A catalog of a divorce

[The LudophileParticipant 187]

Hello, fellow MGTOW.

I reported about this time last year that my parents are engaging in a divorce. As a reminder of the background: I am 27 years old, brother to a twin sister, and I have been living away from my parents for the last decade.

My parents were always supportive and amazing, yes, both of them.

So when the news broke that they were going to divorce last year, it shook our family pretty heavily. However, for the last 10 months or so, nothing really changed. They still lived together, preparing their house for sale. They still cooked and ate meals together and hosted me and my sister when the occasion was arranged.

About two weeks ago, the papers from the courts finally cleared and my parents were legally considered divorced. There was also an agreement on how assets would be split. 50/50, no surprise there. This includes my father’s retirement account, investments, the value of the house, and so on.

Then, this past Friday, s~~~ got real. My father called me to inform me that my mother (his now ex-wife) had drained all of the money from their joint bank account and was refusing to talk. She has now sent a note to my father demanding that he agree to split their accounts immediately in exchange for his half of the savings account.

My father, being a good man, attempted to reason with her and said that none of this was necessary. He is legally bound to split the accounts based on their separation agreement. She doesn’t need to blackmail him with his own money to do this. My mother wouldn’t hear of it. She took the keys to the house and disappeared.

After a heart-felt conversation with my father and sister, my father revealed that he had caught my mother in an affair way back in 1991. If you do the math, that would mean my sister and I were just 3-4 years old. My father said, with tears in his eyes, that he made the decision not to divorce so that he could raise us.

I asked him to elaborate on these details, hidden from us for decades. He claims that my mother has been deceitful, manipulative, and passive aggressive for their entire marriage. And I believe him, given what I know about my mother’s tendencies.

Now, my parents will be locked in a legal battle to enforce the agreement they had already laid out. My father will be providing more than his fair share of the payout and my mother is likely to go unpunished for her extremely childish and unfaithful actions.

Just goes to show you: there are no unicorns. AWALT. Yeah, even your mother.

"There is no bad weather; only wrong clothes." ~ Scandinavian saying "I'm happy to see that the U.S. is abandoning the savagery and lies of religion more and more each year. I'm sad to see that politics and feelings are taking religions' place." ~ Me "Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. And, above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty." ~ OldBill

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

The Ludophile wrote:

Then, this past Friday, s~~~ got real. My father called me to inform me that my mother (his now ex-wife) had drained all of the money from their joint bank account and was refusing to talk.

damn… i feel bad for your father. This exposes the true nature of women.

Remenber gents:

Women don’t get married for money, they get divorced for it.

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[RoyDalParticipant]

The Ludophile wrote:

Just goes to show you: there are no unicorns. AWALT. Yeah, even your mother.

Yep. All Women Are Like That. Almost all. There are black swans and white crows and winning lotto tickets; hence, the “almost.”

To paraphrase KeyMaster, if you don’t the grenade to go off, then don’t pull the pin!

Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

THIS IS WHAT “FAMILY” COURTS ARE LIKE…
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MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[HitmanParticipant]

sorry to hear man.
your dad tried very hard to do the best he could for you .
..the divorce would have been fair enough,
but the SHE took it upon herself to pull a move like that.
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talk with dad,
explain your thanks and let him know,
what she did was illegal.
advise him to let his lawyer know.
.
my heart goes out to him..
why is it the man is the only one who takes marriage vows seriously???

[Anonymous 18]

Remind your dad that he will eventually find inner peace and happiness. The one factor that kept him away from it was now his ex-wife. Perhaps this is her last ditch effort to cause ‘bulk misery’ which she would have handed out in smaller dosages for the rest of his life.

Easier said than done but I am certain you supported your father going through such tough times.

[The LudophileParticipant 187]

Indeed, I have been musing that this is the cost of being a good man. Being fair, rational, honorable, and supportive will cost him half of all he has worked for. It’s enough to make one rethink the purpose of one’s life.

To be clear: what my mother did is *perfectly legal*. She was a cosigner on their bank account. The only thing that is possibly illegal would be her refusing to split the money as per their agreement. But now my father must involve lawyers and sue her to get her to comply.

What a waste of time, money, and the heart of a good man.

