Anatomy of an addiction

[Anonymous 3]

I have recently learned a concept of how an addiction works, and it was a revelation for me.

Before an addiction we have a normal relationship with life. We have choices and are free to make our decisions.
At the start of an addiction we have a great pleasure rush, so we get into a HIGH state of pleasure.

However nothing lasts forever, and everything in nature goes into equilibrium. So, what would feel great initially ends up losing power after some time.

At this time we think we need more of it or something different, more powerful. Obviously it is not going to work, we are just digging a bigger hole for ourselves, and life starts going down the drain.

But the worst part is that we are no longer normal outside the influence of the addiction: we feel like s~~~. The only thing that makes life better is the object of addiction. At this stage we no longer get a pleasure rush, we need the addiction just to get NORMAL.

And a bigger tragedy is when others make a profit from our addiction. They make advertisement, they tell you that it will make you feel good, they dangle that addiction just in front of you. There is no escape from it.

Now let us apply this to sex.

What starts out as a normal instinct is hijacked by society (and women) for power and resources.
If we look around us we can notice that everything is sexualized. We are constantly bombarded with images of females in provocative stances, reveling clothing and everywhere we see the magical word “love”.

Obviously sex is pleasurable. it is nature’s way of guaranteeing the species survival, giving pleasure for food and reproduction.
However it is not natural for sex to be always in our mind.

When we are kids we are carefree about these things. However, when we get to sexual maturity we become aware of an avalanche of sexual material. The message is clear: sex is the best thing ever! I am sure that every man remembers, at that young age, feeling like he was missing something really big.

When we discover our body its great, but after some time it gets normal and we need something else. We think a woman would be the ultimate experience that everyone talks about.

When we first have sex with a woman its great, but after some time it gets normal and we need something else. We think about other sexual acts or another women will be that elusive ultimate experience.

At that point we are addicted, and if we dont have sex we feel like s~~~, like we are worthless and nobody cares about us. So we need sex, a relationship, regardless of how much pain is involved, just to feel normal.

Sounds familiar? It is just like an addiction.

Let us change of sex for drinks and think of men as alcoholics. Look around you: every movie involves people drinking, every poster has a exquisite beverage, every woman carries a bottle of wine. You need your daily dose, but you will not get it unless you pander women so that they give you a glass of that wine. But is never enough, it is never frequent, and you compromise more and more for that alcohol.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

Nice post. I’ve actually been avoiding sexualized media as part of an experiment. I am someone who is prone to addiction and that is part of the reason I’ve never pursued sex, had a drink of alcohol, or smoked…. I don’t even consume caffeine since it affects me strongly. Because of this, I began my experiment a little while after my latest semester at college ended. I do an internship which requires little contact with women and like I said, I’m not consuming any sexualized media.

I notice a difference but not a huge one. For me, the best way to solve my addiction issues, whether it is playing video games too long or masturbating too much, is to focus on other things. I remind myself of what the addiction is keeping me from and why I want to do the other instead. I visualize the outcome of successfully completing the more important task and just do it. An idle mind is the one that gets sidetracked by vices. A mind hellbent on achieving something keeps me from spending too much time on lesser pleasures.

[chirParticipant]

They have done studies that show a significant proportion of the population are genetically predisposed to being mentally susceptible to addictions. However when addiction starts they are first hooked because they mentally become addicted then if there are physical addictions “drugs” the addiction is reinforced.
My mother was a functional alcoholic. I am always surprised I survived being driven around by her when I was younger because she was 3 sheets to the wind but looked relatively OK.

Throughout my younger years I was introduced to drugs by several women. One tried to get me addicted to heroin but I would not consider anything with needles. F~~~ THAT I never got addicted to anything. I tried pot a few times and one broad whined until I tried cocaine. I always found that being under the effects of anything was HUGELY repugnant to me. I LOATHED not being coherent or in control of myself. Once I realized that the women were trying to get me addicted so they could leech drugs off me for pussy. I was well on my red pill way. By 1990 I had choked down a bottle of red pills and by 1993 I was solidly MGHOW.

I was fortunate to not be predisposed to addictive behavior which I can thank my father for because he, like me has no addictions except for coffee. He likes wine but only has half a glass at dinner and will only go through one 6 pack of beer a week. Me I never got a taste for wine or beer but I have a taste for top shelf whiskey. I never go through more than a bottle every couple months. If I had to give it up I would. Giving up coffee would be hard because I have always loved the taste of cold filtered coffee.

I have had a few friends who were, like me, introduced to drugs by the women they were seeing at the time. One is dead from a heroin OD and the other one I lost touch with. Looking back, I see that the women were looking for someone to be co-dependent with so they could better afford their addictions by having the man there to get them drugs for pussy.

