First of all I want to say it’s a pleasure joining you guys. The website looks great, it’s clean, and easy to navigate. I recently stumbled upon MGTOW and I have to say it’s one of the best things I’ve discovered so far. So without further ado, let’s begin.
I’m still relatively young, 18 at the moment, so I see it appropriate to go as far back as I can without going over unimportant details. I immigrated from the Philippines with my Norwegian father and my Filipino mother, and I have lived on US territory for the longest time. I practically grew up on the island. It’s small and everybody knows a guy who knows a guy. It has its certain charm to it. Though I wouldn’t live here any longer, and each time I travel I find it as an incredible experience, and I get to travel more often than my peers. An opportunity I wouldn’t miss.
My father and mother divorced when I was around 10 years old. I wasn’t surprised at all. I thought it was one of the greatest things to happen to my father. I managed to live under my Father’s custody and I don’t regret anything about my decision. The fact that my mother is Filipino isn’t irrelevant. Typically Filipino women will find white men, marry them and move over to the states or some other country. Money sent back to the Philippines to relatives we don’t really know about. Money wasted essentially, but my dad became free as a bird in terms of his emotions. He had no chains to bind him.
At a young age I was exposed to the “dark side” of relationships such as marriage. I began to question things, but it wasn’t until later that I figured it out. Throughout my life, I was above average height. 6’2 at 9th grade and 6’4 now, not the tallest but still tall. Living on this pacific island it’s a rather odd sight. People began to pressure me into playing basketball at a young age, but I never liked it. I do now but that’s a different story. They made fun of me, they told me I was wasting my “talent”, they told me I was a waste of space, but I never gave in, no I didn’t. I played golf instead. Truly a great sport.
I was content with golf. Yes, golf, one of the most solitary sports known to man. No team to rely on and no one to blame but yourself.. It requires you to remain calm, focused, and your emotions in check. It built up my emotional resilience that I kept throughout my entire life. At one point I did “like” a girl. Around the 6th grade, but I quickly saw how pointless it was. I did express my feelings, but that was due to pressure. The pressure to what? Do nothing productive in all honesty. I never pursued a relationship with said person. I realized that it was just biology, and it was just a desire that was normal. Just because it’s normal doesn’t mean I have to give in. I was not obligated. I wasn’t required to get into any relationship. I had to ignore the flesh and the arbitrary social expectations.
High-school is where it got interesting. Friends getting into relationships. An air of sex, drugs, and relationships that shouldn’t have started to begin with. Coitus was essentially pointless. Copulating was just a method of populating. See what I did there? Anyways, I’ve always been told that I may settle down one day. That I may get married to a fine woman, or that I will have kids that will do great things. I didn’t want any of that. Kids, sure, there are many ways to get kids without sex, and maybe in the future there wouldn’t be a need for the fleshy womb. I wanted to do great things, and I couldn’t let a woman slow me down. A small sacrifice? Perhaps, but all for the greater good of myself and others. To push myself beyond what is normal, and to do what is necessary. I saw a woman as something that would prevent me from doing that.
Loving yourself is as important as loving others. I became happier since I realized that. I’ve been healthier and more active. I seek close friendships with men, and I am careful around women. Interacting with both is important, but once the nonsense arises one should quickly leave. Connections are still important of course.
I am all for improving the human body on the physical and emotional level. This flesh is weak, so we must overcome it. Giving into it wouldn’t help me at all, and I’m sure as hell I wouldn’t be able to help others. In short, I think I made the right decision and I’m as happy as I could ever be. I hope to learn more about you guys in the future, and I hope to share more experiences as well.
StevenMcphearson 4 years, 5 months ago.
