If you were really smart and got some breaks you would divorce her now. She won’t get alimony, while highly unlikely, you might get alimony from her. Who ever strikes first wins in divorce.

Did it ever occur to you that she is being so cold because she wants you out and really doesn’t give a s~~~ what you want? If that’s the case, again, you need a job.

You know how we all say that women don’t really love men, just what they do for them. What do you do that she can’t do without? If it’s not much then why would she keep you around? This is how they think. All of them, even your special snowflake. She could dump you tomorrow for all you know.

If your disabled go on SS disability.

Realize happiness comes from inside you. She does not make you happy. She is simple her. There are many her’s out there and btw it’s not a competition who get’s remarried first when you divorce. It’s how much skin the guy still has on his back once she’s done with him in court.

In a way you are making your own bed. Change, go your own way, don’t let the door hit you on the ass. That means emotionally separating yourself from her, now.

Get a job, be happy because happiness is the best revenge.

Yet, I don’t want a divorce. But I can’t go on like this! I F~~~ING CAN’T! I know she will win!This is not a troll post! It’s my serious need for help!!

Ignoring all of this neediness, let’s get to the meat of the issue.

I CAN’T GET A JOB EITHER!

You are a man without options. That’s a s~~~ty place to be in. Ignore everything else, why can’t you get a job?

Having said that……

When she got back… you shouldn’t even have been home waiting for her.

Getting a job or being able to support yourself is NUMBER ONE. I don’t give a s~~~ what you have to do, pump coffee or sweep streets, start by being able to stand on your own two feet. NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN PUTTING YOURSELF IN A POSITION WHERE YOU CAN WALK ANYTIME.

Don’t even f~~~ing THINK about a blowjob until you are in that position.

DON’T EVEN THINK IT.

Starting now, your wife does not exist. You will read papers, go on craigslist, open a business, go ANYWHERE but the vicinity of your wife and don’t even think about her until you are employed in some capacity. When you have your first check, you will deposit 10% into an account that you will not look at for the next 10 years. You will do this with every check you get, and even when you really really need it… you will not touch that money under any circumstances. You will suck dicks for cash before you touch that account.

When you have your first $5000 you will leave your wife. You will just f~~~ing vanish from the face of the Earth. Stick a post it on the fridge or whatever and tell her you will not be seeing her EVER again. EVER. Get an apartment. And when you have put your first and last months rent down, you can have your first celebratory beer, because you are FINALLY FREE of that c~~~.

Report back when you are at this point.

Again. Please don’t listen to me. It’s only what I would do if I were you.

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And no fair “working from home” either. Get up at 7am, take a shower, brush your teeth and comb your hair, put on your best suit, pack a briefcase and go out and look for work until sundown… then come home and get online and look for work until bedtime. THAT IS YOUR JOB.

Now if you’re physically incapable of working (you’re a quadriplegic, for example) then that’s different. You’re damn well f~~~ed in that case. But if you can walk and speak English, you can find work… and the English part is optional.

Nothing else you think, say or do will mean s~~~ until you are employed at miminum wage or better.

tl:dnr forgot about “SHE needs to change”… the only person in your life who needs to (and can) change is YOU!

HR departments will do anything they can to avoid a lawsuit and accommodate the ADA.

A) out of the house – You are going to go bat s~~~ stir crazy sitting inside the same four walls all day every day. Your brain isn’t wired for that.

B) Busy hands – this is exactly what your brain is wired for. It doesn’t matter as much what you are doing as long as you are doing something. This is what the male brain is wired for. I know at least a dozen millionaires who won’t retire/quit their jobs. The two reasons they give are boredom and an absolute need to get out of the house (and away from the wife). You’d be better off volunteering as an unpaid intern somewhere, or as an unpaid apprentice learning a trade, than you are sitting at home.

C) A paycheck – which you need wether you are married or not.

Re-read Fenderson’s post above and get the hell out of the house.

Guys the wife will never change!

Uh, no… so don’t worry about it

She got back from a trip. I have been cool and kept my distant. Now that she is back I try to show just a little affection.

HUGE f~~~ing mistake, I can’t even begin to tell you how huge and degrading. ANY and ALL attempts at intimacy in your current position will be viewed as pathetic, just accept it now.

While she might be 5% better with little hugs she still is 95% the same with her coldness and disdain!

Here’s a free clue, because you serve no purpose to her utility-wise or emotionally, she has no use for you. In other words you are now in the same class as every guy she treated as beneath her.

SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE! WHY THE F~~~ DO I EXPECT HER TO? SHE WON’T! AM I THAT MUCH OF A DUMBASS???

No man, she’s not going to change, she is most likely already f~~~ing someone else. And yes you are that much of a dumbass.

Yet, I don’t want a divorce. But I can’t go on like this! I F~~~ING CAN’T!

and only YOU can do anything about it…..

I know she will win! She will find a new man and I will be alone!

She already won, she already has a new man if she didn’t she wouldn’t treat you this way.

I CAN’T GET A JOB EITHER! I AM F~~~ING SCREWED! WHAT THE HELL DO I DO??????

Start by ending the pity party. Your problem isn’t your problem, your attitude about the problem is the problem. Yes, you are very severely f~~~ed, but things won’t always be this way. It’s been said that a man’s attitude is reflected in his future. That being the case your attitude is what got you here, fix it.

What do I do with my feelings? What do I do with my desires? How the hell do I get out of this???!!!

You start by getting back into the logical side of your mind. You find a job, any f~~~ing job and you stay gone as much as possible until you get the money to break bad. Then you get the f~~~ out.

((DROPS MIC and walks off stage))

Thank you.

I will reply soon to all of you. Thanks for the info.
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KeyMaster please don’t use that word when referring to my w. Thank you. I will reply soon to all of you. Thanks for the info. <div id=”link64_adl_tabid” style=”display: none;” data-url=”http://www.mgtow.com/forums/topic/she-will-never-change-help/#post-23834″>50</div>

I do apologise on behalf of KeyMaster

So what would you suggest we refer to your wife as? Her Highness or Her Majesty? Do tell.