When we first met she told me one of the things that she found so attractive about me was that I was quiet.

One year later, this is now my biggest problem and the reason she is constantly nagging me and reminding me that “we have problems” after a long hard working day.

When I get home today, I’m going to tell her to kick rocks, and don’t bother calling me when you hit the wall either

I don’t know if you should be that harsh to her. Maybe you should be nice and tell her “Its not you, its me.”

In my experience,  that response is actually way more hurtful

Beer wrote:

I don’t know if you should be that harsh to her. Maybe you should be nice and tell her “Its not you, its me.”

In my experience, that response is actually way more hurtful

Yeah 🙂

When we first met she told me one of the things that she found so attractive about me was that I was quiet.

Your quietness was attractive so now she will change you and find you unattractive, and then dump you and you’ll end up with all the stress from being dumped.

One year later, this is now my biggest problem and the reason she is constantly nagging me and reminding me that “we have problems” after a long hard working day.

This is not your problem, it is her problem,and since you were quiet and she’s trying to change you, you are not even her problem. She is her own problem. She can rewire herself to be attracted to nonquiet guys and then go out and find one for herself.

Constantly nagging me…is this the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with?  It’s like she’s picked out a bald eagle and is p~~~ed because she can’t get it to balance a dog biscuit on it’s nose. Or like she picked out a golden retriever and is towing it behind her car 60mph because she wants it to fly.

When I get home today, I’m going to tell her to kick rocks, and don’t bother calling me when you hit the wall either.

IMO good decision. As Tom Leykis says, if you have to work and work and work on a relationship, is it possible that the two of you are not a good match.

Also, IMO how many elderly men can anyone find, who wish they had been more talkative more chatty etc.? Bitches be quick to shred men’s strengths, do not allow this.  Quiet = wisdom. Why were we given two ears and only one mouth. How many people lose careers/promotion/… by saying without thinking first.      think think think you can always vocalize later, but talk talk talk and all you will do later is quietly regret.

“””””””A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion. A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. A fool’s lips walk into a fight, and his mouth invites a beating. If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet. Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered. A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, and a rod for the back of fools. Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself. Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes. Whoever sends a message by the hand of a fool cuts off his own feet and drinks violence. Like a lame man’s legs, which hang useless, is a proverb in the mouth of fools. “””””””

For the life of me I never knew we were having problems until she said it.  I don’t ask of anything from her really.  I don’t expect her to cook or clean.   I guess we are having sex less but normally that would not be a problem.

It’s just annoying because she thinks I’m hiding something inside by not talking more,  but in reality I just want some peace and quiet.

She is a school teacher so she has the summer off.  Ironically all this s~~~ dis not start until she was not working.   It seems to me like she is constantly bored and is trying to blame her insecurities on me.

Women that create problems, so it can be so great when they are mutually solved, and then you can even have sex…………….Well those women create problems, period. She can, after you dump her, find someone else to reel in and then make problems for them…hopefully early enough on that they can dump her too.

It’s like you buy a car for $20,000 and the a year later it says, “No, I’m a $40,000 car”  “you owe me…”    Stick with your decision, while you are still the one in power.