Ultimately I shut down my business because of some immature reasons. I sometimes look back today and wonder if I would’ve eventually made tons of money with it like I set out to, or if it would’ve fizzled out like my passion for it did. I guess I’ll never know. The point I’m trying to make is that I set out to do something, and I did it with a fierce and ferocious desire. I admit that a large percentage of my motivation came from the sexual energy I had for her, and also the revenge factor.

So with that out of the way, I wanted to talk about the future. Ever since becoming MGTOW, there has been a void in my life in terms of direction and desire. I love being MGTOW, and I am MGTOW for life. Hypothetically speaking, even if I wanted to go back to normal, I could never. How could I knowing what I now know? The problem though is that as long as I’m MGTOW, I have absolutely zero reason to impress females. There is zero desire to get revenge on them since I don’t care about them or even want them anymore. Therefore, there is zero sexual energy to motivate me to do great things.

What I want to know is how can I find that passion and energy that I once had? Where can I find it? Females don’t give it to me anymore, so where can I find a similar burning motivation, similar to that of which I had when I was a teen? I am kind of drifting through life right now and could use some advice from some MGTOW brothers. Thanks.

Would you rather have the drive re sex or feeding a village of orphans somewhere.

Giving someone on the edge a chance to live again.

Holding a persons hand while they pass away with you in their hearts.

There are many many things that give far better drive.

For me it’s helping the San Bushmen in Namibia Africa. It is one of the best things I’m doing with my drive and it far out performs sexual motives.

Sex energy drive is a very real thing!.   Porn isn’t the way ahead for me as i’ve really wasted no end of ‘creative energy’.  How do we harness it and direct it would be a good question for me too……

Nice post!

There are many many things that give far better drive.

I’m pushing myself for my graduate degree.  I have the desire to counsel veterans.  Something I can relate to, and believe that others can get well and stand on their own feet.

I socked away enough money to last a lifetime in my 20’s by living frugally and NOT shacking up with or marrying a woe-man.  My passion is learning new things and I work for the challenge of problem solving.  I’m in my mid 40’s now.

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I want a man who’s kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a millionaire?
Zsa Zsa Gabor

Now, you get Released from Prison to a new world. It works diffreent. the same Motivations that were appropriate in Prison, are harmful outside of it. You now have to Learn “Yourself”.

Before, you were Motivated by “How another one see me” now you have to get Motivated on “how i see Myself” .  thats the Challenge you have to figure out.

I’m pushing myself for my graduate degree. I have the desire to counsel veterans. Something I can relate to, and believe that others can get well and stand on their own feet.

I can definitely see where you are going with this battle. You’ve managed to point me in the right direction once already.  Suffice to say, I think you are on the right road brother…

In the end, I found that I lost my ex, went into homelessness, soon after lost my only brother, then pretty much left the U.S. to go work in a third-world country to find work. I was bent, but not broken.   Little more than a year later I have an amazing job that paid for me to move to an amazing place and live/ work here. I’ve also enrolled in school begin a journey fulfilling a promise to myself to acquire a doctorates in this lifetime. S~~~, in the last two weeks I’ve learned to read sheet music and play rudimentary piano.

I say all that to show that sometimes you have to lose everything.  Lose your significant other, then your family, yourself, and finally, lose your mind in order to find yourself. But once found, never forsaken.