14 year old daughter thanked me for being MGTOW

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  • #110590
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    TaxGuy
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    I have two daughters, 14 and 12. 14 plays competitive soccer, 12 does competitive dance. We are out to dinner the other night and I get a text from a friend. 14 asks me if it’s from my girlfriend. Conversation goes like this:

    Me. no, just a couple friends texting.
    14: Oh, so do you have a girlfriend?
    Me. No.
    14: Maybe 12 and I should set up a match.com account for you.
    Me. Let me ask you a question. Do I seem happy to you?
    14: Yes.
    Me: Then why would I screw that up with a girlfriend?
    14: I had a dream the other night that you married one of the soccer moms. (BTW, at least it was the hottest soccer mom….)
    Me: Did that seem weird to you?
    14: Yeah, it was really weird.
    Me: (I get serious for second) Look, three rules about dating. No soccer moms, no dance moms, and no one from work. Those are our sanctuaries and I don’t mess with that.
    14 looks at me just as seriously as says “Thank you dad”.

    For all of the guys that are worried about getting a divorce and what it will mean to your children, I offer you this story. My daughter is thankful that when the 3 of us are together there is no drama. They get my undivided attention with no BS from a woman. Mom is a drama queen (ie, she’s female) and I think they really appreciate a calm peaceful time with dad. That is what I hope will eventually happen for you and I only hope you can get a heartfelt thank you like the one I received from my daughter.

    Order the good wine

    #110597
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    Phantom
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    14 looks at me just as seriously as says “Thank you dad”.

    Choked me up a bit.
    Have a 17 yr old daughter my self.
    Those moments are beyond any words I know or could use.
    Slow clap, BRAVO!!

    #110601
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    TaxGuy
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    Hey, thank you very much. You don’t get as many of those moments when you are divorced and of course don’t have 50/50 custody, but they sure do feel good when they come. More than anything I just hope it helps someone sitting on fence, or staring down that barrel…. The good moments still come.

    Order the good wine

    #110604
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    Phantom
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    They sure do

    More than anything I just hope it helps someone sitting on fence, or staring down that barrel…. The good moments still come.

    Amen

    #110606
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    Keymaster
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    Great little story. When Dad’s stay grounded , their presence makes a lasting impact on kids. I taught private school (coaching kids ages 6-18) for almost 5 years. And there is a very clear difference between the way a female teacher handles a classroom – compared to a man. The students KNOW (and sense) there is more of a consistency of values from a male teacher and he is FAR less likely to fly off the handle. As a result you get more “taken seriously” than a female teacher who may waver from day to day. Female teachers are also more likely to “play favorites” and demonstrate mood swings (if that’s the phrase) and they tend to take it out on the kids. I also noticed a BIG difference in the way male teachers “bring the best of out of you”. A male teacher will use compliments and encouragements – less often but it has a positive impact on the kids. Female teachers tend to cut the student down, belittle and scold which has the opposite overall effect.

    I absolutely believe this translates into the home and family life as well – since you mentioned this example.

    Last year, around Christmas time, I got a note from a student who I taught more than 10 years ago. He remembered something I taught him and wrote me to say thanks. That was really nice to learn I made a lasting difference in his life. He was just 15 at the time. I was amazed that he remembered it. He even quoted me back to me. Best Christmas present I ever got.

    If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.
    #110608
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    Anonymous
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    It’s no wonder women like MGTOW, we’re the only sound, logical, and firm footing in this tempest of feminism. It must really suck for young girls with no “real men” in their lives, it’s like the bat-s~~~-crazy is breeding it’s self exponentially in this generational degradation.
    @taxguy, your girls are damn lucky to have you!

    #110616
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    Foolsgold
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    Nice story, Tax guy. I get more of those moments with my kids since I’ve been divorced than when I was married. The other day my 11 year old daughter asked me why she has never seen me mad. I told her that I don’t get mad anymore because I have removed certain types of people from my life. The next question she asked caused me to jump. “Is it girls”? I smiled and quickly changed the subject. Hope she doesn’t ask again.

    #110633
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    Bryant
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    bravo man glad to read this XD

    "He who lives with honor dies with honor."

    #110634
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    The next question she asked caused me to jump. “Is it girls”? I smiled and quickly changed the subject. Hope she doesn’t ask again.

    @foolsgold, tell them “bad girls”, “bad boys”, and “bad people” in general… When they ask “mommy too” I wouldn’t know what to tell them, but you’ll think of something, no need for any more pain than humanly possible.

    #110647
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    TaxGuy
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    Foolsgold:

    I think if she asked about her mom, I would just say “Look, you know mom and I didn’t get along. It doesn’t make anyone right or wrong, but we obviously weren’t good for each other.” It’s not bad mouthing mom or attaching blame, but it’s probably something she already knows. And, she can already see the proof.