"There is no bad weather; only wrong clothes." ~ Scandinavian saying "I'm happy to see that the U.S. is abandoning the savagery and lies of religion more and more each year. I'm sad to see that politics and feelings are taking religions' place." ~ Me "Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. And, above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty." ~ OldBill

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

The Ludophile wrote:

After a heart-felt conversation with my father and sister, my father revealed that he had caught my mother in an affair way back in 1991. If you do the math, that would mean my sister and I were just 3-4 years old. My father said, with tears in his eyes, that he made the decision not to divorce so that he could raise us.

I asked him to elaborate on these details, hidden from us for decades. He claims that my mother has been deceitful, manipulative, and passive aggressive for their entire marriage. And I believe him, given what I know about my mother’s tendencies.

Now, my parents will be locked in a legal battle to enforce the agreement they had already laid out. My father will be providing more than his fair share of the payout and my mother is likely to go unpunished for her extremely childish and unfaithful actions.

Just goes to show you: there are no unicorns. AWALT. Yeah, even your mother.

Well said, Ludophile. I wish my eyes had been opened to the reality of things at your age. It would have saved me a world of trouble. Be well, my friend.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[BoarParticipant]

That definitely puts the woman that raised you in a different light.

I wish you the best in this situation, but I would be really careful around your mother. And never ever discuss any details regarding your father with your mother. War has now been officially declared and the Geneva convention (the agreement) went out the window.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[AttonParticipant]

Your farther more likely than not is in need of more support than ever.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Buller100Participant 2189]

Sorry for your father, I have written many times reading this forum and gazing back at my life even my Mother I can see so many similarity in almost every thread, it’s quite staggering every interaction even with my sister.

It’s kinda scary, AWALT and the behaviors are there ..

You can see why Muslims allow polygamy and won’t allow women much of a voice, I am not supporting most of what they do but compared to the West it’s fascinating m they treat them almost as dogs.

( Apologies if the above offends anyone , it’s not meant to , it’s just thought seeing how they are treated so different )

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

Women are PIRATES

[Anonymous 2]

Its sad to hear another man and family put through this. If he could live through all that with her to raise you and your sister, he sounds like a man who will recover on top of this with his head held high. Ill say some prayers for you and your family.

[The LudophileParticipant 187]

UPDATE Aug 15

Over the last few days, I have counseled my father to get a lawyer and stand his ground. My mother has attempted to contact me, but I have ignored her messages. This has not stopped me from worrying about her and thinking about where she is and how she might justify her actions.

This evening, my mother returned to my parents’ house, using my sister as a mouthpiece to inform my father that she will return the money as long as the estate is split. My mother will be staying in the house as long as my sister does (I live in another state, but my sister is still around). This puts my sister into a very awkward position.

My mother claims that she absconded with the money because my father was dragging his heels about splitting the accounts and refused to take my mother’s input on renovations for the house before its sale (and subsequent splitting). She felt she had no other choice but to take the money as insurance and force him to listen. She also claims that she left a good amount of money available to my father, unlike what he did to her when he caught her cheating 25 years ago. She was also upset that I refused to talk with her and didn’t even ask how she was doing. She supposedly slept in her car on Friday night and in a hotel room over the weekend.

Needless to say, I’m a bit torn. I still love my mother, of course, and I was very worried about her whereabouts. On the other hand, she ran off with all of the money, so she could have left the country for all we knew. Also, grab-and-run is not a very adult way of expressing one’s issues with a situation. I understand that she is upset about how the renovations to the house are progressing and that she feels like she has no agency in the situation.

However, I think my go-to response will be “that’s what divorce attorneys are for.” These excuses are hardly justification for such brash actions, regardless of past misdeeds. I’m debating if I should contact my mother and talk through these things with her, or if I should save my time and effort and just let that bridge remain burned…

"There is no bad weather; only wrong clothes." ~ Scandinavian saying "I'm happy to see that the U.S. is abandoning the savagery and lies of religion more and more each year. I'm sad to see that politics and feelings are taking religions' place." ~ Me "Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. And, above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty." ~ OldBill

[NeroParticipant 1466]

@TheLudophile: I know it must be hard to take sides, but clearly she seems like a belligerent, ungrateful, and contemptuous person towards your father. From his point of view, I would make her my enemy immediately. And he’s been cheated on in the past? GTFOH…AWALT.

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