A perplexing problem I have noticed with females

[irbaboonParticipant 6]

Hey guys new member here.I have something I would like your imput on . It is a fairly minor issue ( especially when compared to the s~~~ many of you have gone through) but it is still rather vexing.I have a question about something I have observed women doing a great deal.Thinking someone is suffering when they really are not.

I have an example from my life that I have been trying to understand. A number of years back, an acquaintance of my mother’s was staying with my family over the weekend. She was sleeping in our den (which was where our main tv was located. We had a guess room (with a smaller tv in it) that a cousin was staying in. This cousin worked nights so this room was unoccupied.

This same weekend a discovery channel show was airing that I had been wanting to see for some time. At this time neither television was able to record anything.

The family friend was going to sleep for the evening and I was sitting in a wooden chair contentedly watching the tv in our guest room.

A few minutes into my show the family fried walks by the room and goes into a meltdown.

“ON MY GOD I DIDN’T KNOW I WAS TAKING THE TV AWAY FROM YOU! YOU CAN COME WATCH THE TV IN THE DEN .I DON’T HAVE TO GO TO SLEEP YET. YOU CAN WATCH THE OTHER TV YOU DON’T HAVE TO WATCH THE SMALL TV” etc etc.

I told her that I was fine, I only wanted to see this one show and I would be going to bed after it finished.I also made a point that it was something I had been waiting to see for a long time, hoping that she would take the hint and shut up.

She didn’t and kept going on and on with the same s~~~
“ON MY GOD I DIDN’T KNOW I WAS TAKING THE TV AWAY FROM YOU! YOU CAN COME WATCH THE TV IN THE DEN .I DON’T HAVE TO GO TO SLEEP YET. YOU CAN WATCH THE OTHER TV YOU DON’T HAVE TO WATCH THE SMALL TV”

I tried to reassure her that I was fine and reiterated that this was a show I really wanted to watch.She would not let up and I was missing my show.I finally just stopped replying to her turned away from her and tried to watch my show (what little I could here, through her noise.) She eventually walked away and I was able to finish the program in piece.

I am quite certain though that her interpretation of the events was “OH MY GOD HE WAS SO ANGRY HE COULDN’T WATCH THE BIG TV THAT HER TURNED AWAY AND WOULDN’T EVEN TALK TO ME OR LOOK AT ME”

This woman was a social worker BTW. I would have thought that would have given her greater insight into understanding people.

My questions for you guys are these

1) WTF was going on with that crazy bitch?
2) Is there any way I could have handled the situation better

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

1) bitches be crazy
2) You handled it pretty well. I guess you preferred solitude without being interrupted, something that would eventually happen if you’d be in the living room.

Bitch was just trying to cause drama because they live off it. I applaud the way you handled the situation. Might’ve turned the volume up to drown her noise out, though 😀

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[HitmanParticipant]

Welcome.
She exhibited typical attention whore behavior.
Feigning concern while trying to get the attention from you. ..
Ruining your show never entered her mind.
Well handled.
See my signature to sum it up. .

[experiencedParticipant]

She attempted to manipulate you and failed.
Laydeez think that all men can be man-ipulated.
Communication during conversation amounts to:
10% = what is said.
30% = how its said.
60% = everything else.
She likely was panged with guilt when she realized the minor inconvenience she’d caused. And also that she was still up and about.
RATHER than addressing her guilt via shutting up and letting you watch the program, she chose to blow the whole thing out of proportion/focus on HER and you miss the show.
You handled it perfectly, IMO.
Men interact to arrive at solutions, women interact to ????????????????????????????

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

Welcome irbaboon! Thanks for the break down of your experience. Stories like yours are how we all learn. Keep them coming. You will get feedback, guaranteed.

[narwhalParticipant]

Sounds like my mother. I don’t know why women do this. It seems weird that it was guilt, it’s almost more that they want to maintain the image they have of themselves or something. I think this friend wanted to feel like she sacrificed to stay out of your families way. She wanted to be the ‘sacrificer’. Finding out that you changed your plans for her ruined it. She wasn’t concerned about you really, just the image she wanted to portray.

This comes up with my mother whenever I take her out to dinner. She always fights for the bill. Now, my mother is retired, and will complain about money issues. She knows I’m well employed and have no problem paying the bill. She wants to be the matriarch, and appreciated for her generosity or something. Sometimes I force the issue and pay, other times I let her and show no appreciation whatsoever. She hates it both ways.

I’ve actually had a talk with her about that issue years ago. She doesn’t get to insist on having things her way and then expected to be appreciated for it. If you aren’t appreciated, either stop doing it, or accept that you were really just doing it for yourself and be happy with that.

Ok. Then do it.

[RedPillBonerParticipant 541]

I know and am quite close with a social worker. She actually did a lot for me growing up because my parents were scumbags.

Now that I am in my 30s I see that this woman despite being a social worker and flaming liberal, is way more f~~~ed up than the people she intends to help.

[ILiveAgainParticipant]

DRAMA TIME

They do love it when it comes around.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6414]

I’m clueless why women do such things. Therefore, I just relax in my hammock in the evenings along with a cold drink ..and enjoy the sunset.

[IAmManParticipant 228]

1. Older lady somewhere around getting her face pummeled by the wall.

2. Social worker – stressful job. Needs release.

3. Conveniently sharing a house with a handsome (younger?) gent.

3. No relation to you.

Conclusion: she wanted you to cum to her den for sexy time. And she’s getting your attention by pretending she’s such a horrible person and now owes you a favor.

(Hmm.. Sounds like all the pornos she’s been gushing to.)

Seriously dude, girlies think only of dick, fame, and money. Probably even in that order.

[AnthonyParticipant 2281]

narwhal wrote:

She wanted to be the ‘sacrificer’. Finding out that you changed your plans for her ruined it. She wasn’t concerned about you really, just the image she wanted to portray.

I get this s~~~ all the time from different family members. It drives me nuts.

Once you have a Fleshlight real vaginas become worthless.

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

It’s all about control. She creates drama to bring attention to herself because hey, if there’s no drama I don’t exist right?

Secondly then they offer you stuff because they feel in control and then can use that as emotional leverage in future should they desire.

Women feel they are valuable when men do things for them or take them up on offers greatfully.

It’s playing Rapunzel and letting her hair down. If the knight rejected Rapunzel I guarantee she’d run down to the bottom of the tower and slap the s~~~ out of him.

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[AmongstMenParticipant 129]

Most everyone is spot on. It’s about how they can be perceived in relation to you in a way that gives them the upper-hand. They can do it by making themselves victims, acting like you owe them through a “selfless” act of theirs or just playing the “I’m woman, you man, be my slave now” frame of mind. Every female plays a certain level of one of these complexes according to the situation and what they can get out of you/ what fantasy they can place you in their own mind.

They’ll push those on you irrationally and it won’t make sense for the most part. They’ll make big deals out of small irrelevant things like what you mentioned in your post. Posts like these just confirm them more and more. Keep them coming !

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