You may not be able to go into your own house for a while, but sooner or later the electric bill on that house is coming in the mail…along with a lot of other bills that drug habits are going to make it very difficult to pay. Women don’t generally have the ability to take care of themselves financially. It’s true for women in general and especially true for chemically addicted women in particular. They generally lack the emotional maturity and discipline it takes to do this alone. Time is not on their side.

The courts, the wife, the kids all want to make you feel worthless. And they can have some success at this because men sometimes forget that we are the earners, producers and providers. We can survive without them much longer than they can survive without us.

My first rule of mgtow: I DO NOT OWE A RELATIONSHIP TO ANYONE.

However entitled these women may feel to you, and relationship with you, and the resources that are earned and provided by you, the reality is that you do not owe them a relationship with you, or any of the perks that would go with it.

I will only question the accuracy of one thing you said in your post. You said that you were staring into the ‘abyss’ of staring over with nothing after 10 years. I strongly disagree.

The abyss is where you were headed if you had continued on with these people. It’s where they are headed wether you choose to accompany them or not. Mental illness and chemical addiction is an avalanche of insanity that you are not required to accept. You are not required to join them. You do not owe them your company on their journey into that abyss.

Starting over, (alone) you are not facing the abyss. You are facing a life of hobbies, exercise, sports, (whatever else interests you) peace of mind in your own home, security of your rights and you property (which was just demonstrated that you do not have as a result of living with these women), ownership of your own earnings. Most of all, you can look forward to a life where the only use you will have for a shotgun will be duck hunting with you buddies. Once you are isolated from them for a while, you will realize that drug addicts and mentally ill people have a way of turning their mental illness into YOUR mental illness.

You have not failed at anything. You have succeeded in protecting these three women from the consequences of their own bad decisions, and you’ve done it successfully for over a decade. You did it by absorbing those consequences onto yourself. Doesn’t it seem strange to you that they have the (illegal) drug/violent/theft habits, and you are the one in jail??? They have the bad decisions. You got the consequences…

Men do not suck start a shot gun after putting themselves in jail, stealing from themselves, and disrespecting themselves. Women (like these) do that TO men like you. But it doesn’t sound like they’ll be doing it to you for much longer. High fiving you for that.

Welcome to mgtow my new friend. The abyss does not start here. This is where the abyss ends!

lowkey wrote:

The thought that having a life of my own is still so new that thinking about it makes me giggle like an idiot.

Yeah, I know the feeling.  I have been lovin’ every day since my divorce approx. 7 years ago.   I have freedom and haven’t looked back.  You will find (or perhaps HAVE found, excuse me) the same sweet liberty.

Guns are for the rifle range lowkey, I would certainly hope that you never do something you would regret.  A friend once said ‘Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem’.

I know it is easier said than done, but please don’t allow the women in your life to get the better of you.  Take some time to cool down if you feel angry.  Again…easier said than done.   Believe me – I know (and HAVE known) folks that find ALL the right buttons to push on me.   I have lost my cool too so I am not perfect.

I look forward to reading your posts.

lowkey wrote:

Since I have been reading here the mental switch has been unbelievable.The thought that having a life of my own is still so new that thinking about it makes me giggle like an idiot.

Isn’t it amazing that’s often ALL that’s required. A simple adjustment that can be brought upon at will. I remember the random Tuesday it hit me too. I was walking on my way to work and I had a great big smile on my face all the way there. I couldn’t contain it. It was “boss”.

lowkey wrote:

If I had not stumbled across this website I firmly believe I would have suck-started a shotgun by now. Not because of being depressed or suicidal but being so mentally/emotionally exhausted for so long.All the effort , not having any selfworth in my own life, everything being about and for those three females.In the end it was not worth it, and I still failed.

You did not fail. It’s not YOUR fault! How awesome is that! Drop the baggage and relieve yourself of all the accepting personal responsibility for s~~~ you DID NOT DO WRONG. Making an effort to make things work is not a fault. It’s a glorious positive quality and one you should never lose…. but redirect it — to make sure YOU are the recipient of that effort first and foremost.

The rewards are unimaginable.

So glad you found your way here and you’re giddy looking forward to the days ahead.

Loved your intro. Kick your shoes off and enjoy your stay. It’s International MGTOW Day.

******I lost my temper and got arrested for dv ******* still not allowed in my own home.If I had not stumbled across this website I firmly believe I would have suck-started a shotgun by now. My apologies for the rambling nature of this post , and again thank you.

Hey Brain, where were you when I was pull starting a pistol?

Hey Lowkey, I was arrested also, thanks to a trigger happy women, more than 20 years ago. I freed myself, long before MGTOW became a word. All I can say is RUN, if not FLY!`

You owe us “NO apology”! You owe yourself, “NO apology”! Therefore “apology” out the window! We’re more than thrilled the see another brother pulled from the SEA OF INSANITY, and given a new platform in life, YOUR PLATFORM, look around, It has a great view, and it’s stable, not shaking and rocking to and fro, you’ll enjoy life for a change, s~~~ I’ve been giggling the whole while from my “STABLE PLATFORM”! Drugs and any kind of chemical addiction is the DRUG ADDICTS PROBLEM, not your! Drop that bag of s~~~, and WELCOME to MGTOW!