X) You haven’t waited long enough since she’s had the baby. How long as it been? 6 months? 2 months?

A) She’s telling you it’d be okay if you f~~~ed someone else because she is already.

B) She’s telling you it’d be okay if you f~~~ed someone else because she is already.

C) She’s telling you she wants you to spend all your energies on HER things, and then take your sex elsewhere so she can feel guilt free while looking for another man to replace you with.

D) Have you ASKED why she isn’t having sex with you?

E) If she’s not giving up sex, and you really want it. Leave. Pay Child support. Find other women.

Disclaimer: Women won’t want to have sex after just having a baby, I’m not sure about before. Also, when was the last time you had sex? How many months old is the child? Have you asked her why she doesn’t want to have sex?

she says that we aren’t intimate more often because we don’t have enough of those things to begin with.

This does not count as an answer as to why she’s not having sex with you. You must elaborate on this, this … honestly.. tells everyone nothing.

Exsliventxs wrote:

Possible scenarios. X) You haven’t waited long enough since she’s had the baby. How long as it been? 6 months? 2 months?

I think this is the most likely of all scenarios mentioned.  I realize that the change in a womans body lowers her interest in sex and especially because she is exclusively breastfeeding i think it perpetuates it.  the baby is 5 months old so i feel that it hasn’t been enough time for her to totally regain her desire but i also feel enough time has passed that more should be going on than does.

Exsliventxs wrote:

porky ryan wrote: she says that we aren’t intimate more often because we don’t have enough of those things to begin with. This does not count as an answer as to why she’s not having sex with you. You must elaborate on this, this … honestly.. tells everyone nothing.

well she thinks we spend more energy being divisive, arguing and not getting along than doing things that would bring us closer and create a feeling of intimacy and arousal in her.  i try to do the things i think would help but it ultimately results in a fruitless labor which makes me less apt to try more.  i don’t think she is with anyone else now but i believe if i did find another woman to have sex with she would use it to justify any of her future course of actions away from or against me.  so this is a total bulls~~~ test right?

Women who push you into other women’s arms when you’re the FATHER of the child?

Are you f~~~ing serious? RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG!

All you have to do is spend half a second thinking that one through. Obviously a trap.

Explain to her that you understand if she isn’t feeling sexual so soon after the child has been born, ask her for a BJ out of consideration to help hold you over until she’s feeling intimate again.

If she says no, then don’t argue over it. Just nod and then start focusing on you, because she clearly doesn’t give two s~~~s about you.

By focusing on you I mean, start plotting your escape and follow through.

Then leave asap and keep paying that child support.

TRICKS THEY WILL PLAY

When women learn they’re about to lose their comfy surroundings they begin to barter and beg. This is a LAST ditch effort to CONTROL YOU. If you buy into any of her s~~~ at this point, you’re no better than a stupid bitch who gets beaten and keeps running back to her physically violent partner. In this case it’s emotional neglect.

She will say anything and everything but just remember, when you asked her about the BJ out of consideration because she’s not into sex she said no, so clearly she’s not concerned with your well being. Be a brain here, don’t ask her for a BJ when she’s doing something, ask her when you’re both in bed at night.

If she doesn’t seem bothered by ANY of this, then it’s a double sign you need to leave. From this point on, do not be alone with her as she can make up charges against you that will hold in court, even if it is only your word vs hers. I suspect she won’t, as she’ll want child support.

Exsliventxs wrote:

Women who push you into other women’s arms when you’re the FATHER of the child? Are you f~~~ing serious? RED FLAG! RED FLAG! RED FLAG!

If you go off and do anything with another woman, you basically target yourself for future abuse and “emotional” ammunition.  The whole “well you did it, so will I” card will be played and it is a nasty downward spiral.

Exsliventxs wrote:

When women learn they’re about to lose their comfy surroundings they begin to barter and beg. This is a LAST ditch effort to CONTROL YOU

Emotional control example at its finest.  In fact, I wonder if a sticky post could be made, like a Wikipedia, of womens s~~~ tests, psychological games and the possible meanings and course of action?

There is a very real possibility that something more insidious is going on.  She just had a child 6 months ago and is inviting you to have a sexual relationship(s) outside of your current relationship.  At a time when a woman frequently feels the need to keep her man close because she has an infant child and your proximity makes her feel secure physically and emotionally, I would be more apt to believe that she urinates on your shoes to mark her territory.

Something is not adding up here.  Now I am going to ask a question that only you can answer, and if you are offended then I heartily apologize.

Could she be having an affair already?  Check her cell phone or email if you can access it.  Sometimes women cheat at this time in a relationship because they are searching for validation.  They seem to forget that a man committing their lives to them and children is a huge undertaking, and this fact doesn’t fill the howling emptiness that is the soul of modern women.

Could the baby belong someone else?  I would recommend getting DNA test.

I am 47 years old.  I was no angel when I got into my marriage and am definitely no angel today.  Experience tells me that a woman in this vulnerable time would not let her man do such a thing unless they are already looking at your replacement or are Coo Coo for Cocoa Cocoa Puffs.

… Something is not adding up here…

I agree. Like Admiral Akbar said …