There was a Christian news feed about pornography and its effect on the male mind.  One man commented and said that the blame shouldn’t completely be put on men, as the women are willingly putting themselves out there to be seen and noticed.  A woman snapped back at him, telling him:

“The source is not women. You can always look away. It’s just like saying cocaine is responsible for an addiction. It is not. You are responsible for your own actions.”

I defended the man by calling her out on her garbage she was spewing:

“No. It’s nothing like a cocaine addiction. ‘You can always look away.’ That’s the typical woman’s response. They don’t want to take responsibility for ANYTHING. ‘I can get as naked as I want, but don’t you dare look at me and give into your biological temptation or you’re sinning!’ Hasn’t any woman heard of ‘if you cause someone to stumble into sin, you’re just as guilty?'”

Her lovely response was:

“Chris- I happen to live by the rule that I am the captain of my vessel. I take personal accountability and responsibility of where that vessel goes. I understand it’s easier to blame others that way you don’t have to change what your doing.”

What’s even funnier is the moderator of that page made a comment himself, saying how “certain people are violating the forum rules and their comments will be deleted because they contain ‘personal attacks’ and ‘prejudice.'”

Shaming and victimization are part and parcel in the power exchange game.

Good point. I had a girl I was seeing who came up to my place wearing short shorts. And some ‘old creepy guy’ tried to pick her up in his car while she was waiting for a bus. How does she take ownership of another person’s reaction to her shorts? Creepy is subjective, and if the man she doesn’t find attractive/desirable checking her out, he is labelled as such. I checked her out and more and never got called a creep.

Creepy is subjective, and if the man she doesn’t find attractive/desirable checking her out, he is labelled as such. I checked her out and more and never got called a creep.

Agreed. More often than not, when a woman uses the term “creepy” to describe a guy who’s checking her out, she is simply saying that she is not interested in him.

Unattractive/undesirable = lower social status than her. She is better than him and is offended by the advances of a “lower” person.

I think age and circumstance of the body part being checked out can play a factor too.

Example:

Young lady with big tit cleavage at Best Buy- covers them quickly when she notices the male cashier looking.

Old lady with newly purchased big tit cleavage at restaurant – wears tight, undersized t-shirt into the store every weekend. Smiles as she notices the men looking at her. Smiles even more when she notices the women glaring at her.