, he flipped his wig in a totally logical way after walking in on her totally f~~~ed up, and the kids (babies) were hungry, crying, and drenched in s~~~/p~~~ diapers. Anyway he documented everything she did and got custody of the kids, And men are the villeins??? Not so, the liberal feminazi propaganda has vilified men for decades, and giving women a free pass!

If you don’t have video documentation it’s their word against yours! I have CCTV home security and dash cams in both my vehicles! And I’m not even married or seeing anyone! If I was I’d wear a body cam 24/7 365! Showers included!

[RoyDalParticipant]

Document everything! MG-ɹǝʍo┴ is fully right on this. Document everything or you will lose and the machine will devour your children. That is a lurid simile I know, but it was intended to be shocking in order to underscore my point.

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Ugh, f~~~ing glad for you that it’s over man. As much as you can, relegate that mess to the previous chapter of your life & move on to a new one as much as possible.

Do you still have contact with her? I know for me it was important to not talk to/see her at all for a while; a while turned in to 3 months, then 6, then s~~~, i got to thinking – wtf does she bring to the table at all? Last contact was almost 2 years ago & life has gotten better everyday since. 🙂

Here’s hoping the same’s true for you man. Freedom!!!!

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Matt:
We have two kids so I still have to communicate with her. It’s a funny story though. I was just glad I was here to know what monkey branching is. Not that I would have taken her back, but I knew exactly what it was when I saw it.

The red pill tastes better every day….

And for the record, what she was accusing me of wasn’t anything you could record. She wanted to tell the judge that I had been committing tax fraud. I wasn’t of course so she couldn’t have proved it, but it could have costed me my job. I tried to point out to her that if I lost my job it would ruin my entire career, and her gravy train. Her response was that’s why I should give her what she wanted.

Because vagina.

I know exactly how to deal with her now so I just laugh at her s~~~.

Order the good wine

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10909]

Sir, RoyDal and MGTower are right. Documentation is crucial at this juncture. Furthermore, do not let your guard down because you had a told-you-so moment. It is during this time that they strike with an unexpected sucker punch. I would refuse communication with her at his point on unless the children were involved. Otherwise, forward everything to your attorney and tell her that from this point on to send all correspondence to your attorney. Good Luck and stay strong brother.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Mr. Spock

I appreciate the advice. Two things though:

1. It’s pretty much impossible to document what you didn’t do.

2. You have to be very careful when dealing with a true narcissist. Throwing down the gauntlet of sending everything to the attorney would unleash hell. I don’t need that drama in my life. I pay a kings ransom every month to minimize the drama in my life. The divorce is over and the contract is signed. As long as I hold up my end of the bargain she will move on and ruin someone else’s life.

For guys trying to minimize the damage a narcissist has caused in your life, read up. I’ve read many books on the subject and it has been a huge help.

And remember this saying. When you get in the pen with a pig, you get dirty and the pig is happy.

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[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

TaxGuy wrote:

And remember this saying. When you get in the pen with a pig, you get dirty and the pig is happy.

Damn, i never heard of that before but makes complete sense. At that point the only thing to do is to laugh at the hog enjoying the mud.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

TaxGuy wrote:

And that, my friends, is what is out there waiting for you. And let’s not forget, she’s probably laying in bed next to her stupid f~~~ing blue pill boyfriend texting this crap to me.

And women wonder where all the good men are.

Just out of interest, why did you split? I am guessing that she thought there was a more exciting life out there for her on the c~~~ carousel so she decided to tell you “I love you, i’m just not in love with you?” as a get out of jail free card?

Mine is a very similar story, separated a little over 2 years ago and divorced for about 4 months now. Every now and again she messages me with little hints that she thinks she made a mistake, as you say probably laying in bed to her stupid f~~~ing blue pill boyfriend.

Apparently he posted on Facebook something along the lines of “You are my world” and last time I spoke to my children on Skype he was out doing the gardening. Exactly the same sort of s~~~ I used to do when I was blue pill and she was utterly bored stupid of it and cheated on me.

She is clearly bored with him and is monkey branching out to me. I laugh to myself when I think she is his problem now and she will be cheating on him sooner or later. If I was a betting man I would gamble on the fact that she is already flirting with other men on Facebook as she loves the attention. She will be 40 in under 2 years and she is going to find this hard so will need validation from some 20 something c~~~s sooner or later. This is how it happened with me, she was out on a hen night and started getting chatted up by a 22 year old and loved it. Strange how she soon realised these guys were only after sex so she settled for another blue pill man as she was terrified of being alone. Now she has got comfortable again she is craving that excitement of sneaking around and getting attention from new men.

