A powerful lesson for me, cheating and NAWALT.

[Admit_The_ProblemParticipant 69]

Good evening guys, hope you’re all doing well.

My father taught me when I was a kid…

‘you’ll be lucky if you have 5 real friends throughout your life’

I always took that advice to heart and kept my circle small. In my inner-circle there is 2 dudes besides myself and a girl. People I would die for.

They have all been friends in good and bad times for years. They’ve earned my trust. The girl has dated an acquaintance of mine since I’ve known her. Dude is a solid guy but we don’t have much in common so I rarely see him.

Lately, this girl has been flirting with me more and more and I think it is subconscious for her. I have been regularly making out with her at her place and it honestly just left me feeling like s~~~. She seems to act like we are just being friendly or some s~~~.

If there is a girl on earth that could convince me to marry her, it’d be her. I haven’t felt love for her, but everything over the years up until now has showed her to be loyal, thoughtful, and kind.

She has seen me breakdown sobbing at bad news. She has ordered me food and given thoughtful gifts whenever I mentioned being down. She pays for way more s~~~ than I have ever given her. And through all that, she has had respect for me. She didn’t seem to view me as weak for being honest about emotional pain. I thought she was different.

But here we are.

I have a great job lined up in IT, her bf is struggling to find good employment, and the flirting is getting more and more aggressive. I feel like a piece of s~~~ to the dude but I also feel like I don’t owe him anything.

The truth is, I have been using her.

I have used her to see how easily a woman who can earn my trust will cheat and mess around.

Answer: pretty damn easily.

Because I don’t care about sex or a relationship with her, I tested the water ‘joking’ about being a plan B for her.

She immediately pulled back with a slight expression of horror/surprise.

I explained that I was ‘just kidding no reason to freak out’ and that calmed her down.

All women are like that.

How could anyone trust?

-Cheers mate.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Admit_The_Problem wrote:

I have a great job lined up in IT, her bf is struggling to find good employment, and the flirting is getting more and more aggressive.

The truth is, I have been using her.

The truth is, she’s hoping to use you.

You’re that little monkey’s next branch. Nothing more.

She immediately pulled back with a slight expression of horror/surprise.

Horror and surprise that you sussed her.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Admit_The_Problem,

In my view. It is not about trusting women which is the issue. It is more about coming to the realisation of the true nature of women. When you take a big step back, you will start to see things a lot more clearly. Even if a woman is like a traditional wife back in the early 1900’s, I will still not get married. Not because of the behaviour of women nor the legal system. It is to do with the human condition and how uncertain it is. People get into relationships with all sorts of expectations and in most cases there are issues. These expectations are based on the illusion that everything will last, but they never do.

That is why you see so many couples wondering “what happened to the chemistry?”. That chemistry (aka “love”) is influenced by mother nature to procreate. This “love” only has a very short time-span. The behaviour of men, what jobs they do and what materialistic possessions they buy, is heavily influenced by his biological drive to procreate. Women, on the other hand, want to secure a man with most resources to maximise survival. I do not see this behaviour of females as a “bad” thing. It is what it is.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

OP
My older brother used to have a serious girlfriend who was living with him.
One day…I go over to where both my brother and I worked..and the girl friend was there.
She gave me a big hug and then tried to French Kiss me.

I told my brother about it and he didn’t believe me.
6 months later he came home early and found another guy in his bed with his girlfriend.

Years later he got married and had a couple of kids….one day before the 2nd one was born they moved very abruptly far away. Months later the kid was born. She looks NOTHING like him or anyone in my family.

AWALT

[Anonymous 5]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

This “love” only has a very short time-span.

In reality it ends when the woman has secured a man either emotionally or legally. She then turns straight back to AWALT.
Women have an unconscious, subconscious switch that turns romantic love to wife mode.

You can constantly read about this change 1000’s of times on the huge “Scary Mommy” website confessional. You’ll be floored by the huge numbers of votes of “same” “like” and “hug” to how women react as soon as they get married or even get a steady reliable boyfriend.

It’s clear that your female friend already feels she owns her fiance.
Already, he’s sexually boring for her.
You’re plan B alright! It must have freaked her out when you said it out loud though haha

[Anonymous 2]

Every woman I seriously dated had my replacement moved up to first string within 2 weeks. They always have a backup plan. I wouldn’t give her a ring and deposit some baby batter up in her and finally she turned to an insufferable c~~~ and I walked away. This was the one whom I’d thought I’d marry. It’s just one example. It’s part of the plan so they feel no guilt about breaking up with you in case it’s a mistake and her monkey branch turns out to not be as good as you. Get her drunk and get her talking she will reveal her plans in detail. That one did. It’s scary what they have in their heads.

[Anonymous 3]

There’s this saying: When you see a good looking woman, you know somewhere there’s a guy who is tired of her s~~~.

Something like that comes to mind: When you see a nice, kind woman, you know somewhere she’s treating another man like a piece of s~~~, “friendzoning” him, lying to him, cheating on him, kicking him when he’s down.

I’ve been on both sides of the camp. I was the guy that got cheated on and told it was my fault. I was also the guy whom a woman cheated with and was treated like a king.

[narrow road travelerParticipant 1680]

Anyone who would eject a person from their life. Because they believed they’d get cash and prizes at the kangaroo court. Is a complete piece of s~~~.

My experience compels me to spend as little time as possible around them.

For example there will never be a “Real housewives of McDuncie.”

Sadly, users are everywhere. Part of life is to ignore their manipulation.

The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting. --Sun Tsu

[Anonymous 11]

sidecar wrote:

The truth is, she’s hoping to use you.

She is using you in some way.

Just don’t get trapped in her scheme. I mean she’s cheating and probably with more than just you. There really is not much else to say other than can you cut bait now.

[BraceParticipant 467]

she’s monkey branching to you. and after she gets u she’ll monkey branch to someone else. circle of life of the modern women.
here is the thing though u’ll get rekt in the process she already knows who you are, your weaknesses and what makes you tick.
your armor is compromised and u’ll get shot through if you don’t maintain distance. you might think you got no emotions for her up to the point she cheats on you to. they always have plan B especially if she feels ur the hit and run kinda guy. she’ll have a friendzoned chump lined up to replace you.. don’t give them anything, focus on ur other male friends.

[AttonParticipant]

RealityBites wrote:

OP
My older brother used to have a serious girlfriend who was living with him.
One day…I go over to where both my brother and I worked..and the girl friend was there.
She gave me a big hug and then tried to French Kiss me.

I told my brother about it and he didn’t believe me.
6 months later he came home early and found another guy in his bed with his girlfriend.

Years later he got married and had a couple of kids….one day before the 2nd one was born they moved very abruptly far away. Months later the kid was born. She looks NOTHING like him or anyone in my family.

AWALT

Ouch that would really f~~~ing hurt.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

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