How do you go about deflecting  personal/imposing questions from harpies? I just accepted a new position in HR, but don’t start until April 4th as I’ve agreed to help train the new person my current company decides to hire.

Coming from a staffing agency where everyone is too busy hitting quarterly goals to gossip, I’m not sure what to expect in this new woman dominated environment? How do I go about tactfully deflecting all personal questions asked of me without coming off as rude/confrontational? These harpies have no business knowing anything about how I spend my time outside of work, my personal relationships, hobbies, etc nor do I have any interest in their personal lives.

I would just keep it light, jokingly say you like to keep to yourself, drink brewskies and watch ESPN.  Or that you like to sit at home and read or play videogames.  I kind of like that because they won’t ask you what videogames you play or what you like to read!  I would NOT tell them you dislike relationships or distrust most women… Or tell them you had a breakup and aren’t ready for a marriage or relationship (marriage contract or relations~~~, but don’t say it like that).

btw: Never forget your in the center of the pit of snakes. Any weakness or personal issue will be used against you and forever by everyone.

How do I go about tactfully deflecting all personal questions asked of me without coming off as rude/confrontational?

It’s very simple. “I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work”.

The more she pushes….

“I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work”.
“I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work”.
“I don’t speak to women at work about anything other than work”.

And they can’t nail you on it. Women have brought this upon themselves:

http://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/showing-no-emotion-at-work/

I’ve been contemplating buying one of those pens that records for up to 8 hours straight and leaving it on while at work everyday. Good idea?

Gotta say fellas, daily doses of red-pill and reading so many of your guys’ stories of just how vicious and conniving women CAN be when it suits them has gotten me paranoid about this new work setting.

I was often diplomatic about personal questions and gave only enough information just to get them off my back.

On occasions I could be quite insulting, but I disguised it in high-falutin’ language–after all, I’m an educated man, so I should make use of it sometimes, right?  (Shakespeare comes in handy for this.  I have a book on Shakespearean insults and it has some prize material in it!)  Considering how dim they all were, it wouldn’t have taken much to make them go away.

However, none of that mattered.  Their opinion of me didn’t change in the least.

Her supervisor called her into the supervisor’s office to tell her they were going to lie in court and that she should drop the matter and quit.

She secretly recorded the encounter with a tape recorder in her pocket and recorded the supervisor threatening to lie.

In court the Judge would not listen to the tape as the supervisor did not know she was being taped.

At that point the Union Rep., who has to put these cases before this judge all the time so has a reputation to uphold, asked the judge if the rep could listen to the tape.

The judge agreed. So, the Union Rep leaves the room and listens to the tape and comes back into the courtroom, points to the supervisor and says to the supervisor in front of the judge: “You liar”.

The case was settled in favor of the employee.

Just goes to show that recorded evidence, even if technically illegal, can find its way into a courtroom. No recording means no evidence period.

So I would always record a disciplinary meeting with management. And their supposed to tell you ahead of time if a meeting is disciplinary.

Interesting perspectives. Thanks for linking me to the previous thread on the topic KM.

I’ve been contemplating buying one of those pens that records for up to 8 hours straight and leaving it on while at work everyday. Good idea?

Gotta say fellas, daily doses of red-pill and reading so many of your guys’ stories of just how vicious and conniving women CAN be when it suits them has gotten me paranoid about this new work setting.

In my previous workplace we won out against HR by catching the management and HR team out on their bulls~~~, we had tape-a-talk pro (like $5 on Google store for Android phones) installed on our phones, recorded everything, transcripted it and used it against them in a hearing after they tried to create bulls~~~ documentation and present it as evidence.

Can keep a phone on your desk just recording without anyone knowing.

They were all f~~~ing c~~~s, same deal as H.R above, they would pull you up randomly for meetings, spring them on you so you couldn’t organise union representation to be there which is one of your workplace rights.

I have personally had the experience of having someone deny under oath, in court, that they had said something that they had said rather clearly in a recorded meeting not long prior. Lawyer pulled jump drive from pocket and put in laptop on table, turned up volume for the judge and played his statement back to him in his own voice and asked, “Does this help your recollection of what you said…?”.

Legal fees are never cheap, but that was priceless.

I have never since attended any kind of meeting of any significance with anyone where I didn’t have my phone recording. Not only is it useful for people who you don’t necessarily trust, its also very useful when someone you do trust is explaining something complex that you might like to listen to again in order to be sure you understood it clearly.

The legality and admissibility of recorded conversations varies from state to state, so research this. In my state, it’s legal to do and admissible in court if even one party to the conversation was aware of the recording. If it’s not legal in your state without the awareness and consent of both parties, I’d start the recorder in the parking lot, and when I got to the meeting, I’d pull out paper and pencil and ask if it was ok to make my own record of the meeting. Seeing the paper and pencil, the other party says “Yes” and that gets recorded… the voice recording is now admissible as both parties have consented. If the other party misunderstood what you meant, they can try to argue with the judge about what “yes” means, or what “record of the meeting” means…

One point to remember: when you turn on the recorder, put the phone in airplane mode so it can’t receive calls. If someone calls your number during the meeting, regardless of wether you answer, the recording stops.