You are better off being the guy going around f~~~ing these women, than being the man who takes them on and is constantly worried about what she is doing.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

You pretty much nailed why we split. Same story, different unicorn!

But don’t worry, not ALL women are like that!!

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[Anonymous 18]

Women do justify their behavior using stupid excuses. Any chance she already knew you’d say no but she needed to hear it before she takes ummm the unmentionables in unimaginable ways at unholy sites?

I mean well he can’t get mad, he didn’t want anything to do with me. I did give him a one last real chance.

Perhaps I am reading too much.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

ILearn

She’s been living with her boyfriend for over a year, so I don’t think it’s what you are thinking. I’m pretty sure I make more money than him and she would have way more help with my daughters having their dad around.

It simply would have been a stronger branch for her to hang from…. She just realized the grass wasn’t greener.

But grown up decisions have grown up consequences.

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[KeymasterKeymaster]

Gem of a story! Going to be favoriting more of them to compile a collection here.

I swear, women are just playing – like with a ball of yarn. “Are you sure you’re done?” Jesus……. yeah Im sure, f~~~youverymlch.

I was reunited with an old flame some years ago.. The rare kind you remember fondly and there’s nothing wierd about it. She wraps her arms around me. We had a nice chat she suggests we get a drink, and I say “great!” and then….. she CHANGES HER MIND WITHIN 30 SECONDS…… and all kinds of bizarre stuff starts coming out of her mouth. Like “we’d better not, I was wrong to think you would rescue me”…… and s~~~ like that.

So I call her out. “Sister, that works when you’re 19. But when you’re pushing 40, you can’t play come here/ go away anymore. What are you doing. I expect that from a 19 year old. It’s time to give it a rest.”…. and she’s looking at me like NOBODY ever told her what’s what before.

There’s just no sincerity to be found ANYWHERE in a woman’s words..
They aren’t built for it. It’s like they don’t know how. They don’t shoot straight.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Key:

What made me laugh the most was that it was probably the VERY least vulnerable she could have made herself. Are YOU sure you’re done? Not that she was having second thoughts, she wanted to know if I was first. I might think about it if you are willing to put yourself out there first. And when she gets no, its okey dokey. Can’t grab that branch, I’ll just hang on to the one I already have. You know, the one I don’t love that’s more like a roommate.

I’m just glad the divorce is over. She’s probably looking for the next guy now, and has been for a while.

Can you imagine hearing that story on a date: well, I’m still married, and I’m living with my boyfriend, he’s more like a roommate. I REALLY like you though. Because vagina. OK, maybe that thought makes me laugh the most.

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[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Keymaster wrote:

Gem of a story! Going to be favoriting more of them to compile a collection here.

I swear, women are just playing – like with a ball of yarn. “Are you sure you’re done?” Jesus……. yeah Im sure, f~~~youverymlch.

I was reunited with an old flame some years ago.. The rare kind you remember fondly and there’s nothing wierd about it. She wraps her arms around me. We had a nice chat she suggests we get a drink, and I say “great!” and then….. she CHANGES HER MIND WITHIN 30 SECONDS…… and all kinds of bizarre stuff starts coming out of her mouth. Like “we’d better not, I was wrong to think you would rescue me”…… and s~~~ like that.

So I call her out. “Sister, that works when you’re 19. But when you’re pushing 40, you can’t play come here/ go away anymore. What are you doing. I expect that from a 19 year old. It’s time to give it a rest.”…. and she’s looking at me like NOBODY ever told her what’s what before.

There’s just no sincerity to be found ANYWHERE in a woman’s words..
They aren’t built for it. It’s like they don’t know how. They don’t shoot straight.

I had that happen to be recently too. When women do that, it doesn’t make a man lose interest- it makes a man lose patience.

That one of the fastest ways to get on my “perma-dumped” list. I got sick of that crap when I was 19, what on Earth makes you think it is at all appealing now ?

Change your mind and do a “180” in 30 seconds ? A sure way to make me do a “180” put as much distance between us as I can.

Call this one the “Red Flag” of the day ?

