Guys, why doesn’t the Quote button work for me? I push it, I see a little spinning progress wheel appear for a moment, and then nothing happens. Am I doing something wrong? Does the Quote function not work with Mac?
Okay, first of all, @mdave, we’re all brothers in arms here on this forum, so I say this with peace and brotherly love.
Number one, I love ALL my children equally and more than life itself. ALL of them. I am not sure who “these bitches” are that you’re referring to, but I take great umbrage at anyone referring to any of my children pejoratively. I will not EVER “forget about” ANY of my children. EVER. None of my children is beyond hope, and I will raise them all to be understanding of the red pill reality. Disparaging a fellow MGTOW’s child on this forum is a sure way to make a lifelong enemy. We can’t afford to be enemies here. We all need each other, so we all need to respect each other as fellow MGTOWs, and that means respecting what is dear to our fellow MGTOWs. That has to be a ground rule or this movement will eat itself.
Number two, it’s not only unrealistic to expect that I could get “sole custody” of any of my children as a Father, much less split the kids up and take custody of one of them. The law (as imperfect as it is) doesn’t work that way, the family court system (as completely f~~~ed up as it is) doesn’t work that way, and as a parent and paterfamilias I would never split my kids up, because they help and support each other — none of them is a “nasty influence” on any of the others…all they have 100% of the time is each other, and when they’re not with me, I feel they may as well be in the woods with wolves, so when I let them go each time my week of custody comes to an end, I pray in my heart that they will band together and survive until they return to me the following week.
Number three, none of this is to say that we shouldn’t work together to spread our message, the red pill, and work to effect change in the law and the court system (yes, I see them as distinct — one does not necessary follow the other). To paraphrase Martin Luther King:
Even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream.
I have a dream that my three little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by their gender but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day, in the United States, with its vicious gynocentric hive mentality, with its mangina lawmakers — one day right here in America little children will be able to join hands as brothers and sisters.
Yes, the world is f~~~ed up, Mdave, but I won’t give up on any of my issue. They are the fruit of my loins and I will raise them the best I can to be a part of the solution and not a part of the problem…just like MLK asked of the white man a half a century ago.
And now, @fitzbones:
Thank you, brother, for your empathy for my f~~~ed up situation. Your advice is exactly what I do, and I do even more. My ex was raised Mennonite, and her mother was shunned for having her out of wedlock. So being shunned cuts her even more deeply than it cuts other women. I do not look at her; I do not acknowledge her presence if I am unavoidably in proximity to her; I pick up the kids by parking at the corner of the street rather than in front of her door; and when I respond to her emails via the court-ordered custodial email account I write my email responses as if I’m speaking to the JUDGE and not to my ex…in other words, I refer to myself as “Father” and refer to her as “the opposing party.” I do that in legal documents too, referring to myself as “Father” and referring to her as “petitioner” or “appellee” or “appellant” or “defendant” depending on the nature and procedural posture of the proceeding. I never ever engage her in small talk, never offer greetings and never acknowledge her as anything other than what she is: a physically/mentally/emotionally abusive, adulterous, thieving, conniving betrayer who betrayed and neglected her children as well as betrayed and abused her husband. She is absolutely dead to me.
And lastly, @NinjaJames:
You are absolutely right, my brother. There is no immunity for me simply because I happen to be a high priest of the religion of law. When the semi-inevitable divorce happens (and I mean that literally … “semi-” comes from the Latin cognate, and its Old English counterpart “som-,” meaning “half”), the family court system, while it has made great strides toward gender equality in the past few years, still leans heavily in favor of the female party in all aspects of the divorce. This refers not only to custody matters, but also the so-called “equitable” distribution of the marital assets and debts, alimony, spousal support, child support, etc. This is a result of a few things, to quote myself, that may, as yet, be unavoidable:
1. As far as society has come toward shattering the glass ceiling, women are still perceived as being the underdogs in the workforce. Whether there is any truth to that or not (note, for instance, that the membership of the legal profession — and I emphasize the word “profession” — is now predominantly female; note also that these are the people who will be handling all aspects of your divorce!), the outdated notion of women being the workforce underdog is imprinted on the brains of most family court judges — male or female — and influences their decision-making. It’s an old paradigm that the members of the legal profession find hard to break.
2. Regardless of a woman’s earning capacity, because so few men ever take paternity leave, women end up taking the family leave from the workforce when the children are born, and that is often viewed — correctly or incorrectly — as somehow disadvantaging them professionally. So be sure to take your FMLA leave, gentlemen, after the birth of each of your children (these will be the greatest moments of your life, I promise you)!
3. Women are stereotyped as the “nurturers” and men are not seen that way. That’s nonsense, gentlemen. We are not our father’s fathers. We are a new generation of men; a generation of men raised by our mothers. We now have the tools to be nurturers also, and are just as good at it as our female counterparts if we use those tools. The pendulum has swung and finally equilibrated. This old, but still strong stereotype of women as the sole nurturers inures greatly to the female party’s favor not only in custody matters, but also in all the other ancillary matters in a divorce, because the “default” notion is that the mother will be the primary nurturer of the children (even if there is an evenly split physical custody arrangement), and she therefore needs the financial resources to support that role. And where will those financial resources come from? From the man’s “deep pockets,” of course!
Women know this — intuitively, if not consciously, because it is taught to all of us — men and women — subtly in every aspect of our society. Thus, women are no longer afraid to seek a divorce; in fact, when a marriage has passed the margin of diminishing returns for the female partner — financial or otherwise, such as with respect to the ethereal or ever-fluctuating notion of “happiness” — it actually behooves the wife, from an investment perspective, to “sell,” to get out, to divorce her spouse. At that point, you are worth more to her as her ex-husband and a stream of income than you are as her husband.
And make no mistake about it — happiness is a fluctuating concept. Every relationship has ups and downs. But because we live in a society with a “fast-food mentality,” and because divorce is so easy nowadays and no longer holds any social stigma, people don’t bother weathering the downs and waiting for the inevitable ups to come around again. Even setting aside the margin of diminishing financial returns, as soon as the margin of diminishing returns of happiness rears its ugly head over the horizon, one or both parties often look to divorce as a first resort. Because women stand to make out financially from the “investment” of having commingled the funds and wealth of both parties into a single “marital estate,” and stand to get the lioness’s share of custody to boot, women are quicker to file the divorce papers.
What we need is more men becoming LEGISLATORS to strip the hive of their blue pill mentality and liberate us from the Femininely Court System, as brother Ninja James aptly put it.
I am the stone that builder refused
I am the visual
The inspiration
That made lady sing the blues I’m the spark that makes your idea bright
The same spark
That lights the dark
So that you can know your left from your right I am the ballot in your box
The bullet in your gun
The inner glow that lets you know
To call your brother son
The story that just begun
The promise of what’s to come
And I will remain a soldier till the war is won Chop, chop. Judo flip.
harpo-my-“SON” 5 years ago.
