MGTOWThe Concept of "Man Caves" – MGTOW https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/feed/ Tue, 09 Jun 2020 04:37:29 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=2.5.14-6684 en-US https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/page/404/#post-33685 <![CDATA[The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/page/404/#post-33685 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 13:07:12 +0000 Something I always found slightly annoying is that women always have the complete choice when it comes to the house’s interior.  If a husband wants his house to have a certain design, that’s just “too bad.”

I was seeing a commercial just now that was reminding me of that.  It has two women.  One is bragging about how her husband bought all of the stuff he wanted for the house, and the other woman asks: “What happened to his stuff?”  The wife’s response is, “oh, it’s in the basement now.”  Cut to a scene of the husband and his friend jumping up and down on the couch, presumably watching football.

I’ve always seen a man’s room of comfort and self-expression limited to either the smallest or most hidden room in the house, usually by discretion of the wife.  Others I’ve seen are in either garages or rooms half the size of their garage.  Sure, these make for awesome getaway rooms, but since when do married men get away from their wives in the first place, even in their supposed “private sanctuary?”

It then got me to thinking about previous relationships, where the women would tell me “that design is tacky” or “I don’t like the colors in that, how about this instead?”  I’m no fashion designer or interior decorator, but I sure like to have a theme set in mind for my place.  I was never given that opportunity when with a woman.  It was all “her” choice.  I tend to prefer a black and white city-styled theme, the women I’ve known generally prefer “cute” and “colorful”, or other things.

We all know what the consequences are if we wouldn’t give into what they want, while they don’t expect any consequence of going against our wishes.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33686 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33686 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 13:23:42 +0000 Rennie Used to be men, had a study, which was a fairly good sized office and no one entered without his permission.

Also I’ve seen time and time again, guys who have had to get rid of their vintage computer collections/or pass up on things because cupcake didn’t like them.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33687 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33687 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 13:32:27 +0000 Smacktalk73 Allow me to present a different characterization of things:

The idea of a “home” is a strictly feminine concept.  It is a nest, a safe haven, a comfort zone. Without men, women would make sure “homes” got built.  Without women, men would have AT MOST a “man cave.”  Or no cave at all — simply live in the world.

Women make 80 percent of purchasing decisions in the U.S., and control over half the wealth.  This despite the fact that (allegedly) they only earn 76 cents on the dollar compared to males.  Women need STUFF.  Women need a HOME.  Women arrange things, manipulate things.  Women are the center of their world, and act like it.

If you aren’t getting your “man cave” it is because you are trying to please a woman.  Stop it.  You see a woman as something to be “pleased.”  Your identity is validated if you feel you are pleasing her.  It is a challenge, and you accept it.  But she ALSO sees her own job as to please herself, and sees your function as to please her. Pleasing you isn’t on her radar once she’s captured you (of course, during courtship she may ACT like she wants to please you, but this is bait, not reality).

Thus, if you TRY to please her, you will find she is never actually happy, but you are endlessly asked to do more pleasing.  Because in her eyes, that is your job.  As long as the two of you agree, you will be happy together.  But if you want to make yourself happy, you are going to come into conflict.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33691 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33691 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 13:40:28 +0000 Cap285 I had a man cave…It eventually became a couple of shelves of stuff I liked…which got destroyed in a fire when the exes hair dryer shorted out….then it was the garage…where she leaned stained wood against my rare Spider-Man posters. Did I mention I got $0 of the insurance money?

“Put your s~~~ in storage and go visit it once in awhile.” -Denis Leary-

Currently rebuilding the collection. I will never go through that again.

Fuck this planet.
]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33699 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33699 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 13:53:08 +0000 The way I always saw it was “if she doesn’t like it, that’s her problem and too bad.”  I’ve not been married, and maybe it’s silly, but this is one of the many reasons why as well.  I like my cool and unique stuff, and I like to share it with others to view.  If she doesn’t like it, that’s her problem.

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33772 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33772 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 18:53:12 +0000 lonestar77 My man cave is the s~~~.  I have a pool table, dart board, mini fridge, flat screen and more… and how is this possible you ask? I’m A MGTOW! There would be NO way I would be able to keep ANY of my s~~~ if a woman was involved.

I wanted to get my dad a portable record player for his birthday for all his old vinyl, but learned yesterday my mom threw out EVERY record! I felt so sorry for him.. that’s the price you pay (one of the many) for being married. Lesson learned pops, lesson learned.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33777 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33777 Tue, 24 Mar 2015 19:02:27 +0000 I once had a woman at my apartment who told me that if we were married, NONE of my autographed Gary Numan vinyls or other memorable things signed by other bands would be allowed to be hung up in the living room.  I told her “that’s why I’m glad I’m by myself.  I can hang up whatever the frag I want.  If I think it looks cool, it’s going up.”  People can deal with my Venom/Spider-Man cloth poster and favorite comics proudly displayed.  I’m not taking anything down.  If they don’t like it, that’s just toooooooo bad!

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33930 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-33930 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 04:47:21 +0000 Cipher Highwind A very astute observation!

I will be living out of the truck very soon; things are coming together slowly.  Houses reek of simping, the same behaviour that compels bowerbirds to build extravagant nests to attract mates.  Men do not need them; we could live under the stars if it pleased us.  Women, on the other hand…

Smacktalk73 wrote:

Allow me to present a different characterization of things: The idea of a “home” is a strictly feminine concept. It is a nest, a safe haven, a comfort zone. Without men, women would make sure “homes” got built. Without women, men would have AT MOST a “man cave.” Or no cave at all — simply live in the world. Women make 80 percent of purchasing decisions in the U.S., and control over half the wealth. This despite the fact that (allegedly) they only earn 76 cents on the dollar compared to males. Women need STUFF. Women need a HOME. Women arrange things, manipulate things. …

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-34035 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-34035 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 15:55:16 +0000 Stargazer I did a whole thing on the Man Cave a few months back: check it out.

http://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-man-cave/

]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-34045 <![CDATA[Reply To: The Concept of "Man Caves"]]> https://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/the-concept-of-man-caves/#post-34045 Wed, 25 Mar 2015 16:25:11 +0000 Fantastic!  I wasn’t sure if that topic had been covered yet.  That’s awesome.  I especially like how you used The Incredibles (one of my favorite movies of all time, definitely my favorite Disney/Pixar movie) as an example.  This movie came out when I was in high school, and even then I saw Bob Parr/Mr. Incredible as my favorite character, as he seemed to be the most like how I pictured my future self if I was in his situation.

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