Frank V.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Frank V. wrote:

I had that happen to be recently too. When women do that, it doesn’t make a man lose interest- it makes a man lose patience. That one of the fastest ways to get on my “perma-dumped” list.

I’m there. Zero tolerance policy now. Lost all patience for it.

Not so much because I can’t take her seriously….. but more because she stopped being FUN. That’s the criteria and minimum requirement now. I know better than to take her seriously EITHER way — whether she is into me or not — but if I’m not having FUN… I’m out. One minute it looks like we’re going to enjoy a few drinks and a few laughs, and the next minute, she’s a goddam buzzkill.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Frank V.Participant 2445]

Keymaster wrote:

Frank V. wrote:

I had that happen to be recently too. When women do that, it doesn’t make a man lose interest- it makes a man lose patience. That one of the fastest ways to get on my “perma-dumped” list.

I’m there. Zero tolerance policy now. Lost all patience for it.

Not so much because I can’t take her seriously….. but more because she stopped being FUN. That’s the criteria and minimum requirement now. I know better than to take her seriously EITHER way — whether she is into me or not — but if I’m not having FUN… I’m out. One minute it looks like we’re going to enjoy a few drinks and a few laughs, and the next minute, she’s a goddam buzzkill.

That kind of behavior can also be a s~~~ test to see how much crap you will put up with or to see if you are desperate- to see how many games with can play with you and still take it “like a man”.

If she is serious, she needs to grow the hell up and figure out what she wants. It also means she is impulsive. Impulsive and immature are not flattering traits in anyone 30 and over.

If it is a s~~~ test or an attempt at a mind game, then why have anything at all to do with someone who can’t stop lying or manipulating for 10 minutes ?

No matter how spin it, it’s a red flag. You did exactly the right thing- dump her now.

Frank V.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

TaxGuy wrote:

ILearn

She’s been living with her boyfriend for over a year, so I don’t think it’s what you are thinking. I’m pretty sure I make more money than him and she would have way more help with my daughters having their dad around.

It simply would have been a stronger branch for her to hang from…. She just realized the grass wasn’t greener.

But grown up decisions have grown up consequences.

I suspect that when she was with you her life was too easy and she got bored. She mistook this boredom for unhappyness and decided it was all your fault. She then started looking for attention from other guys and this became exciting and she thought this was the thing that was missing from her life.

Let me guess, before the “I’m not happy”, “I need space” and “I love you I am just not in love with you” her phone never left her side and she was on Facebook all night.

So she gets her “space” to jump back on the c~~~ carousel and it is exciting for a bit but hold on, none of these guys give a s~~~ about me. She is worried about being bitter and on her own so grabs another blue pill guy and moves him in. A few months down the line the honeymoon period has worn off and she is back the being bored again so she is no better off than she was before only the whole thing is now a mess.

The problem is, women believe all this Disney happy ever after crap and if they don’t get butterflies every day it must be the mans fault so just move onto the next one.

That pretty much sum up your situation?

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Have we met? Or maybe all women are like that….

It wasn’t Facebook though, it was match.com. only a woman wouldn’t be smart enough to log out of her account on the iPad that everyone in the house used. That or it was a s~~~ test that I didn’t pass. I hope that wasn’t the case though because it could have just as easily been one our daughters that found it. I’m pretty sure she’s just that dumb.

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[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

TaxGuy wrote:

Have we met? Or maybe all women are like that….

It wasn’t Facebook though, it was match.com. only a woman wouldn’t be smart enough to log out of her account on the iPad that everyone in the house used. That or it was a s~~~ test that I didn’t pass. I hope that wasn’t the case though because it could have just as easily been one our daughters that found it. I’m pretty sure she’s just that dumb.

It’s the boring old reason why women in their late 30’s/early 40’s cheat on their husbands. They are terrified of losing their sexual market value as this is the only thing they feel they have going for them. This is now getting worse and worse due to the whole Facebook selfie validate me culture.

They join a gym, lose weight, buy new clothes and start going out with the girls as they want to do something “for me”. Of course the true reason is they want validation from men that they still have a sexual market value. They actually believe the younger guys are really interested in them and not that they just see them as easy sex.

They find out the hard way that the younger guys don’t really want to take them and their 2 children on so they panic and latch onto another blue pill man as they cannot be on their own for 5 minutes.

She probably thought that you were so stupid and that she was so smart that you would never find out she was cheating on you.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

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