If you have to answer NO to these questions, it is time to GTFO now and GYOW.  And don’t look back, and don’t be like me and waste half your life trying to figure it out. Be wise, my friend, and learn from the experience of others:

1. Do you believe that her wants, needs, and feelings are more important than yours?

2. Do you believe that her hopes and dreams are more meaningful than yours, especially when she does nothing to pursue them?

3. Do you believe her concerns and grievances are more legitimate and in greater need of redress than yours?

4. Do you believe it is your responsibility to cater to her petulant whims and unreasonable expectations and calm her temper tantrums whenever she feels unhaaaapppy?

5. Do you really want to be with someone who makes you miserable?

6. Do you think you are helping the situation by staying married to a woman who believes that YOU are the source of her misery?

It’s never too late to reclaim your life. After all, it’s YOUR LIFE.  Who do you want running it??

@cato,”6. Do you think you are helping the situation by staying married to a woman who believes that YOU are the source of her misery?

For the new younger arrivals, this also helps in the format,”6. Do you think you are helping the situation by marrying a woman when in 80% of divorces, they believe the MEN are the source of their misery?

Anyhow, good luck with the GYOW.

Gynocentrism begins in the home. Sadly, I come from a female-sibling-dominant “family”, that is of the female, by the female, and for the female. This has had a VERY negative effect on my life, and I therefore boycott “family” functions, which of course are run by females.

I responded to this comment but decided it was worthy of its own thread. You’ll find it @ http://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/growing-up-in-a-female-dominated-home/

I think I am immune to ever getting married, because I operate under an assumption that whatever woman I would ever marry, there would be a mutual working out of situations where both sides get what they want, and it is a power play. Any woman who I can’t connect with this way, I am not going to consider. I am now in my late 40s and never been married, so I guess this approach works great for keeping me single. Anyhow, good luck with the GYOW.

I agree that negotiation (“a mutual working out of the situation”) should be the gold standard telling us whether or how much we can deal with another person.

Naturally, two people can’t come to agreement on everything. There are times I’m going to butt heads with people around me on principles, beliefs, baggage, etc. It’s okay to “agree to disagree” on some things. We can just put those things aside or draw a boundary there, assuming they aren’t critical to the relationship.

But the basic principle of any relationship should be that *most* areas of interaction should be subject to honest and fair negotiation. If the other person regularly  refuses to negotiate and instead demands that I yield rights or space simply because they are too traumatized or rigid or PC or whatever to consider my side of things, then more and more of the relationship gets “put aside” and more and more boundaries are raised between us.

If that continues, then at some point we’re just living side by side with a dividing boundary drawn down the center of our common space. We’re just neighbors with a high wall between us. That’s fine, if that happens, but don’t call it a relationship or a marriage. And stay the hell off my property.