I see the analogy you are going for but I think its less about addiction and more about people who are desperate. Being MGTOW we are a not on the same rat race road and can see the main highway where the rats are scurrying about f~~~ing themselves to death looking for something they need in another person rather than finding happiness in themselves. When I hit my 40’s I had an epiphany. I had heard it all the time but it never clicked until one day it did. I heard so many friends and family say “I am looking” for or “have found” that special person who completes me. BOOM… “completes me”. I realized that they all are unhappy with their lives and are looking for someone who can make up for their unhappiness. When people are unhappy with their lives they can self destructively chase it into all forms of addiction.

I think our founding fathers subconsciously realized this when they said we are free to the “pursuit of happiness” but made no mention of saying you are guaranteed in achieving it. Wise people.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[solitudeParticipant 346]

From my experience, very few addicts and are willing to reflect deeply enough within themselves to discover the root cause(s) of their addictions and/or understanding the triggers and thought patterns which usually occur days/weeks/sometimes months before a relapse takes place.

I have yet to meet a person who doesn’t have an addictive mindset. Some are harmful to their lives (drugs/alcohol), some aren’t (thought process, religion).

Surprisingly a lot of the same concepts I’ve learned in my battle with addiction have greatly helped in my quest to become a MGTOW. Having been forced to look that deeply into my entire way of thinking has actually saved/transformed my entire life.

The aftermath of addiction isn’t the problem, its the personal issues that get you there which are.

Excellent topic and article.

[jack reacherParticipant 751]

Yeah, Razorbladecandy did a video on this a while ago. Suggesting that the male sexual desire is what is being exploited in this culture, not the bitches being objectified as is the narrative. They are using their sexuality to exploit males. And the mans hands are tied in a gynocentric culture, so he is constantly taunted and teased, yet he cannot act on it in any way because no way is deemed appropriate within the gynocentric/feminist framework.

Just think of how that must feel for a young man these days. Constantly exposed to gash sexuality and teasing yet simultaneously reminded he is rapist for articulating any interest. Sex is always on the bitches terms, never on his terms. She can make a false rape accusation with impunity, yet he must obtain, with proof, enthusiastic consent of any sexual act. Looking is sexual assault, speaking can be harassment. Each situation is relative, the bitch gets to define the terms. Yet they walk around is skin tight leggings, skimpy shorts, total whore gear. Because they want to respected for their abilities.

[Anonymous 3]

Tiga K wrote:

I began my experiment a little while after my latest semester at college ended. I do an internship which requires little contact with women and like I said, I’m not consuming any sexualized media.
[…]
An idle mind is the one that gets sidetracked by vices. A mind hellbent on achieving something keeps me from spending too much time on lesser pleasures.

In the last month I have abandoned porn and masturbation. I was getting more and more demanding with the kind of porn I was watching. I lost the stomach for the commercial porn because I could see women faking the whole thing, so I was consuming amateur porn. And even with amateur I was getting the same feeling, and eventually I gave up.

I realized that I (maybe men in general) pursue sex not just for the physical pleasure, but for the emotional connection. Obviously nobody tells us that. Because we interpret it as a physical thing we are always missing something. That understanding was like a spell that was lifted. I could see that women fake the whole time: they do not care for men. And that is a huge turn off.

I also noticed exactly what you said: many times it was just the idle mind looking for some thrill. Then I would put on some porn and would need to masturbate. That was the sequence: idleness -> porn -> sex.

chir wrote:

I see the analogy you are going for but I think its less about addiction and more about people who are desperate.

I kept my post concise. Obviously there is much to say about these issues. As you said, many times people engage in an addiction due to desperation, not in search of any pleasure. There are instances where people become alcoholics because they seek to forget a situation. Sometime people just seek alienation from the world.

solitude wrote:

From my experience, very few addicts and are willing to reflect deeply enough within themselves to discover the root cause(s) of their addictions and/or understanding the triggers and thought patterns which usually occur days/weeks/sometimes months before a relapse takes place.

And not only addicts… One surprising thing I learn is that everything we learn was already clear from the start, we where just to blind to see it.
All this knowledge we now have about the female nature, it is nothing new! Its something that we could see all the time and everywhere. Yet our own drives and motivations stop us from seeing the truth. Just like any addict…

chir wrote:

I think our founding fathers subconsciously realized this when they said we are free to the “pursuit of happiness” but made no mention of saying you are guaranteed in achieving it.

This is very important.

People go through life seeking happiness and never finding it, because happiness is not in things we get but getting to them.
I had this strange experience as a kid: I would daydream about getting everything I wanted. But the dream was no longer interesting once I achieved it.
Initially I thought it was due to the dreaming being less realist, so I would remake the fantasy by getting the same thing in a more realistic way. It made no difference.

I finally concluded that the path to getting somewhere is more interesting than the place we are going. Just like this scene from the movie Peacefull Warrior

[Anonymous 3]

jack reacher wrote:

Just think of how that must feel for a young man these days. Constantly exposed to gash sexuality and teasing yet simultaneously reminded he is rapist for articulating any interest. Sex is always on the bitches terms, never on his terms.

THAT was the essence of my post. Thank you for putting this in a much more clear and concise way!

[jack reacherParticipant 751]

you’re welcome ZenState, thanks for posting.

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