14 year old daughter thanked me for being MGTOW

Great little story. When Dad’s stay grounded , their presence makes a lasting impact on kids. I taught private school (coaching kids ages 6-18) for almost 5 years. And there is a very clear difference between the way a female teacher handles a classroom – compared to a man. The students KNOW (and sense) there is more of a consistency of values from a male teacher and he is FAR less likely to fly off the handle. As a result you get more “taken seriously” than a female teacher who may waver from day to day. Female teachers are also more likely to “play favorites” and demonstrate mood swings (if that’s the phrase) and they tend to take it out on the kids. I also noticed a BIG difference in the way male teachers “bring the best of out of you”. A male teacher will use compliments and encouragements – less often but it has a positive impact on the kids. Female teachers tend to cut the student down, belittle and scold which has the opposite overall effect.

I absolutely believe this translates into the home and family life as well – since you mentioned this example.

Last year, around Christmas time, I got a note from a student who I taught more than 10 years ago. He remembered something I taught him and wrote me to say thanks. That was really nice to learn I made a lasting difference in his life. He was just 15 at the time. I was amazed that he remembered it. He even quoted me back to me. Best Christmas present I ever got.

Nice story, Tax guy. I get more of those moments with my kids since I’ve been divorced than when I was married. The other day my 11 year old daughter asked me why she has never seen me mad. I told her that I don’t get mad anymore because I have removed certain types of people from my life. The next question she asked caused me to jump. “Is it girls”? I smiled and quickly changed the subject. Hope she doesn’t ask again.

foolsgold wrote:

The next question she asked caused me to jump. “Is it girls”? I smiled and quickly changed the subject. Hope she doesn’t ask again.

@foolsgold, tell them “bad girls”, “bad boys”, and “bad people” in general… When they ask “mommy too” I wouldn’t know what to tell them, but you’ll think of something, no need for any more pain than humanly possible.

I know I’m late in my response but thanks Tower and Tax Guy for your input. I have never discussed my ex with my kids. I’ve grown so indifferent towards women that they are never a thought anymore. Especially the ex. I know more questions will come up as time goes on and I will remember you gentleman’s input. When I’m with the kids it’s all about teaching them things and doing stuff with them. My brother and sister are with me most of the time when I get my visitation. The kids get to see my side of the family as much as possible. Their mother(my ex) is never part of the conversation. I will say exactly what you two told me in the above posts when the question comes up. Much appreciated brothers.

Lovely story,choked me too.many men stay with toxic wives/girlfriends for the kids but as long as you spend quality time with your kids they will appreciate it.my ex(and boyfriend) just gone on hol abroad with kids for first time and its been tough.but know they missed me and i want them to enjoy themselves.my lads love having no drama with me.having a snuggle with me watching a dvd in complete silence is something they savour.they dont ask me when am i gonna meet anyone anymore.there content.

It is a long tradition n notion..that have broken up now by single moms that… girls love their daddies more than mom…he is the hero of her life…..a very warm heartening story…thanks for sharing….

Hahhahahahhaah,
This sounds cool.
On the topic of divorce and children: They dont care about you being divorce, they care about you being happy.
Its the parents who get in the drama because now they have to tell people that their SON is divorced!

Children are not only far better adjusted than their parents in a divorce, they get also far smarter (they have two environments to grow up in, they are able to draw parallels in both sides and rationally understand pros and cons. They are more open to learn new things and are far more versatile in their cultural understanding and tolerance).
There are almost NO negatives in divorce for kids, except travel time.
In reality, the ONLY reason why kids feel about about divorced parents is because someone told them they are supposed to, or because they see one of the sides not happy AFTER the divorce.

My cousin has a 3 year old daughter. She is a genius for her age (Ive already been able to teach her the concepts of math and physics, and she loves it).
My cousin is divorced at 32 (her marriage sucked ass, and curiously enough my cousin (the woman) was the one who cant be in a relationship, she turns every man into a mangina, then leaves him).

I love my cousin, and she is a constant reminder for me of how nuts women are, but the kid is great, and is already learning the basics of manipulation (does not work on me thou since I basically mastered manipulation in 5th grade as a survival instinct), and It seems I am the only person she respects and listens to (if she is behaving badly in front of me I dont get angry, yell or tell her she will get grounded: I tell her that with that behavior no one will want to spend time with her, especially if they are like me).

She is 3 years old so I guess MGTOW is a bit of a hard concept for her to understand for now :D.

DAMN. That s~~~ was boss.