Advice please- Unwarranted Ego is Unhealthy

[Anonymous 18]

This questions perhaps belongs more to some spiritual growth website. But I am comfortable asking for help here.

I have sort of self-diagnosed myself with having unwarranted ego. I don’t have anything special to justify it. I am not c~~~y but I sometimes sense I have some inflated self-pride, over-estimation of my worth.

Something that shouldn’t be a cause of concern for most. But I feel its keeping me from grounding myself. Applying the best of my abilities to achieve goals I set for myself.

How does a man keep himself grounded? I would like to achieve humility that can transcend in day to day living and not just temporarily for instance in the moment of receiving a failing grade when knowing full well I didn’t study hard enough.

Do you guys have any insight/experiences/advice? I would appreciate it.

Many thanks!

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

Life and experience will normally ground a guy. A good ass kicking from a boss or someone.

I think you might be confusing ego with ‘frame’.

Ego can and should be knocked. That teaches you the rules of life and how the world operates.

Frame is YOU and should always be kept. It’s your worth as a man ….. how you walk … treat others etc.

Ego is for the young … it carries them part way so they can get on. It balances juvenile bull s~~~ ☺ until they learn.

Work on your frame …. ego will sort itself out …..

Unless you’re psychopath 😃

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Anonymous wrote:

Unwarranted Ego is Unhealthy

There are rules (and laws) in place that will stop you from your ego running rampant. (think Hitler)… or think of racing on a motorbike / car, or having any attitude where you think you’re invincible and have an unrealistic view of your capabilities.

A man NEEDs his “ego” in order to accomplish greatness. It built the great wall and the pyramids. It conquered Everest and accomplished miracles of human endeavor.

Ego in men is AWESOME.

Ego in women is repugnant.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/lorenzo-jensen-iii/2015/07/17-ways-that-science-proves-women-are-superior-to-men/

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/seven-things-women-are-definitely-better-at-than-men/

There is nothing preventing women from having rampant , outrageous over-inflated views of themselves. And in their own minds, they don’t even need to EARN it. What kind of an OUTRAGEOUS ego would a woman have to have to, demand and expect a man to work a year of his life to be able to afford a ring so that he can KNEEL DOWN and ask for permission to love her??

But in this society, if you’re a man, you don’t even need an overblown “ego” to come off as an ego monster. You just need a FRAGMENT of self esteem and refuse to ever kneel and bow or serve… and they will call you an “ego monster”.

You don’t even need a big ego.
You just need to NOT worship women, and refuse to be a slave.
That’s how skewed it is.

Just a simple “no” will get you accused of being arrogant.
But how arrogant is the person who expected an automatic “yes” from you?

Anonymous wrote:

humility

@Ilearn mentions “humility”…..

You don’t need to work on having more “humility”. There are too may forces at work that first reach for your ego and try to rip it away from you. They prefer you not to even HAVE one — at all.

Because they know a man who us sure of himself is one of the greatest forces the planet has ever seen. “Humility” is not what is required to catapult a man into space. “Humility” is not required for Columbus to build an Armada of ships to traverse the world’s most tempestuous Oceans so that he can find out for himself – and all of humanity – that the world is indeed ROUND.

He didn’t have an overblown ego, because nature would have stopped him and the Oceans would have swallowed him whole. There’s the lesson in humility. One that a woman with an outrageous ego never learns.

What they call your “ego” is one of your most valuable assets. When anyone tries to take it from you, you smack their fingers away and tell them: “Get your f~~~ing hands off my ego. It doesn’t belong to you.”

ILiveAgain wrote:

Ego will sort itself out

When a man’s “ego” gets out of control, HE will certainly pay for that.
But as a man, nobody will prop you up – except you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 18]

Sweet pickles for digging this old thread. Thanks for the advice. Much appreciate the red pill truth in your post.

[hollowtipsParticipant 681]

Just be careful people try to knock you down when you walk with your ego out, something humbling is that theirs always someone smarter or wealthier than you are, and until you’re on their level you don’t deserve to be arrogant. At the same time don’t water yourself down for anyone except for yourself. If you like yourself the way you are, then you don’t need to change.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

hollowtips wrote:

If you like yourself the way you are, then you don’t need to change.

“Early in my life, I had to decide between hypocritical humility or honest arrogance. I chose arrogance, and I have seen no reason to change”.
– Architect Frank Lloyd Wright

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[RockmaninoffParticipant 1641]

hollowtips wrote:

If you like yourself the way you are, then you don’t need to change.

But be careful that you truly do like yourself, and it’s not just complacency!

". . . elle, suivant l’usage des femmes et des chats qui ne viennent pas quand on les appelle et qui viennent quand on ne les appelle pas, s’arrêta devant moi et m’adressa la parole"—Prosper Mérimée

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