15 years too late.

@33wolfman, it’s never too late to wake up, enjoy your breakfast, welcome to MGTOW…

Welcome to the forums we’re glad to have you here. Many men here have been in your shoes, having to rebuild their lives after parting from a woman. I wish you the best of luck. Thankfully I have never been in your shoes and I never will be, I know better than to trust a woman.

I’d enjoy hearing more of your story and the details, it sounds like you got divorce raped pretty bad man.

33Wolfman welcome. Like you, I also got married in 2000. I am 54. You took the leap. You’re ahead of me. Good luck to you.

33wolfman wrote:

She hinted to me one night that her hubby wanted to try a threesome and they (ha, her) singled me out as a possible participant. Needless to say she told me how bad he was and how he was spending all their money and that she was leaving him ( they did get divorced). I moved in with her (mistake)

Branch swing success. You see most women if they want to leave their man they won’t leave him and search for other men. They’ll continue to use their current man while searching for another and cheating on him behind is back. Once they think they’ve got a firm grip on another man they branch swing to him.
It’s in women’s nature to always be looking for a (perceived) higher quality man to branch swing too, this is known as female hypergamy.

Good thing you didn’t marry her and now she cannot dip into your retirement funds, bullet dodged.

Edit: oh okay, I assumed you didn’t because you came out better than most who get divorced.

You played captain save-a-ho for her and she burned you, and many men are in your shoes. Society has conditioned us men to protect women and excuse all their character flaws and horrible things they’ve done. Combine this with female manipulation and the biased laws, and men are going to be taken advantage of.

Thanks for sharing your story. You’re helping younger guys like myself avoid these traps.

Welcome wolfman,

First, thanks for your service.  Next, that woman sounds like a waste of oxygen.  She’ll be a parasite wherever she goes.  When I read stories like this, it occurs to me the similarities that women like this have with prostitutes.  She is clearly not above using sex with a man to secure financial gains for herself.  In fact, with her job history, it sounds like she has little else to offer in exchange for someone feeding her.  To me, it’s just prostitution with a number of clients that has been reduced down to one or two at a time, instead of a dozen a day.  And, it’s conducted (by her) on the pretense of a relationship, instead of the business arrangement that it is, and that a more honest prostitute would acknowledge that it is.  But regardless, she’s only there for the money, and has only sex to offer in exchange for it.  That’s prostitution in my book all day long.  When it involves a marriage contract, I just refer to it as ”prostitution light”.  I know it seems harsh, but in a society full of lies, even a harsh truth is like a cool drink on a hot day.

The good news for guys like us, is that now that we see the business arrangement for what it is, we are free to shop around as much as we like for the terms we want (leasing by the hour), or not to buy/lease at all.  Either way, you’re better off not signing the fraudulent marriage contract and being mgtow than you are being trapped by those terms, regardless of what state you live in.

agreed wolf man.

My experience with women like this is that as they start to swing down, and they realize that change in direction, you can expect at least one more attempt from her to patch things up with you (aka swing back up to any higher branch that she once had).  When the branches start to disappear and they find themselves in free fall, they get can get a little desperate.  They frequently do this, especially if you have stable job, home and enough money to pay your bills.  It doesn’t show outwardly as desperation, but the attempt to reattach to you is ruled by the desperation that comes from her changing circumstances, not from any real change in her, or in you.

When it happens, you will see a fairy tale side of her that you may have never seen.  She will appear to be responsible, reasonable, loyal, whatever else it was that was missing the first time around.  When sex was all they had to offer, you can expect to be offered it in whatever flavors and quantities you want.  It will be seem to be thrown at you.  It does not always happen, but don’t be surprised if it does.

The only thing I ever found that felt as good to me as sex with a really horny woman, is turning it down from a woman like that…  lol

@ 33wolfman, you had a real lemon, a real prize there, I congratulate you on her failure, or your success, however you want to look at it. At least you’re free of her IT! Thanks for your service, I have civilian PTSD, I too am capable of  ****** and nobody would ever guess it.