    The high road has a lot less traffic, and it is filled with men drivers. And your kids will figure it out eventually. I always said that I view life as a marathon, and my ex treats it as a daily 40 yard dash. She may win the battle, but I’ll win the war. And you have to look at yourself every morning in the mirror, and lay your head down to sleep every night. My conscience is clear every day taking the high road.

    Order the good wine

    #110742
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    Foolsgold
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    I know I’m late in my response but thanks Tower and Tax Guy for your input. I have never discussed my ex with my kids. I’ve grown so indifferent towards women that they are never a thought anymore. Especially the ex. I know more questions will come up as time goes on and I will remember you gentleman’s input. When I’m with the kids it’s all about teaching them things and doing stuff with them. My brother and sister are with me most of the time when I get my visitation. The kids get to see my side of the family as much as possible. Their mother(my ex) is never part of the conversation. I will say exactly what you two told me in the above posts when the question comes up. Much appreciated brothers.

    #110816
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    RoyDal
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    @taxguy,
    That is a great story. I always admire men who are positive examples for their children. Your daughters were smart to chose you as their dad! Which reminds me of a book I gave to some relatives who are new parents:

    http://www.incrediblethings.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/vaders-little-princess.jpg

    https://latimesherocomplex.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/900-vlp18easyontheclutch.jpg

    Society asks MGTOWs: Why are you not making more tax-slaves?

    #110875
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    Revista
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    Lovely story,choked me too.many men stay with toxic wives/girlfriends for the kids but as long as you spend quality time with your kids they will appreciate it.my ex(and boyfriend) just gone on hol abroad with kids for first time and its been tough.but know they missed me and i want them to enjoy themselves.my lads love having no drama with me.having a snuggle with me watching a dvd in complete silence is something they savour.they dont ask me when am i gonna meet anyone anymore.there content.

    #110970
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    Beer
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    The high road has a lot less traffic, and it is filled with men drivers. And your kids will figure it out eventually. I always said that I view life as a marathon, and my ex treats it as a daily 40 yard dash. She may win the battle, but I’ll win the war. And you have to look at yourself every morning in the mirror, and lay your head down to sleep every night. My conscience is clear every day taking the high road.

    Great outlook on life. Its also pretty awesome your girls are obviously smart enough to realize this as well. You’ll always having loving, loyal, appreciative daughters if you keep it up, where as your wife will probably end up being ignored by them if all she does is be a drama queen and try to cut you down when your kids obviously know your a great guy and a great dad.

    #111016
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    Aeragoan
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    It is a long tradition n notion..that have broken up now by single moms that… girls love their daddies more than mom…he is the hero of her life…..a very warm heartening story…thanks for sharing….

    #111263
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    Muricanguy0
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    As a father, this made my day!

    #114907
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    CatsPaw
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    Hahhahahahhaah,
    This sounds cool.
    On the topic of divorce and children: They dont care about you being divorce, they care about you being happy.
    Its the parents who get in the drama because now they have to tell people that their SON is divorced!

    Children are not only far better adjusted than their parents in a divorce, they get also far smarter (they have two environments to grow up in, they are able to draw parallels in both sides and rationally understand pros and cons. They are more open to learn new things and are far more versatile in their cultural understanding and tolerance).
    There are almost NO negatives in divorce for kids, except travel time.
    In reality, the ONLY reason why kids feel about about divorced parents is because someone told them they are supposed to, or because they see one of the sides not happy AFTER the divorce.

    My cousin has a 3 year old daughter. She is a genius for her age (Ive already been able to teach her the concepts of math and physics, and she loves it).
    My cousin is divorced at 32 (her marriage sucked ass, and curiously enough my cousin (the woman) was the one who cant be in a relationship, she turns every man into a mangina, then leaves him).

    I love my cousin, and she is a constant reminder for me of how nuts women are, but the kid is great, and is already learning the basics of manipulation (does not work on me thou since I basically mastered manipulation in 5th grade as a survival instinct), and It seems I am the only person she respects and listens to (if she is behaving badly in front of me I dont get angry, yell or tell her she will get grounded: I tell her that with that behavior no one will want to spend time with her, especially if they are like me).

    She is 3 years old so I guess MGTOW is a bit of a hard concept for her to understand for now :D.

    #117514
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    Deus Ex Machina
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    Oh!, right in the Feels Bud!….

    Great story!, sounds like you scored two great kids there!. We need more Dads like you in this world!.

    "If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

    #120285
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    DAMN. That s~~~ was boss.

    #136254
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    LonerBoner
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    Thans for sharing that TaxGuy!

    My boys are the same age as your daughters. I focus on them 100% when they are with me every other week. The rest of time i work and train.
    I know my kids like hanging out with their old dad without a new woman in the way, and so shall it stay!

    Keep clam i'm dyslexic.

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